Why are my parents doing this too me????

Question

My parents have always been strict and overly protective but they were letting up since highschool on me or so i thought.I am 18 going to be 19 in a few months and commuting to college.My parents pay for almost everything school exc. so i have to respect there wishes. My relationship with my bf is failing though because i have a midnight curfew during the week and a 1:00 in the morning curfew on the weekends. My bf is 22 years old though and stays out till 3:00-4:00 in morning whenever he wants and does as he pleases.I have restrictions on everything and feel like a child!?how to deal!

My dad said after next year when i am living at school i can do as i please as long as my grades are up to par till then he says its his house.

My bf is getting bored with me and i think he is going to dump me over this!

Answer 1

Doesnt sound like a bad deal to me. Remember your under your parents roof. You do as they say. Just cause he stays out later than you doesnt me anything. Maybe his parent dont care as much as your parents do about yuor well being and were about.

Answer 2

Their house, their rules. Move out if you have that big of a problem with following the rules. You should be grateful that your parents are paying for your school and stop behaving like such a spoiled brat when it comes to curfew. Your education is more important than a party or a boyfriend, and if kids like you, that already have the world on a silver platter, would realize that, the world would be a much better place. Midnight and 1 AM are MORE than reasonable, and you have no business being out later than that anyway unless you're looking to get into trouble. They're trying to keep their daughter from becoming a drug addicted, drunken good for nothing, or a baby momma with the baby daddy nowhere to be found, working two jobs just to make ends meet, by helping her get a good education.

Try going to school, working full time, having rent, car insurance, and other typical adult bills to pay like a significant portion of the rest of the world, including myself. That would change your tune real quick, considering you would have NO time for a social life in our situation.

Answer 3

Midnight curfew during the week and a 1:00 in the morning curfew on the weekends it's not bad AT ALL !
Your parents did not do anything wrong to you.
You are right, as long as they pay for almost everything you have to respect their rules.

Answer 4

I can understand how at almost 19 those rules can seem overly strict, but to me it is really just a case of being considerate of your parents. As long as you are living in their house, then it isn't too much for you to tell them where you are going and what time you'll be home. They probably don't really go to sleep (or sleep well) until they know that you are safely home. They shouldn't be expected to wait up until all hours of the night for you to come home. And although I'm sure you don't expect them to wait up on you, they are your parents and you will always be their child no matter how old you are. I think you should just try to be patient with them. Your only other option is to move out of their house and support yourself.

Answer 5

We I was 18 and living at home, my curphew was 12 also. My boyfriend had his own apartment. I fell asleep there watching TV a couple of times and came home late. My stepmom told me one night that I was grounded or to get out. The next day I packed up my stuff and moved in with my boyfriend. Everything worked out as we got married 4 years later and have been married for 20 years, BUT...... I always wondered.....If I had stayed home I would have had more choices...like going to college instead of working to make ends meet. So....be careful and make your decision for the long run. Your dad is right. You will be able to do what you want in another year. Enjoy having your parents love you enough to care! Time goes by faster and faster.

Answer 6

Probably because they care about you. Will your parents allow your bf to stay at your house after midnite so you can continue to spend time with him? Are you worried about what your boyfriend is doing in that time without you? Your relationship is NOT failing because you have to go in a few hours earlier than him.
Your parents are trying to do what is best for you and your future. They don't want you ending up like other girls (yes, some are still just girls) on here saying they are 14 and pregnant - what should they do??
Appreciate that they care enough. I know that is easier said than done but they are the ppl you are going to thank first for sticking by you and supporting you. Just trust me.

Answer 7

Unfortunately your parents do have a say in what you do while they are paying for school and while you are living under their roof. Why would you want to stay out until 4 am? 1 am on the weekends seems pretty reasonable. It is not like your parents want you home at 10 or something. Don't rush growing up. You will be on your own soon enough.

Answer 8

With college..etc, WHY would you want to stay out that late? What is there to do that late that can't be done earlier? Other than late night parties, which you shouldn't be attending THAT LATE during the week when you have class the next day. I TOTALLY agree with the weekday "curfew". I don't know about the weekend one, but I would have to hear his reasoning behind it. If you are still living at home, then it is their house, so they can set their own rules. I wouldnt want my kids coming home in the middle of the night waking me up.

Answer 9

They aren't doing it to you. If you don't like your parents' rules, move out, support yourself, get a job, pay for your own school and do what you want.

Stupid reason for your relationship to be failing - because you can't stay out as late as your bf. Besides, you're in school and should be concentrating on that and not out having a good time.

Your bf should respect your parents' wishes and have you home when you should be. Midnight weekdays and 1am weekends isn't that early. Why would he want to jeapordize your school grades?

What the heck, go shack up with him and deal with him coming home that late all the time.

Answer 10

You relationship with your boyfriend is not failing because of your parents. If he cared at all for you he would respect your parents wishes. The relationship is failing because your boyfriend is not a good guy.

I won't even go into why a 22 year old would date an 18 year old. But the word loser comes to mind.

Answer 11

If your boyfriend is willing to break up with you just because you have to be home at 12 or 1, he isn't the kind of guy worth worrying about. If he truly cared for you, he would respect that you need to be home at that time and enjoy the time he has with you. Maybe let him go an wait for someone who will like you for who you are in all respects, not just someone who wants you to stay out later so he can get some (and that IS why he wants you out later). I was the same way when my gf and I started dating and she still lived with her parents. All I was looking for was a little sumthin-sumthin.
As for your living arrangement, sorry, gotta agree with dad. You're living rent free at his place and he's paying for school? Sounds to me like you owe him at least the respect to be home at a decent time so he isn't worried about his daughter. Why do you need to be out past one anyway? Take it from someone who used to stay out until 4 in the morning - nothings going on that is of any use.