daughter afraid of everything?

Question

my daughter is afraid of everything and comes in to my room through the night 10 times i have a 3 month old and now my days im so tired how do i get her to sleep in her bed all night and any sure fire cures for bedwetting?

she is 7 years old

Answer 1

Tyla, how could you possibly recommend being very careful to not punish a child for bedwetting then say spank them for taking their "diaper" off. She is 7 years old, do you have any idea how terribly embarassing that would be in and of itself, then damaging to punish her for taking it off? I'm a firm advocate of spanking, but not for such a potentially damaging reason! Spankings are used for stealing or other pre-teen early-teen behavior that is considered criminal, or for severe disrespect of the authority of the parent. The only good in your entire recommendation is the use of a plastic mattress cover to prevent the ruin of her mattress.

To the original questioner, do as others have recommended and don't give her too much in the way of fluids before bed. An alternate way to approach it would be to encourage her to rinse her mouth out with water after brushing her teeth, then take a little drink from a glass. She's very insecure right now, she needs your love and support, not spankings and diapers.

Answer 2

Sure fire cures for bedwetting? There are none. The best course of action is to put her in a diaper (like Goodnites) at night and wait for her to grow out of it. They have bedwetting alarms and such, but most are a waste of time and money. The most important thing is to not punish her for the wetting since it's not her fault. Just buy her the diapers and have her sleep in them until she stops wetting for a couple weeks straight, then try underwear. If she wets again, then put her back into diapers. Make sure you buy a plastic mattress cover too. Remember not to punish her (unless she takes the diaper off at night, in which case she probably deserves a spanking).

As far as her being afraid of everything, well that's tricky. Make her try scary and exciting things like canoeing down rapids, or night hikes and once she does them, even though she was scared, she'll learn a bit of bravery. I'm a former summer camp counselor and whenever I had a timid girl, I'd make her do the things she was afraid of, and she'd learn to be confident and not afraid. So that's what I'd suggest for her. If she's afraid of the dark, make her sleep in the dark by herself for a few nights... even if it means locking her door from the other side so she can't get out. She might scream and cry, but in the end she'll sleep in the dark and learn to get over it. But MAKE SURE she understands that you love her and you only did it to help her. Tell her that, and tell her that it is helping her.

Hope I helped.

Answer 3

Has she been allowed to watch any scary movies or experienced anything that is tramatic? Sometimes something they see or experience will cause problems.
Also, her bedwetting maybe why she wakes up. I have had to make sure my 3 year old gets no water after 6 or so and then after that only a few sips. Also, bedwetting and acting out tends to appear when a baby arrives. One of my children who was school age started wetting her pants and talking baby talk as soon as the baby arrived. She just wanted the attention and it soon stopped. Think about whether this is an on going thing or if she just started this. If it can't be resolved soon contact a behavioral therapist to help her.

Answer 4

yeah, sounds like an anxiety issue. Therapy will help. Do not know how old your daughter is, but if she's over 12 doctor can prescribe a med. Try a soothing routine before bed and once in bed a looping soundtrack of soothing music. Wal-mart has some great instrumental music for only 10 bucks a disk. Also Christmas lights that softly interchange are very soothing. Maybe an aquarium with fantail goldfish. It's about creating an atmoshpere not completely devoid to the sences but not overly stimulating either.

Answer 5

Your daughter should be sleeping in her own bed. Nighttime fears are also very common in kids. This is going to get worse before it gets better, but I suggest this:

Tuck your child in at her regular bedtime. Invest in an inexpensive metal box with a lock on it. If she needs to search her room, let her--briefly. Then, have her put all the stuff she's afraid of, one at a time, in the box and then you lock it up together. (Of course, this is pretend. Kids have great imaginations!) Tell her the box will be in your room so you can protect her through the night.

If she comes into your room, remind her of the box and firmly take her back to her room to her own bed. She will probably cry and carry on, but if you are persistent, she should be sleeping through the night in a couple of weeks.

You might also want to check out www.supernanny.com. The website is based on the hit TV show. They have a message board there where you can ask the same question and get input from other parents. Good luck.

Answer 6

Bed wetting is a huge problem with children and many adults as well. I read an article in Ann Landers this week concerning a bed wetting website. They raved about it. Go on line to her website and review the last weeks worth of articles and I am sure you will find it. Those people thought it was great. Good luck.

Answer 7

she grow up eventually when she goes in her room. turn on the lights buy her a nightlight be patient remember when you thought there were monsters under your bed? it was the worst feeling ever i remember being scared just to jump off the bed i thought a giant hand would grab me. suck me under the bed into a another dimension. when i was a kid i thought that picture the purple hand with long clause every thing. now how would you feel as an adult if your thoughts were like this? i cried when i had o do my home work to lay down the law. if she cries and cries ignore it. if after a while nothing getting done, sit down do baby steps for her ask her the questions make her anwser it. or reward her when she is done with ice cream. if worse come to worse make her write words till she gets an indent in her little finger. i dont know if this advice is best im not a parent!

Answer 8

for starters don't give her any more liquid at least 3 hours before her bedtime and also make sure she pees two times in the last hour before she goes to bed, that way she will not wet her bed. for her fears, try getting her a night light with a cute design or maybe one that play soft sounds or music to help her fall asleep. also try praying together as a family before and after bedtime, it goes a long way. another thing is you have to be careful in making sure that you are not ignoring her because of your new baby, she might be jealous because you are paying too much attention to the baby and very little to her. try these few pointers and i can guarantee you a definite change. good luck!!

Answer 9

Well, how old is she?
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Ah. Well, 7 years old is really very young. Cut your own daughter some slack. As for bedwetting, that's usually genetic - I wet the bed as did my mom as did my grandfather. Cut her some slack there, too.

Answer 10

Your 7 year old may be regressing. She may be feeling left out of your attention because of the baby. She has had you all to herself for over 6 years and now she has to share. Try making at least an hour everyday to spend with just her. If it is not possible, try to include her in taking care of her little sister as much as possible.

It will help her security level with you.