Parenting - July 2006

ok, this one is a doozy!
I have a dear friend who lived with a woman for about 2 years. they had a baby together. then she moved out after months of hellatious fights and violence on her behalf. there are other children involved. she has a son 9 years old. he has a daughter 12 years old. these children had to live through this mess too. the ex has outright accused him of sleeping with his daughter, which is completely unfounded!
now she wants him to pay child support and have no contact with the baby. PLUS she's pregnant again!
she's put him in the hospital twice already with anxiety attacks and pectoral angina. his health can't suffer her constant harrassment for money. he's already had to get a restraining order against this woman!
he's planning to relinquish rights to the second baby. I think he should relinquish rights to both since she doesn't want to let him be a part of his sons' lives. why should he have to pay out the nose for children he'll never get to see?

2006-07-27 14:57:49 · 16 answers · asked by ladrhiana 4

does anyone know how old you have to be to stay home alone legally in illinois without a baby sitter?

2006-07-27 14:11:43 · 2 answers · asked by i FOUND MA PRiNCE CHARMiNG♥ 3

2006-07-27 14:05:49 · 34 answers · asked by Tiffany K 1

2006-07-27 13:52:51 · 8 answers · asked by swtnlow99 1

what a pussy

2006-07-27 13:48:58 · 12 answers · asked by ryanconnarton 1

I have 1 daughter,age 15;and 3 sons,ages 7,11,and 12.I try so hard to keep my house up as much as possible.But it is so difficult,because,frankly...they do not care.They are always trashing the home.I know a family with 3 kids who simply HAVE given up,and live in a pig-stye.Should I do that as well?
By the way,I have taught them better...:(
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2006-07-27 13:45:57 · 63 answers · asked by MaryBeth 7

I am 8 months pregnant with our first child. Both his and my parents are really excited because this will be both of thier first grandbaby. My mom said shes going to work half days the week after we come home from the hospital so she can come over after work and give us a "break". I know she means well but my partner is taking two weeks off of work so he can stay home and bond with his daughter and I am so excited I can't imagine wanting to leave her for even an hour. Not only that but I can't feed her from a bottle for the first two weeks so its not like we will be able to go out or anything. Now his mom is talking about coming to our house all the time too. I know they mean well but I am not going to be feeling all that great and we really love our privacy. Should I talk to them about how much time they spend over here ahead of time or should I just let them come as they want until the new baby steam wears off a little?

2006-07-27 13:36:57 · 9 answers · asked by ashez 4

My husbands ex wife just gave him custody of their son 2 months ago. As far as I know she has called a couple of times, but has not asked for visitation with him. In the beginning she claimed to want to give him time to adjust, but She doesnt seem to show any feelings about wanting to see him now. Should we let it go until she asks for him or confront her about her lack of interest in a child she raised his entire life?

2006-07-27 12:29:03 · 10 answers · asked by LittleMermaid 5

My ex has never been a very involved father. We separated after only 3 months of marriage and I found out I was 1 month pregnant after I left him. He stopped calling me at 5 months pregnant. I filed for divorce a month after my son was born. My ex was given visitation, but he only exercised 4 weekends the first year and none the second year. He has been somewhat more regular since my son was 2, but by regular I mean every 3-5 months. He hardly ever calls my son and if he calls and we are not home, he claims that my husband and I are avoiding his calls. He has complained and made hateful comments about my mothering since our divorce. He thinks he would be a better father, but he cant even exercise more frequent visitations or phone calls. I know he resents me for divorcing him, but I gave him no promises of reconciliation. I get tired of hearing nasty things he says about me from my son. Should I just blow it off as immaturity or try to contront him for the 100th time?

2006-07-27 12:19:04 · 6 answers · asked by LittleMermaid 5

I have to threaten him constantly to make him do his homework. I threaten to take his TV away or I threaten to not let him go outside, or I threaten to not let him have a cookie, whatever I can think of I say to get him to do his homework. Why is there such a resistance? The school's consequence for undone homework is the student must do it during recess. I actually allowed my son (once) to turn in incomplete work so he could experience the consequence. He didn't like that one bit. I also help him whenever he needs help, no problem. Is this normal? Or, is my child being difficult. I don't think he should be rewarded for doing homework, especially when he gives me such a hard time every time. What do you think?

2006-07-27 12:04:21 · 21 answers · asked by whatzerface 3

i gave birth to my son 9 years ago and his father has had no contact with me or the child since, he hasn't even seen my son. Recently my sons grandparents on his fathers side have been taking an interest in the child and have initiallized contact. However the my sons father has now phoned me demanding a dna test. I will be consulting a solicitor but can anyone tell me whether or not this man has any legal rights over my son or whether he would have any case for contact. please reply as i am sick with worry and haven't slept properly in days thinking about this. Thank you for your time.

2006-07-27 11:53:28 · 24 answers · asked by shauneen 1

I'll have to find a website. I bet turban-wearers could answer it well.
Here's one - Ditch the runes and crystal balls, toss a towel and see how it lands.

2006-07-27 11:27:13 · 5 answers · asked by Chris cc 1

My parents make a lot of money, over 100k/year.

They go on trips to Hawaii every year along with my two little brothers, buy cars with cash, have a boat, and spoil my little brothers.


My brother, who is 12, had to go to the orthodontist. He was told he had a horrible overbite among other things and he is chipping his teeth really bad. He was told that he needed braces.

He went to 3 orthodontists and they said the same thing. They all quoted my parents about $6,000 for the treatment.

My parents said it was too much and are not getting him braces.

I think they need to get their priorities straight. I mean buying my brother a billion video games and not investing in his teeth? What's next, not paying for cavaties to be filled? They are not poor people!

What do you think about this?

2006-07-27 11:25:14 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

i asked a question about what i should do my kids forn tea so i can go out and i get i shouldnt go out if i got kids i am a single mom and i rarley go out so what is there problem obivousley they dont have kids or have no social life does anyone else agree that parents especally single parents need a life too

2006-07-27 11:19:19 · 19 answers · asked by jenjen the one and only 3

Do you think it's okay for young boys/girls to have sleepovers with each other? I'm talking about kids around the age of 6 who want to have their friend of the opposite sex sleepover. My best friend has a little boy, and I have a little girl and we're wondering if this is appropriate. If you feel it is okay, would you have the kids sleep in seperate rooms? Any thoughts or experiences on this would be helpful. Thank you.

2006-07-27 11:13:54 · 21 answers · asked by Melissa 7

my daughter is afraid of everything and comes in to my room through the night 10 times i have a 3 month old and now my days im so tired how do i get her to sleep in her bed all night and any sure fire cures for bedwetting?

2006-07-27 11:05:02 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

IS THERE ANY SINGLE MOTHERS OUT THERE THAT ARE WILLING TO SHARE THERE STORY WITH ME? I AM A FIRST TIME MOM WITH A SON BY MYSELF. I'M GOING THROUGH TOUGH TIMES AND I NEED SOME ADVICE ON HOW TO GET THROUGH THHIS, PLEASE HELP ME

2006-07-27 11:01:32 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I addressed this in an earlier question, Problem vs. the Solution. You can check that out to see my situation if you want, or you can just answer. Either way you get points..

2006-07-27 10:38:30 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-07-27 10:29:03 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 19 and my parents spanked me until I was 17. I have younger siblings at 12 and 15 that are both still spanked. It is an effective punishment, but at what age should parents stop? I'm in a seriously relationship now, and have been starting to think about marriage and kids. The thing is is that at about 12 or 13 I felt a little violated when spanked, but I grew out of that around 16 and realized it was just my parents way of correcting me, even though I hated it, I knew and know they did it because they loved me. I got close to straight A's, and go to a good school now, and both my brother and sister do very well and school and don't screw around with drugs or anything. So I do think spanking is a good thing, but when should it stop? Even though it still worked at 17, is that too old?

2006-07-27 10:15:17 · 15 answers · asked by Tyla 2

OK here is the deal...I took my dog to the vet and she wasn't exactly happy and the vet hit her! Can you freaking believe it! I left, I told him we would not be bringing our animals back and I would tell everyone I knew about him. What I want to know is: can I post signs around town, you know like hang them up in the library, grocery store, dry cleaners stating what he did and advising ppl not to go there or would this be slander (even though it is true) and could he sue me? I don't want to sue him since my dog was not really hurt but I would like to see him put out of business. He really does not need to be working with animals!

2006-07-27 10:06:30 · 13 answers · asked by beth l 7

You know that half the time that its a lie. "oh I can't find a babysitter" "oh my kid is sick"

Does anybody else see something wrong with this?

2006-07-27 09:35:19 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

it's kind of racy, all of that "begat-ing", and the violence, oh dear.

2006-07-27 09:26:46 · 21 answers · asked by Kenny ♣ 5

Has nybody have anything bad happen during the pregnancy of your unborn?? my mom died suddenly jan 29, 2006 and i had to be induced with my son feb 3rd in order to attend the wake and funeral. I feel i got robbed and i am constanly reminded how long it has been since my mom died...all i have to do is look at my son and remeber how old he is...i don't resent him at all, he is my life...i just wish my mom knew her grandon and watched her favorite granddaughter(my 8 yr old daughter) with her new brother.

2006-07-27 09:15:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

She has an imaginary who she is always talking about. I'm not sure what to do. Any ideas?

2006-07-27 08:36:01 · 30 answers · asked by meg 1

The reason I ask is because i have a 9 year old daughter and I've begun noticing that she's having mood swings. If things go her way she's a great person to be around but if they don't she has a attitude. I started noticing when i tell her to do things or ask her to do things I hear the huffs and puffs. (she does the same with her dad). You can't say anything critical to her because she takes everything so personal. She's interested in boys now and talks on the phone with her friends. i even notice her gossiping. Now if she was 13 or 14 i would know that this is regular behavior for a teenager, but I can't remember being this way at 9. I was telling a co-worker of mine that Im finding it harder to have something nice to say to my 9 year old but its like my 2 year old is GREAT. and she's a terror (terrible two). I need some help on understanding if there is a pre puberty stage that kids go through or what?

2006-07-27 08:25:36 · 21 answers · asked by tythegemini 2

2006-07-27 07:52:20 · 19 answers · asked by Sugar Cat 1

what else can i do? help please terriable 2!!!!!!

2006-07-27 07:29:10 · 26 answers · asked by playgurl pooh 1

I have a lot of kids.
Bethany, 8
Nick, 5
Tyler, 3
Nigel, 2 months
Gabriella, 2 weeks ADOPTED

I feel like they don't get enough attention, but Nigel and Gabriella get a lot from other people, most people think they're twins because they look a like so much ( their cousins) and Gabby's big and *** was small. So they look a like!

What should I do???

2006-07-27 07:17:03 · 9 answers · asked by ♥ Ava ♥ 3

I am a mature, smart and responsible 26 year old woman. Yet, my Mom still treats me and speaks to me like I am an idiot child. She says it is because I lived away for 6 years, so in her mind I am still a child, even though I have lived close to her now for a year. I have many friends who have the same problem. Why do Moms think thier daughters are stupid, immature and never good enough? Why do they disrespect us so much?

2006-07-27 07:01:33 · 22 answers · asked by Juniper C 4