If someone was to do.....?

Question

If someone was to say be pregnant, and choose an open adoption, how can that make you feel knowing your baby is getting good care of and still being able to see it, has anyone ever done that or thought about it and got info. if so can you please tell me about it? Also If the dad wouldnt do the adoption can it still happen b/c your not married? or what? idk im just cerious and would love any good info on this. thank you!

Answer 1

I would say your age would be an important factor in some of these questions. If you are a teenager and just getting your life started? Or are you an adult that has had a child and not being at least somewhat involved would be extremely difficult?

My Son is adopted. His Mother stayed in town to make sure everything was OK and left town when He was 6 weeks old.

He has shown almost no interest in knowing her . His bio. father
was married and had a family she was a teenager.

So in our case this has worked out just fine. We were open to him knowing his mother. His Father may or may not have ever known about him.

The attorney had to advertise to try to locate him. But in many cases attorneys advertise in papers the average person does not read. Like the Wall Street journal. They meet the legal requirements.

Perhaps you can make an arrangement to get a birthday picture once a year, then the possibility of meeting him or her on their 18th birthday. Your life will go by faster than you think.

Answer 2

Wishing you all the best. Take good care. Here's an excerpt from a website on adoption:

Open adoption is often presented as the perfect solution, but it isn't the best choice for every situation. And although it's often a good thing, it can be difficult.

Open adoption should not be marketed to pregnant women/couples as a way to avoid all pain and loss - it doesn’t do that. It’s still adoption and it still hurts the parents. It may be the best possible solution but that doesn’t mean there isn’t sadness.
And adoptive parents - after the adoption - may feel confused and ambivalent about their roles and how to treat their child’s birthparents until they reach a sort of equilibrium.
In 1982, Kathleen Silber and Phyllis Speedlin wrote a groundbreaking book about open adoptions, "Dear Birthmother, Thank You For Our Baby," a book that opened an ongoing dialog that has increased in volume over the years. Silber and Speedlin present open adoption as being about love, honesty, trust, and communication. It is child-centered. It is about making a lifelong commitment - and it isn’t easy. No lifetime commitment is easy and this one, that brings to the fore our roles as parents - whether by adoption or biology - is one of the most sensitive and complex.

Answer 3

There is a really good artical in Parents Magazine about this. From what it said it was a long process of getting to know the parents that would be caring for her daughter. They basically became part of the family as well. However you have to understand that being a part of the child's life doesn't mean being it's parent. The adoptive parent would still have all the rights. If the father doesn't want the adoption he can fight it, just because you're not married doesn't mean he doesn't have the parental rights.
www.adoptionquotes.org
they offer lots of information about open adoption.

Answer 4

Open adoptions are emotionally draining. Either stay involved as a parent or walk away.

Answer 5

I think the father of the baby should have the say so in this too. I don't know if it is legal or not but it shouldn't be.

Answer 6

Both parents have to terminate parental rights to give a child up for adoption.

Read this about the topic:http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Open_adoption