I have to threaten him constantly to make him do his homework. I threaten to take his TV away or I threaten to not let him go outside, or I threaten to not let him have a cookie, whatever I can think of I say to get him to do his homework. Why is there such a resistance? The school's consequence for undone homework is the student must do it during recess. I actually allowed my son (once) to turn in incomplete work so he could experience the consequence. He didn't like that one bit. I also help him whenever he needs help, no problem. Is this normal? Or, is my child being difficult. I don't think he should be rewarded for doing homework, especially when he gives me such a hard time every time. What do you think?
2006-07-27 12:04:21 · 21 answers · asked by whatzerface 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I have had (and still do have) this issue with my now 11 year old. How does your child do on tests in class? It may be that he is board with the school work, that it is too easy for him. One of the problems with public education is that they teach to the students who have a harder time with the work and forget about the students that are very bright. If the work is too easy, the child sees no reason to do it "Why should I do it when I can get A's (or Bs) on the tests?"
You said that he did not like the consequences of sitting in during recess to complete his work. Perhaps you want to do that a few more times.
Another suggestion that was made by one teacher was to create a reward system (i hate them too) that worked on a weekly basis at first, then a bi-weekly etc. The reward could be something as simple as a new book that he wants (even a comic book). Provided he does his homework every day, without having to be pushed and prodded about it, at the end of the week, he gets his reward. For my son, this did work for a time, until we got past the bi-weekly and started the reward every 3 weeks.
I wish you luck. this is one of the worst things about being a parent :(
2006-07-27 12:16:21 · answer #1 · answered by tg 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for a child not to want to do homework. However, I am wondering if this is a new behavior for him. What I mean is, did he hate doing his homework in first grade? It could be that there is some influence at school that is causing him to not want to do his homework. However if this is a regular routine with him then I would do the following. Set limits (No TV or Video Games until all homework is done). Set rules (4-6 pm is homework time). I don't allow my children to play video games at all during the week. I found that they were rushing through homework in order to play. Let him know how important it is to do well in school. Be firm. Be consistent. I think he will come around.
2006-07-27 20:05:41 · answer #2 · answered by reneelost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
threats are not good...could be considered verbal abuse now adays...let's see,,,,Yes it is normal for a second grader....why is there such resistance??/you ask??? because it is normal after a long day at school to not want to do the homework! Let him go out and play for a couple hours before doing his homework...that way he will be more than likely to tackle it...But some kids will never do homework...You child is not being difficult...It is once again normal...if you do not make a big deal out of it, maybe he will want to do it...Give him nuts and some gatorade while he is tackling his homework...i always loved it when my mom did that!!! she was wonderful!!!
2006-07-27 19:13:08 · answer #3 · answered by sweet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal - no kid wants to do homework when they could be playing.
You dont have to reward him - but some praise would go down equally as well. Threats only have a short term effect - because after a while the child sees they are meaningless and can be overcome - hes testing you.
Instead of saying " you cant have a cookie unless you do your homework -" , why not try "hey if you do this for me - you can have a cookie!!" and when he does it - say wow , youve done a really good job im proud of you!
2006-07-27 19:10:51 · answer #4 · answered by animationfreak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm no expert but I would suggest seeing if you son has trouble with school. Maybe there is something bothering him...he could be being picked on, not understand the material, maybe he is bored and needs to be placed in a higher grade. I know when I was in grade school I was terrible at grammar because I needed glasses. I couldn't read the black board from my seat so I couldn't learn the material.
I wouldn't think you should be overly concerned but you ought to investigate the possibilities of certain problems. Perhaps you should meet with his teachers or principle. Whatever you do, try not to be too hard on your son. I doubt he's just being difficult. Good luck!
2006-07-27 19:15:27 · answer #5 · answered by Spirit_of_1776 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its sometimes completely normal for them not to want to do homework. if he needs help-then help him just don't give him the answers.. ALso what I did- is I would sit my son down as soon as he got home from school& he would not get up- ok bathroom sure-until he was done. Snack when done then TV- if you have to threaten to not let him watch TV or go outside and its working--keep it up- Eventullay it will be habit forming- especially is highschool- he'll come home and do it without being told
2006-07-27 19:11:04 · answer #6 · answered by bugz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We went through the same thing with one of our children. He even went so far as to try and lie about getting his work done in school just so he wouldn't have homework. I started calling his teacher everyday and the days that he should have brought work home and didn't he got busted and punished. What finally worked was the threat of summer school. At the last PTC of the school year his scores were just below average and the teacher suggested summer school. After that he worked his tail off and the problem was solved.
2006-07-27 23:50:37 · answer #7 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is definately normal. Of course, a child who is used to having fun most of the time is not going to be accustomed to the sudden change in responsibility. The child with the new found responsiblility is going to avoid it because they are used to their parents handling the busy work. You just have to get the child in the habit of doing homework first thing when they get home from school, that way they will maintain this later in life.
2006-07-27 19:10:22 · answer #8 · answered by Pawl M Davis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
basically he doesn't like doing it. he's been at school all day and can think of better things he'd prefer to do. when he handed in the incomplete work he said he didn't like the punishment but obviously it didn't stress him too much. don't turn it into a war zone. tell him he's got a set time to do it then he can do something of his choice. if it is becoming a war zone talk to his teacher maybe it's hard for him so he's acting up. with kids you never know what's going on in their head until you ask them.
2006-07-27 19:13:42 · answer #9 · answered by gonetotallymad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's completely normal. What kind of child actually ENJOYS doing homework? I know I always hated it.
...BUT, the way you described it, it seems like his behavior is a bit more serious than the average "I dont want to do my homework" behavior all children have. Maybe he has ADHD. Go get him tested.
Just so you know, there's nothing wrong with having adhd. I have ADHD, So does my sister, So do most of my friends.
Good luck!
2006-07-27 19:09:44 · answer #10 · answered by Stella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋