My sister is older than I am, we both had our children young. My sister and her fiance broke up in january and she has been f^%king every guy in sight. She even had her children call the guys daddy. That's not my worry, it's my 4 yr old niece and 17 month old nephew. I called CPS on her ex fiance's house and now the children are not allowed back there until it's clean and they have beds of their owns in a bedroom instead of a living room. The house was hell, and I couldn't stand it anymore. Now my sister doesn't have the freedom to be with her boyfriend all the time. My mom is hearing impaired and my dad leaves to work at 2:30 am. My mom can't hear the children if something is wrong. My sister didn't even spend halloween or thanksgiving with her children. She was with her new boyfriend. She can go 2 weeks without caring about her daughter who was with my mom in Indiana. She never called. Now she has to change her work hours from 12 am- 9 pm. What can I do to talk some sense into her?
2006-12-11 15:33:12 · 11 answers · asked by fourcheeks4 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My sister doesn't want to stay at home with the children and refuses to give up custody. She is a bad mom. I don't know what to do?
2006-12-11 15:34:06 · update #1
I just don't understand. She is the mother and she should take care of them. I have two children, and me taking care of them wouldn't show her that she needs to be with her children, it shows that she can be with her boyfriend.
2006-12-11 15:48:20 · update #2
I don't understand. I am the youngest in the family, but I am the most put together. I know what I see, and I see that nobody cares about the welfare of the children except for me.
2006-12-11 15:49:55 · update #3
It is hard to see this happen I praise you for having the good sense to call CPS You are right these children need more than what they are getting. Thank goodness for you and your Mom these kids would be lost with out you
2006-12-11 15:40:40 · answer #1 · answered by Nani 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've said before your mother let these kids drink bleach. While that may or may not be her fault she's obviously not the go-to person here.
Like another answerer said--you cannot make someone care.
If you care; take care of them. Take them into your home as your own even if it's just three nights a week. Be there for them.
I've done this with my cousin. While I used to hate being the go-to person with him. (As in being the automatic babysitter or being responsible all the time.) Now, I live with him thousands of miles away from his biological mother and his grandma--my aunt.
It all worked out and was hard but when you really care about them like I do for my cousin--you'll just take them out of the crap they are in now and be there for them as much as you can, if not all the time. Best of Luck!
2006-12-11 23:44:17 · answer #2 · answered by .vato. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My granparents got custody of me (at 11), my brother (9) and my brother and sister (both 4). Because my mother was unfit, she was doing drugs leaving us alone over night (like from 5pm to 6 or 7am) my grandmother was able to get custody and gave us the life we needed. I lived with my grandma until I started college. and my Brother and sister recently moved back in with my mom (at 14) because she straightened up. You may not teach your sister a lesson by taking her kids but you just might be saving thier lives. Good Luck to you.
2006-12-12 00:02:48 · answer #3 · answered by Who Me? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I too, have been through the horrible sister with kids scenario. About the best you can do is to continue to be a positive influence in the kids' lives. Eventually she may do something bad enough that her kids would be taken away, but in my experience that's not very likely to happen. Take the kids when you can, do things to spend time with them.
2006-12-12 02:13:21 · answer #4 · answered by CrazyBirdMom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think someone needs to start thinking of the children (as it sounds like you are) and stop worring about your sisters feelings. I would take her to court and fight for custody, something needs to be done. Best of Luck
2006-12-11 23:38:49 · answer #5 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the kids dad need to step up and get the kids or you do it. some one need to get the kids. she don't need them. go back to CPS and tell them everything that is going on there and let them send someone there to that house again. and maybe they will give you the kids.
2006-12-11 23:39:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone care. Call CPS again...on your sister.
2006-12-11 23:37:22 · answer #7 · answered by cinderella 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well you can try to adopt them or maybe the state will take them away because obviously your whole family is incapable of raising kids.
2006-12-11 23:45:37 · answer #8 · answered by Gabriella & Kevin 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
hi , look I don't know how old is your sister but just be there for her and the kids she will come to her senses but watch the kids real close for any signs of abuse or not being them selfs o.k god bless you for careing.
2006-12-11 23:42:06 · answer #9 · answered by bigmomma3526 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You can't make her care.I'd start writing down when she out and then take it to court. if she wont give them up , Take them from her.
2006-12-11 23:54:06 · answer #10 · answered by Jenny Q 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋