Parenting - December 2006

My 5 year old daughter and my 4 year old granddaughter argue about everything. If one says it's black the other one says i'ts white.They were together tonight and all the adults were fit to be tied.We made them sit in time out and made them say they were sorry to everyone. 5 minuts later they were doing the same thing. help!

2006-12-11 16:16:21 · 5 answers · asked by MOM 2

My sister is older than I am, we both had our children young. My sister and her fiance broke up in january and she has been f^%king every guy in sight. She even had her children call the guys daddy. That's not my worry, it's my 4 yr old niece and 17 month old nephew. I called CPS on her ex fiance's house and now the children are not allowed back there until it's clean and they have beds of their owns in a bedroom instead of a living room. The house was hell, and I couldn't stand it anymore. Now my sister doesn't have the freedom to be with her boyfriend all the time. My mom is hearing impaired and my dad leaves to work at 2:30 am. My mom can't hear the children if something is wrong. My sister didn't even spend halloween or thanksgiving with her children. She was with her new boyfriend. She can go 2 weeks without caring about her daughter who was with my mom in Indiana. She never called. Now she has to change her work hours from 12 am- 9 pm. What can I do to talk some sense into her?

2006-12-11 15:33:12 · 11 answers · asked by fourcheeks4 5

i hear every now and then that video games causes kids to commit crimes,murder and such! thats B.S,its like guns....guns dont kill people,people kill people,and thats where parenting comes in,you can teach a kid right from wrong and when he sits down to play that violent game,if he was raised right and raised to distinguish right from wrong,he\she shouldnt have a problem going out in public and acting like an ***,just because he\she seen something on that video game,they know better,they just dont care because their parents dont!

2006-12-11 14:46:44 · 7 answers · asked by ss/rs 1

My son is 26 months and my daughter is 8 months. She was playing softly with one of the toys they both play with and he comes out of nowhere and shoves her head out of the way. He screams at her first..that's the battle cry and then charges at her. Even when I am in the room, which I am always with them he shoves her and pushes her and makes her fall on her head sometimes in the matter of 2 seconds, I try to step in and separate them and she's in the playpen, but even then she is getting hurt by him. I am putting him in time out all the time and I react quickly and tell him to be nice. Time out isn't working, and I don't want to spank him, because I have a short fuse. I find myself screaming at him telling him to stop all the time, and I hate screaming and constantly putting him in timeout. When she touches his toys he gets very rude. I'm pulling my hair out, and it's crying constantly 24/7 What do I do to make it effective to get him to stop hitting her?

2006-12-11 14:30:55 · 12 answers · asked by fourcheeks4 5

We have been friends since we were 7. I love her family dearly but fear for my own family now. I try to avoid as many situtations as I can but we are like family and invited to many of the same things. I won't put my 1 year old down when her children are loose because I am yelling at them non-stop to put him down, not push, hit or take things away from him. After a short visit with them my 3 year old act just like them for days after the visit. Its terrible. She hates confrontation and whenever I try and talk to her, she crys. Help!

2006-12-11 14:30:38 · 13 answers · asked by BlueFish 3

I'm only 23, not married, but talking about it with my boyfriend. He just started working in the real world as an attorney is very nicely compensated. We bought a house and the wedding conversations are very serious at this point. I am currently enrolled in a graduate program for human resources, and I'm "paying" for it myself (= LOTS of loans). I know it's a bit forward looking, but I do want to have children one day and I'm struggling with the choices that I am making now that might affect this. I am investing a lot of money into an education that I may not ever get a good return on. I want to be a stay at home mom if possible.
What would you do? - Stay in grad school and incur $40,000 of debt and force yourself to work OR quit grad school, get a job, starting saving big time and work up until you have your first child?
ALSO, any moms out there with an opinion on being a working mom or a stay at home mom... any advice? I'm really having a hard time with this choice.

2006-12-11 14:07:51 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

OK i just had a baby about 2 months ago and the man i thought was the father isn't. I kind of known since day one but just went along with it anyway. I deided to tell him when the baby was born, but other people said i shouldn't had said nothing and let that man be the father. THEY told me to lie to him again and tell him i just said that becuse i was mad at him for having another girl pregant, but the only reason i think they wanted me to say that is to save face for them, becuse one of them is dating his brother. So i went along with it anyway and reversed wht i said. I feel really bad becuse i know who the real father is and i can't tell him because all of the drama. They said that my son needs a father and if he is willing to go along with it no questions ask let him be the father. So i ask did i do the right thing? But even telling him that he hasn't baught the baby anything or even called to check up on him. So would you rather have him have no dad at all then to have a half ***

2006-12-11 14:04:04 · 19 answers · asked by mylipshot 2

i was flippin thru the channels and ran across the tv show the nanny,and i gotta tell ya, america is getn bad! so who out their needs a nanny to tell them how to make their kids behave? a good ol fasioned butt whoopin does the trick,at leased it did for me! i know its just a show but come on,these people are just plain clueless on how to raise their kids,whats this world coming too! i know in some states including mine,that if you spank your kid at the grocery store for misbehaving,and someone sees you and they think it wasnt necessary,they can report you to the authorities and they can have your kids takin away,thats B.S.! DONT TELL ME THAT I CANT DISCIPLINE MY KIDS!

2006-12-11 13:52:52 · 3 answers · asked by ss/rs 1

My husband and i are from america, we have had 3 kids, my youngest son has a slight british accent. We dont know how he has an accent. I thought that kids speak the way there parents do. He has had a little accent since he was little. Is this usual?

2006-12-11 13:39:09 · 29 answers · asked by Hayvynne Lachenski 1

Do you think someone should only adopt the race they are?

My husband and I are white and have one child of our own. We are looking in to adoption. I would like to adopt a minority baby (or even a baby or toddler that is labeled "unadoptable") what do you think?
Go ahead be honest...I really want to know, I may not agree with you, but I want to know your honest opinion.

2006-12-11 13:22:38 · 28 answers · asked by Who Me? 4

I have a child but i live with my parents....how do I ensure that my baby bonds with her father while i'm living with them? I only see him on saturday's

2006-12-11 12:54:49 · 9 answers · asked by Anushka 1

I know of a mother who had no patience for teaching her daughter how to do practical things that every other parent teaches their kids and she never ever allowed her to figure things out on her own - her mother insisted on doing EVERYTHING for her and never let her have responsibility at all. She was an only child - no pets, no friends, only her mother. Now she's about 15...the poor girl can't even use a can opener or hold a puppy without freaking out. She lacks judgement and is pretty dependent on others to help her with practical things. Do you think a WAY sheltered upbringing can cause this?

2006-12-11 11:29:59 · 8 answers · asked by -:- Masha -:- 2

My partner and I are both pre-op transexuals. We have discussed our sexuality with numerous children, and they all seem very understanding. However, we're afraid of a backlash from the adult non-transgendered community if we adopt some of the kids who come over to our place to "party." Do you think this kind of prejudice still exists, or are we worried about nothing?

2006-12-11 11:26:30 · 19 answers · asked by cdrfish6002 1

Is adopting a child against the Bible? What should you 'look for' in the parents and child before adopting????

2006-12-11 11:16:18 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

My two year old is tenacious to say the least. I punish or or discipline her for things she does wrong or things that are mean. She cries uncontrollably for hours. She takes herself so far she almost throws up. I am not against spankings, but she screams worse if I try that, and for longer. My issue is...I have a 1 year old girl as well...I don't want her to think that's ok. No matter what I say..."come sit by mommy" or "its ok" nothing works...the screaming persists. I am getting to the point where ppl come by and think I'm neglecting her b/c I don't run to her. I have a 6 yr old, 2 yr old, and 1 yr old...I can't run to her for little things like she was mad that she had to share and decided to scream for 3 hours. I've thrown my hands in the air! WHAT CAN I DO????

2006-12-11 11:00:10 · 17 answers · asked by SexyMommi 1

i cann0t decide whats to gets my kids for xmas? they keeps asking for things like moneys and lighters and stuff likes thats,,,,,i thinks ima goin to get my 2 dughters (natasha and sierra)) a cartons of malboros and maybe a mega packs of lighters to shared,,,but that still leafs Jon. he is picy,,,,i donnot now whats to get him? his is 15 yeers olded. he tolded me that he donot wants malboro. i cannot thinks of anything else??????????

2006-12-11 09:57:07 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have taken 3 pregnancy tests and all were negative. My period was a day late, and when it came it was a little lighter than usual. Should I be worried?

2006-12-11 09:29:11 · 6 answers · asked by motherrussia626 1

I am 22 and live in Wisconsin. A few friends have brought up the idea that I should babysit for all of them because I am certified to teach in a daycare and I get along well with all their kids.

I don't think my rate should be based on how many children there are total, something that was brought up by them. They were thinking an hourly rate, regardless of how many I had at once, allowing them to split the cost. I felt this was extremely unfair. At the same time, I don't know if I'd want to do a per day rate, another suggestion, as either they or I would get ripped off.

I am wondering what would be a fair rate (both for me and them) to charge?
Any idea what the average rate per child per hour is?

2006-12-11 09:25:13 · 9 answers · asked by ♫Hope♫ 6

I have a 5 year old and a 7 year old. My in-laws love to spoil my kids so much that when i pick up my kids from there house, they are expecting everything from me. Not that i dont give my kids what they need, but enough is enough. My daughter is a little over weight and I need to cut back on her eating but my in-laws will keep giving her food until shes already full to the max. My son if he asks for something they will go out the next day and get it for him. Now my kids for Christmas are asking for very expensive toys. How can I go about telling them to stop without them taking offense?

2006-12-11 09:05:12 · 10 answers · asked by ivonne 2

I try to stand her up but she just holds her legs up. i put her on her walking toy, she just sits down. I try to walk with her and she does the same thing. please give me some pointers because she is getting to heavy.

2006-12-11 08:57:57 · 21 answers · asked by ss 2

I go to bed between 9 and 9 30 and I cant seem to stay asleep I toss and turn all night and finally when I wake up Im really tired and I cant get out of bed. Im 13 years old and I dont take medication nor do I want to so please dont suggest take this for your sleeping problems.

2006-12-11 08:55:26 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Financially we do ok. We have to manage our money but we live well. We have three kids and we spent about $200 each on them for X-mas. I just spent $400 on a family ring for my wife. Part of me feels bad because I spent more on her than each of them. Is there anything wrong with this?

2006-12-11 08:47:46 · 13 answers · asked by Brian 5

im 13 and my parents have been abusing me since i was about 3 physicall, verball, and emotinal... they hit me ALL the time for no resson... like when i was 4 my mom was sooo mad at me 4 not eating my vegstables that she hit me soo many times that i still have a scare from it and then she told me 2 leave like she kicked me out of the house and i hid in a tree for like hrs... ive always just delt with it... but a few weeks ago my mom was hitting me all the time and she was saying horrible things 2 me everyday that i was so sad that i couldnt go 2 school and i was so scared of what was going 2 happen that i put a bookshelf in front of my door 4 a rlly long time... well my question is what would happen if i told some1? i kno most of the time they send u away 2 live with relatives but i dont kno any1 that lives in america and actully i dont have any that i have ever meet...and also what would happen 2 my parents? i rlly dont kno what 2 do and sometimes it gets rlly scary...what should i do?

2006-12-11 08:36:05 · 26 answers · asked by ... 6

My son is 2 and he is still on the bottle. I want to break him of it badly. I understand that he's way to old. the big reason I haven't taken him off of it yet is because at 7 weeks old he lost is twin brother to SIDS. Then his dad couldn't look at him because he always was thinking of his brother so he walked out on him. My mom died when he was 10 months old. when he has the bottle he feels safe. the olny time he has it is at night, and naptimes. My family looks at me like I'm nuts should i let him keep it or take it from him?? Please help. also what is the best way to get him off

2006-12-11 08:13:36 · 16 answers · asked by Jenny Q 3

basic parenting skills. It burns me up when I see people saying things like, "My child won't let me put a coat on them when it's 20 below zero outside". Or "How can get my child to stay in bed, they don't want to go to sleep and it's 2 in the morning." And, "My toddler refuses to stay strapped in her carseat..." It just drives me crazy when parents refuse to be parents! Our kids have enough friends and buddies, they need guidance and boundaries from their parents. But what always shocks me even more, is the number of people that provide them advice that just masks the real issue, "give them candy, just put more layers of clothes on, tell them you will buy them a toy, blah blah blah"! Sorry, I'm ranting, but I can't take it anymore today. Anybody else feel me on this? Please, I'm begging you, show me there are responsible, sensible people out there who know what it takes and do what it takes to be a parent, hahahahahaha.

2006-12-11 08:11:17 · 23 answers · asked by WREAGLE 3

We have a 2 1/2 yr old that is a very good boy, faimliar with time-outs, but when he hears a word like stupid, or dang-it from tv or others her thinks it is funny to repeat and repeat, we have tried time-outs, soap, which we just recently found out is a no-no, can you help us figure out what to do with our boy?

2006-12-11 07:52:13 · 11 answers · asked by Dee C 1

My wife and I think we are spending too much.

2006-12-11 07:18:24 · 15 answers · asked by randye009 3

I support the entire household as she is in school. In the past she was free to have boys stay, make noise, smoke pot etc. She is a decent kid, who has no problem being asked to clean up or make dinner. Last week we found out our neighbors had come to ask her to be quiet after midnight. Her dad asked her to keep it down and she was very nasty then told him that we better stop making the bed move during sex. We also found out she wasn't going to school so he tried to chat with her and she started again, told him he must buy her an alarm and slippers if he wanted her to go - even though he wakes her with coffee at 7:30. We plan to explain to her that at 19 she is an adult and with that comes privilege but also responsibility and we are willing to listen to her complaints and compromise on some issues.. She needs to follow us regards noise levels, clearing up and respect for other people in the house. And if she chooses to skip school then she must pay rent. Anybody help please?

2006-12-11 07:08:02 · 12 answers · asked by Julie 1

My parents have always been strict and overly protective but they were letting up since highschool on me or so i thought.I am 18 going to be 19 in a few months and commuting to college.My parents pay for almost everything school exc. so i have to respect there wishes. My relationship with my bf is failing though because i have a midnight curfew during the week and a 1:00 in the morning curfew on the weekends. My bf is 22 years old though and stays out till 3:00-4:00 in morning whenever he wants and does as he pleases.I have restrictions on everything and feel like a child!?how to deal!

2006-12-11 06:43:45 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

My son is 2 and his bilogical father has never seen him or take care of him, My child however has his lastname but his biological father is not in the birthcertificate. I got married and I have my husban's last name now, My husband wants my son to have his last name how do i go about doing this. Do I have to contact that missable person who hasnt care for his son, can i do on my own, or can i just change it or use my husband's last name? Please I need help.

2006-12-11 06:43:44 · 11 answers · asked by u_better_remember_me 3