Marriage & Divorce - 17 November 2007

Our baby girl is now 5 months old, two months ago we relocated and we both started new jobs. My husband is a manager at a restaurant. Lateley he is very disintrested in our lives. The restaurnt closes at 11 and he comes home at 1 every night. He is rude to me all the time, and he does not help at all with our baby. Every morning I wake up alone at 5 and look after her while trying to get ready for work, he refuses to get up as he says he is tired. But he is not tired to go out after work, he has every second weekend off and i work from monday to saturday i only have sundays off, he wont even take her for two hours so I can get some rest. I also found porn in his briefcase and cath him at nights watching it on tv, ive shouted cried and pleaded but he keeps going on as if he is the victim. He says he never goes out, but i have never been anywhere since our daugter was born. Does he have a girlfriend?

2007-11-17 17:01:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband is recently laid off from his job so i flip all the bills as well as cook,clean and tend to our kids . i went grocery shopping recently and got out the car with out any bags,once inside i told him he can get the bags out the car now he blew up at me and told me i think im queen sheba or something and i should had took a few bags out i told him since he is not working and bringing any money home he can at least bring in all the bags this was a very heated argument who is right me or him ?

2007-11-17 16:59:01 · 25 answers · asked by cocoa 4 3

would you accept a cheating partner again?
some do have relevant and reasonable explaination of their infidelity..really

would you shut your ears and tell them off, or accept their mistake and work things out together again..

do share your stories.. it'll help others too

2007-11-17 16:46:11 · 26 answers · asked by aemii 1

Two surgeons to get married and live a nice life with kids and have time for each other?

2007-11-17 16:28:09 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have 2 kids together. I am a little worried about Christmas, should my kids give gifts to my in-laws or should my husband worry about that? How do other people in my situation share the kids during the holidays and other special situations? Thanks!

2007-11-17 16:25:29 · 15 answers · asked by ilovegreen 3

whats the point in pursuing a realtionship with a person, even though you know you wont spend the rest of your life with them? i dont understand.

2007-11-17 16:21:51 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

When my husband was 17, he had a child with a girl he was dating. They never married or anything. When this child was born, he and the girl both signed away their parental rights and her parents legally adopted the baby. My husband doesn't pay child support but so far, he's gotten to see his son anytime he wanted.

Both of the grandparents(adopted parents) are getting older and are right sickly. My husband has told me that if anything happens to them that his son will come live with us. He doesn't want the child's mother to have any contact with him. However, I have serious doubts that the grandparents would leave custody of the child to my husband over the child's mother (their daughter).

I guess my real question is: Does my husband have any legal right to a child he's been a father to, but he legally gave up for adoption?

2007-11-17 16:04:31 · 12 answers · asked by devil_in_disguise 1

my live in boyfriend has been spending more and more time with the T.V. and not enough time with me. We have been together for 4 years but living together for 3 and it seems as if the romance is only in our relationship if I bring it our complain about the lack of it.

I don't want to become those type of women that nag but I have been communicating how I feel and he agrees that he is wrong and that he will work on this "problem" but after a week of correcting himself he'll just go right back into his routine.

Any suggestions, ideas or should I just end this relationship and save us both the headaches that seem to be arising out of this "problem"

2007-11-17 16:04:31 · 13 answers · asked by J. Depp fan 2

My husband and me had a fight this morning and he slapped me on my face very hardlyand then he left for his work. He never called me after that and now its 12:00 p.m . I just called him to find out when he is coming. He said that he will come late.I am really angry and upset. What should I do?

2007-11-17 15:56:28 · 11 answers · asked by anamika s 3

Has anyone that has been the targeted parent ever had or heard of a positive outcome from a severe case?

2007-11-17 15:46:16 · 5 answers · asked by DesignDiva1 5

My twin sister is like that & he left her, so she's hurt & turned her back on the family & is wreaking havock for everyone.

2007-11-17 15:45:30 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

fill in the blank. i wish she/he would for me like they use to.......... something they don't do anymore. 4 me make love

2007-11-17 15:36:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

soon to be ex husband has a live in girlfriend that has her children taken away from her by CPS, I do not have the full story I just know that it was from neglect. How do I insure that my child cannot and will not be able to be left alone with her, even though she will not be named in the divorce, can i still legally require them to have supervised visitation?

2007-11-17 15:34:55 · 10 answers · asked by Shelbi R 1

I made the mistake of cosigning a student loan for my vindictive wife. We are now going through a divorce after only a year of marriage. In her divorce papers she asked for me to pay one 1/2 of the student loan that I cosigned on. Can I be forced to pay on the loan even though i was only trying to help her get a lower interst rate by cosigning for her?

2007-11-17 15:33:00 · 10 answers · asked by Serenity 1

My wife and I have been married a little over a year and now are going through a divorce. She has contributed nothing towards the home or even the marriage. I have paid the bills and came into the marriage with all property excluding one used vehicle. She is now asking for one 1/2 the equity in the house. How is it possible that she can live bill free for over a year and then walk away from the marriage further ahead then when she came into it? She has also asked for one 1/2 the pension and 401k i have worked nearly 20 years to obtain. What right does she have if any? I have been told that the duration of the marriage has a bearing on the division of assets but what is considered a proper length for a marriage?

2007-11-17 15:28:05 · 27 answers · asked by Serenity 1

We have a lot of stuff and he wants to let me have the couches, new focus w/ him paying the 4,000 off that we owe, and a laptop. No monthly help w/ expences, that I can't afford on my little paycheck. Please give me advice. It's both people at fault, by the way.

2007-11-17 15:23:31 · 10 answers · asked by lv2bmom 2

my friend doesnt wanna marry this guy eventho they have been 2gether for over a year now. they r waiting to get married before having sex. she admits liking him but she doesnt wanna marry him cause hes not circumsized. she told him to get it cut, but he doesnt want to and he is actually proud of it.she wants my advice of whether 2 marry him or not. i dont know what to tell her. do u guys think she should marry him?

2007-11-17 15:15:11 · 32 answers · asked by prettyinpink i 5

We have been married for 14 years now and the last 5 years has been hell for us. We argue he has anger issues and we dont communicate. and I notice that recently I am having anger issues as well, which is not me at all. I really hate the whole situation. I told him for us to seek marriage counseling but he refuses because of the copay amount that we have to pay. What should I do please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-11-17 15:09:39 · 13 answers · asked by sleepless07 1

My husband says he is obsessed with looking at porn. He admitted to sharing nude photos over the internet with another woman who he talked to over the course of a few months (would you consider that cheating?). He also said that he has a secret obsession with violent sex in which he has complete control over the person he's with (like violent spanking, boot licking...things like that). He has never told me he was in to things like that, he has always been kinda timid. If he goes to counseling can he ever get over this? Has anyone else ever dealt with a situation like this??

2007-11-17 15:02:50 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

i had a friend he lost her husband and its a very sad story bcoz the body was not found, its happens when her husband going home from his work from a mountain full of snow.......its been two years now and my friend still longing to his husband would go home and i wanted to help her..how can i advice her to stop expecting her husband would go back....im glad to hear your answers to those who's concern,,tanx in advance

2007-11-17 14:49:51 · 13 answers · asked by akira 2

I have been with the same guy for the past five and a half years. We have two beautiful children together. We used to have an alright relationship. I should add that he is 24 & I'm 23. I guess you could say it was a typical relationship for that age. But after having kids I've really changed. I'm a totally different person. The thing is is he isn't. He'll even admit that he hasn't changed. He still goes out with his friends almost every night. Granted they're not at the bar, but still, he's not at home with his family. He does whatever he wants to whenever he wants to. I, on the other hand, have to make sure it's okay if I go here or there and I have to give him a specific time I'll be back. He never takes the kids anywhere with him & he's never had them for more than an hour by himself. He usually goes to his mom's. I'm getting very frustrated and starting to resent him. I feel like I'm a single mom! I've tried talking to him but its not working! I'm about ready to leave! Any advice?

2007-11-17 14:46:49 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-17 14:37:14 · 12 answers · asked by the maverick 2

I have been with the same person for going on 8 years (since I was 16 he was 19) Here I am, 23 and I want to get married (soon), he's 26 and also wants to get married (eventually), but is very unenthusiastic about it.
I feel like I'm pressuring him, which I don't want, but as many people have so bluntly put it 'sh*t or get off the pot' (you have no idea how many times i've heard this in refrence to my issue)
His reason for not wanting to is because he's just a temp worker right now, nothing extrememly stable, but does support him/us along with my very stable income (i'm a special ed. teacher)
I never thought I'd post a relationship question here, but I'm at my wits end. I want our relationship to move past 'dating' and he seems so complacent to have it stay like this for another 8 years
Is patience my virtue, or my curse?

any insight, life experience, or advice is greatly appericiated

2007-11-17 14:37:06 · 18 answers · asked by BAP 2

I dumped him as soon as I found out, but should I tell his wife or just let it go?

2007-11-17 14:30:44 · 24 answers · asked by Ima K 1

its been 6 years. my parents are stupid and i completly hate them. i cant trust them for anything. how can i get over this? and yes i have tried killing myself many times, one time it would of worked but i weighed to much. please help.

2007-11-17 14:27:57 · 13 answers · asked by allie 2

Just trying to see how divorce rates have changed over the years........

2007-11-17 14:26:00 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-17 14:19:10 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

We've lived together all of these years, engaged for 3 yrs (i wouldn't commit),and now I find out he's been cheating for 10 mos. I hacked into his computer, got into his email, chatted with one of the girls, found out he had unprotected sex with her, confronted him, he lied, found out there were others (7), and all were from "Craigslist" so they were strangers. I am 40, he is 36. I have since talked to 2 others who tell me it was casual sex, not a relationship. He promises it stopped months before I found out and he swore to himself it would never happen again. He is very remorseful but I can't get over the fact that he had unprotected sex with these strangers. He knew how I felt about cheating and having unprotected sex (to me it means you don't care enough about your significant other to protect their health). We've gone to counseling, read books, etc.Either I forgive him and keep him or decide I can never forgive and loose him. How do I decide if our relationship is worth the pain?

2007-11-17 14:19:08 · 50 answers · asked by rabbit4041 3

Which one u feel more...

2007-11-17 14:16:24 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

does this mean im not in-love with him any more? im very attracted to other men. is our relationship doomed?

2007-11-17 14:15:43 · 12 answers · asked by amber 2