2006-07-27 07:52:20 · 19 answers · asked by Sugar Cat 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Goood question - and one I hope you give ALOT of thought to before you make your decision.
I grew up without a father in the home - if I ran into him the street, I wouldn't have a clue who he is. As a woman, that has left a hole in my heart that cannot be filled. I believe it's alot of the reason why I never found a good man - I didn't know what one looks like! How does he act, what kinds of things does he say? I never had a clue.
BUT - I always loved children and knew from a very young age that I wanted to be a parent. I really wanted to do it as a couple, but I never found him, so I decided to adopt when I was in my late 30's. I'm not saying that's what you should do, but I know it's the BEST THING I've ever done with my life.
When you say "...have a baby", it sounds like you really mean HAVE the baby, as in getting pregnant. That's cool, but consider the father's role in all this, because the only thing that matters after you bring a child into the world is the child. You as the parent come second. So, consider your finances, lifestyle, emotional support from family/friends, daycare costs - all things that will have an affect on the wellness of your baby.
I congratulate you for asking the question. It's a question every single woman needs to ask herself. I hope things go well for you.
2006-07-27 08:06:02 · answer #1 · answered by loveblue 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the reason that the baby is without a father. Every child deserves to have two parents, but in some situations it is best that the child is not around both. If either parent is on drugs, abusive, exploiting the child or other serious issues, the child doesn't need to be around that parent. A father offers things that a mother simply cannot, like love from a man. If a child grows up around a father that is loving and caring, the child in turn will know and understand how to love and demonstrate it.
2006-07-27 08:04:01 · answer #2 · answered by Heaven88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The woman who raises the child without the father is a very unselfish person....She basically gives up everything for her child. I'm pregnant and the father has chosen not to be a part of the baby's life....I had broken up with him two days before finding out I was pregnant because he was extremely abusive and controlling. I told him about the baby and gave him a chance to change and he continued....so how is that selfish? I'm willing to raise this baby and give up everything so that it won't be subject to his abuse!!!
2006-07-27 08:15:39 · answer #3 · answered by jojodaqtpie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i think it is. Every child needs both a father and mother. The only situation in which the mother should leave the father is if he is abusive. Even then the child will need a male role model for good emotional development.
That being said not all fathers are their for their children and some fathers are so absent. But even in those situations the child always needs a father and a distant one is better than no father at all.
2006-07-27 18:08:24 · answer #4 · answered by Moonling 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless science has progressed so far it still takes a male to help create a baby whether it is done in a petri dish in a lab or by having sex. I think it's selfish to bring a child into the world without proper child support FROM the man who helped create it.
2006-07-27 07:56:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's hard to say. maybe not COMPLETELY selfish, but maybe a little b/c every child deserves a fair chance at having a mother and father in their lives. my parents divorced when i was really young, and my dad raised me. i was too young to realize it then, but as an adult now i can see what i missed out not having a mom in my life, and i hate it. it affects me till this day. i don't fully understand why someone would CHOOSE do this to their baby. no matter how hard you try, you just can't be mom and dad. Also, being a single parent is very very difficult and stressful.
2006-07-27 08:13:40 · answer #6 · answered by origchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all, as long as you are financially, mentally, and physically stable and can provide for that child for it's entire life....it is kind of unfair to bring a child into this world with no father, but more and more children are being raised without one.....you just have to overcompensate in other ways for what that child is missing.i grew up without a father and turned out just fine....this was because he and my mom divorced when i was 2....but who is to say this child is not better off without a father, that way he will never have to know what divorce is really like
2006-07-27 08:06:38 · answer #7 · answered by brandiejs1979 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! Most women get pregnant and have babies and the fathers are no where around anyway. Save yourself so heart ache. If you want a baby and you are ready for it (financially, emotionally, ets.) go for it. Its going to hard but be strong! Everything will work out.
2006-07-27 08:56:57 · answer #8 · answered by Dana J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it really depends on the situation and your reason,Because it will be hard for you. first of all not impossible but hard and you have to ask your self how your going to deal with the questions that child is going to have concerning the father there are so many kids out there with just 1 parent that are happy kids but also miss having a father it just depends on how honest you are with your self and your child...
2006-07-27 09:37:07 · answer #9 · answered by tinker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean sinle parent by choice? It's something that should be thought about twice. Even if you can provide for this child on your own, the child will grow up and learn about "fathers" and wonder where his is. It could be emotionally damaging for a child.
2006-07-27 07:57:29 · answer #10 · answered by Minina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋