I have a child but i live with my parents....how do I ensure that my baby bonds with her father while i'm living with them? I only see him on saturday's
2006-12-11 12:54:49 · 9 answers · asked by Anushka 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
That is a bond that can't be forced- let it happen on it's own. As long as the opportunity is there they should bond on their own terms.
2006-12-11 13:03:52 · answer #1 · answered by Crys* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get over it, it isn't about him it is about the best interest of the baby. Breastmilk is best. Feeding a baby that young a bottle can cause nipple confusion.I think your BIL may be exaggerating. I find it a little hard to believe that mom is holding baby 23 hours and 40 minutes a day or feeding her 24 times a day (if baby eats every hour). I BF my daughter for the first year. She is now 20 months and is well bonded with dad and they do great. I would advise him to hang in there. As baby gets a few more weeks under her belt she won't need to eat as much. The novelty of BF'ing will wear off. When baby is closer to 6-8 weeks it will be okay to introduce maybe 1 feeding a day with the bottle. Also there are other ways to bond besides feeding - Bathing, rocking, dressing, holding when sleeping.
2016-05-23 07:18:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest, when she sees him on those saturdays, that you allow him to hold her and play with her on those days. Even if she cries, let him continue to hold her. Do not interfere. With the living situation, this is the only way to do it for now, unless he'd be willing to keep her with him for a few days. Is there any possible way that you could spend a few nights at his place? That way the baby could be there with the both of you, and she'd understand. That is an option that you should consider as well.
2006-12-11 13:04:20 · answer #3 · answered by Yeeps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the child see pictures of Dad as often as possible, explain to the child who he is. When preparing to go to visit make a routinen so the child gets excited to go see dad. Make sure, if possible that dad can make some physical contact with the child, he must talk "to" him not "at" him. Tell Dad to tell the child oftenduring visits that he is the father.
2006-12-11 13:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by Tasty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make saturday their day. You can still go along but let him do most of the work/play. That's what we do. My hubby attends school fulltime and works fulltime as well. So he never gets to spend time with our daughter during the week but on saturday no matter what is happening it's their day. We go out as a family but he is in charge of our toddler the entire day. She loves it and he loves it. And I love it because I get a break : ). Good Luck!
2006-12-11 13:45:35 · answer #5 · answered by evilangelfaery919 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to court & get parent time ordered by the courts. That way your parents don't have much say in the thing. Unless he will hurt you or the baby daddy should be in his childs life; even if your parents don't like him.
2006-12-11 13:01:44 · answer #6 · answered by ancestorhorse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sometimes the baby will associate you with a specific scent, try giving him some of your cothes or perfume, so that the baby will be more familiar with him.
2006-12-11 13:03:39 · answer #7 · answered by Pastvarient 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well wen u see him give the baby to him and have him hold the baby the whole day
2006-12-11 13:00:32 · answer #8 · answered by E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant. Not under those circumstances. Not until the child is older and even then it would be like an uncle thing until he/she can understand.
2006-12-11 12:59:34 · answer #9 · answered by Melissa C 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋