im 16 and i have a 2yr-old she'll be 3 sept.19, she is bad as HELL i try not 2 whoop her all the time!?

Question

what else can i do? help please terriable 2!!!!!!

Answer 1

hey i have a 2 year old son who will be 3 in december im 20 and i know how u feel the terrible 2 stage is the worst i try not to whoop my son all the time either i use other methods like taking his toys away or i make him stand in the corner some think it harsh but i be damed if my child gon run all over me we wont be on the maury show talkin bout my son is 5 and i cant control him can u please help. we just have to show our children who is boss we dont want our kids to be scared of us but we cant be scared of them either and i think that if we continue to do our part as parents then the kid will get the message and hey if it means a sting on there lil buns with the belt then so be it

Answer 2

Disregard all comments about your age is the first thing to do. I believe that patiences and understanding is the key. I have a 4 year old daughter and a son on the way. My daughter was simply terrible! I learned that spanking do not help. Appeal to her emotional side. Girls especially can understand emotions better than spanking. I would tell him that she hurt my feeling and that I need for her sit in the "Alone Zone". She would sit there for about 2 or 3 mins (can't make a child sit in time out for longer than there number of years). I asked her if she could be nice after her time was up. Now, my child has decent behavior and excellent emotional understanding. Oh yeah, don't call your child "bad" if that is all she hears, that is all she can be and make sure to give her more praise for the things that she does in the day than the bad. Tell her that she isn't being nice, so when she does happen to hear the words "bad" she will have a instant response and look to correct it quickly.

Answer 3

Remain calm, dont let her see she's getting to you. She's goin to start her terrible two's now so this could last a minute! She will grow out of it, and she will temporarily drive you crazy, but it is only temporary. If you have someone who can give you a break now and again make use of that person. Remeber its not that you have a bad child, its just her age. She's learning how to excersise her own mind, so it is an important learning stage that she is at. She is not deliberately being malicious, she is just being two. They dont call it terrible 2's for nothing! Every parent has been there, and every parent got through it! Just be patient and calm with her, the more upset you get, the more she'll act out. Ignore her when she has tantrums and make sure you discipline her when she is doing something dangerous. Try to ignore her if she acts out in public, otherwise she may feel humiliated and get angry, which will make her worse. Chastise her at home, take her toys away, send her on time-out. You have to be persistent, dont give up. Its a TEMPORARY situation which she will grow out of you just need to handle it in the right way. Good luck!

Oh, and for all these people who are doing nothing but commenting on your age, PEOPLE - SHE HAS ALREADY HAD THE CHILD. YOU BELITTLING HER IS NOT GOING TO HELP ANYONE. SHE CANNOT GIVE THE CHILD BACK OR GO BACK IN TIME. AT LEAST SHE IS TAKING CARE OF HER RESPONSIBILITY AND ASKING FOR HELP - HOW CAN YOU ALL CHASTISE HER FOR THAT?

Answer 4

First off, your little child is not BAD, children are like this (terrible twos, y'know?) and they cannot help it. Two-three year olds are just known to be hard to handle. The best thing to do is take a deep breath and smile. Remember, you're the Mom. Make her a "safe room". The less things you have around for her to get into, the less you will have to be chasing her. Do not whoop her or hit her in any way. That teaches kids to solve problems by hitting. Try to be happy and make a happy life for your daughter. The screweder up they are, the worse it will be when they are grown up and giving you trouble. Keep your cool head and good luck!

Answer 5

That's what happens when babies have babies! I feel for you but you need some help! You are so young that i doubt you will suddenly develop the patience it takes to handle the terrible two's. In the meantime you have to remember that she is not bad. She barely even understands the difference between bad and good. She is just exploring her world and discovering the limits.
If you are concerned with doing other things besides taking care of her you will get angry and impatient with her experimentation. you need to realize that children, especially at this age, need your constant attention. Constant gentle reminders of what she can and cannot do, combined with alot of hugs and reassurance, will go alot farther than "whoopin'" her all the time. Do not "whoop" her at all. the occasional light little spank on the diaper will get her attention when you really need to.
The people answering this question can't do math. She was 13 when she had this child----13!!!!!!

Answer 6

She's acting like a normal 2 year old...obviously her mother was much too young and immature to have her right? Now you are learning what it is to be a parent. If you are "whooping" her at all you are abusing that child. You obviously need parenting classes and a good dose of anger management. Your daughter is acting like most 2 year olds and you are beating her for it. I suggest you talk with your peditrician and come clean with the beatings. The doctor can steer you in the direction of parenting classes that will help you to rasie this child properly.

Answer 7

There is a yahoo group in here somewhere for teen parents, you should check that out. Also check for parenting classes in your community. Two is a really hard age for all parents, just be patient with her and show her lots of love. Don't be afraid to ask for help from real people instead of Yahoo Answers people who can be very mean because they don't know you or your situation. Make the best of being a mom, you guys get to grow up together and that has the potential to be really special.

Answer 8

well i certainl;y dont agree i was 16 when i got pregnant just because she s asking how to go about it doesnt mean she cant cope i coped very well and now shes 9 years old i dont regret a thing and all 2 year olds are like that you just have to be firm and say no sit her down on a nuaghty step and explain what shes done wrong dont forget shes still only a baby and there all like that its called the terrible twos good luck

Answer 9

Babies having babies. Well, first off you need to be consistent. Have a naughty area. Keep sitting her there...it will be hard at first but she will learn the consequences. NEVER hit or yell at your child. I know once I have a child that if they do something wrong, I WILL take away their favorite toy. Learn to ignore their cries. Anyway, being consistent with a "naughty" area will help her learn and get on her level and tell her how you feel in terms she can understand.

Answer 10

aside from keep your vagina closed? go google behavioral modification, that will help you to discipline the child without "beating" them. Further more remember "Consequences" work, not "punishment". Example: If A (clean room) does not occur, B (watching tv) does not occur. If A occurs, B occurs...... this is different because your explaining yourself fully to the child and allowing them to CHOOSE, after a while if they are not happy with their results they realize they can do things differently. This will prove more beneficial to you in later years but you can use some parts of it now instead of beating your kid.