We have a lot of stuff and he wants to let me have the couches, new focus w/ him paying the 4,000 off that we owe, and a laptop. No monthly help w/ expences, that I can't afford on my little paycheck. Please give me advice. It's both people at fault, by the way.
2007-11-17 15:23:31 · 10 answers · asked by lv2bmom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Split right down the middle...well not literally...but you should divide up the the things...and be fair about it........and that also means splitting the $4,000 that you owe....but if you are in agreement with his offer....then by all means accept it...
2007-11-17 15:30:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having an amicable divorce, you can pretty much split things up however you want -- a judge will just look it over and ask questions just to be sure it's fair.
There a lot of things to consider though -- if you have kids, how long you've been married, what both of your incomes are (especially if you were a stay at home mom or put your career on hold to support his or keep the house), and what the 'faults' were. For example, if you have been together for a long time and you were a stay at home mom, you should include a monthly alimony and child support element to the agreement. The idea is that if you kept the home and he brought in the income, you should be able to live a comparable lifestyle as to that you had when you were married (within reason, because of course both your standards of living will drop). However, if there are not children and you both have careers of your own and haven't been together very long you pretty much just split the STUFF and move on.
Here's a site that can help you figure it out a bit more:
http://www.nolo.com/resource.cfm/catID/BC93B1DE-97D2-44DB-87F20B0350BA0643/118/246/
good luck.
2007-11-17 15:49:19 · answer #2 · answered by abiona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter who is at fault, most states specify that all belongings considered "marital property" be split 50/50. Marital property is anything that you bought while married. So, you need to to figure out what everything is worth and split it down the middle. If you can't come to a decision on your own, a judge will most likely say to sell everything and split the money.
As far as monthly expenses go, if there is a large difference in your incomes, you MAY be eligible for spousal support, but it depends on the state you live in.
Seriously though, you should consult with an attorney, most give you a free consultation.
2007-11-17 15:33:12 · answer #3 · answered by ky-ky 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you cannot agree on the split of the items, then sell them and split the money. He is going to give you the new car and pay it off- that is a kind thing to do. Especially if you have children so they can be in a safe vehicle.
The way we worked things was the childrens items went with the custodial parent-me, I paid him half the equity in our home, and we split all furnishings and electronics. We each kept the vehicle we were driving at the time. The debts were subtracted from the savings we had, and we split what was left. He kept his 401K, I kept my savings account from my dad. He agreed on an amount for child support. I was not working at the time but did not feel right going after alimony. I got a job and worked my butt off.
2007-11-17 15:40:23 · answer #4 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The items should be split 50/50. As for the $4,ooo.oo debt- who does this belong to? Whoever the debt belongs to should be the one that pays it off. If it belongs to both of you, then split the cost in half.
2007-11-17 15:31:10 · answer #5 · answered by angie l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everything should go 50/50 and he should help make good on the bills bring it up to the Judge and they will see that things are done right. Depending on how long you were married and if you have children. The judge could order alimony plus child support
2007-11-17 15:35:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say that (although women usually get WAAAAAAY to many rewards from a divorce while the ex slaves to pay for her) the woman should leave the relationship able to set up a home with the basic necessities...her clothes..and pretty much anything female oriented.....the guy should leave with his "toys" and clothes and maybe a bare minimum on the household stuff...typically we can live in an empty house if given a decent place to sleep LOL easier to clean but don't take the PS3
2007-11-17 15:31:19 · answer #7 · answered by bigdaddysnackfinger 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
depends on what each wants and how it is handled in court.
2007-11-17 15:27:23 · answer #8 · answered by sparkling_apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sold and split
2007-11-17 15:26:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is why god made lawyers. see one.
2007-11-17 15:32:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋