i cant get over my parenst divorce?

Question

its been 6 years. my parents are stupid and i completly hate them. i cant trust them for anything. how can i get over this? and yes i have tried killing myself many times, one time it would of worked but i weighed to much. please help.

Answer 1

I am so sorry your parents got a divorce. I do not know you or your parents or what each of you have gone through. I wish I could give you a real hug.

You cannot control the actions of your parents. You are your own person. I am sure they both love you, but for some reason they decided not to be married anymore.

Don't let their actions or your anger towards them make you become a negative person. Take what has happened and do good.

My parents did not get divorced, so I don't know how you feel. However, I was molested and at the age of 9, the person was caught. I was blamed for it and many years later was told by the person that caught him, that She thought I liked it as an adult. I was also later raped by a man in the military.

I have had bad things happen, but I chose not to let the bad stuff let me become bitter. Yes, I was angry and when I tried to bring it up, nothing was resolved. It was bad then too. I have since forgiven both of them about my molestation and I have forgiven the rapist. I never saw the rapist again but I see the molester.

Please, please, please, do not let their actions make you become a bitter person who can't go on. First, you have to realize, it was Not your fault they became divorced. You do not make them act the way they do. You cannot make them get back together.

What you can do is sit down with each of them and tell them honestly how you feel. Tell them about your anger. Tell them how much you really hurt, deep inside your soul for what has happened. Know that you are a beautiful young woman who God made just perfectly. He loves you so much.

Forgive your parents, but love them. You do not have to forget, but please do not hate them. You can hate what they do, but not who they are. When you hold onto the anger and resentment, it hurts you inside your soul. You know this is true as you want to end your precious precious life. Nobody is worth killing yourself over, for any reason.

Please ask to speak to a counselor. I did and she helped me sort out my feelings and turn them so they didn't hurt me anymore inside.

My prayers are with you. It is up to you to change your outcome. Please make it a positive one. Let me know how you are doing.

Answer 2

You poor thing! Please, don't try to kill yourself again. I'm sure that there will be so much good that you'd miss out on. Plus, even though you don't like your parents, that's an awful guilt, and what about friends and family? Surely there is someone you wouldn't want to hurt that way. One thing to look forward to is when you graduate high school and move out on your own!

Have you tried REALLY talking to your parents as in sitting them down and telling them how you feel? What about a school counselor? You need to find someone you can trust to talk to. You surely can't be expected to get over a divorce overnight? It will take time and you need to do things one tiny step at a time. The first thing you need to do is to realize that your life is worth living. just because your parents didn't have it together, does not mean that you're meaningless. Sadly, sometimes parents do not realize or seem to realize that their kids, the most important people in their lives, are hurting. I'm sorry you're having a hard time, but please remember that someone cares - I do. You are important. You have a purpose even if you don't know it right now.

Answer 3

Killing yourself? Ok now I am lost. I know parents don't always know what to do but I don't think thats the answer. Do you not love the person you are? I can't see how this can make your life better. Don't let their stupidity as parents take away your life. Parents don't always have it all right, they have downfalls and sometimes they can't get out of them but to put yourself down, your better than they are, you have to see that hunny. No one is worth throwing away your life for. To the world you are someone, but to someone you mean the world! Don't ever let parents allow you to feel this bad , God Hunny, go to your school counselor pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeease, don't ever think your not worth living because you mean a lot to someone and this is so final, to think something like this. I can give you a million reasons why it's bad. You don't have to stay with parents like this, you really don't. Counselors can help you get removed from pain in the home, they are confidential and they will tell NO ONE! and at the same time that can put you in a happier environment, or at least help you by listening. I hope I am getting through to you. Talk to your freinds, relatives, grandparents, someone at church, but know that hurting yourself isn't the answer.

Answer 4

You need to stop trying to kill yourself and work on getting your own life together. Sure, you are angry and upset with your parents because they can't work their problems out. But you should not let that affect you as much. It has been 6 years and the choices have been made. You need to try to let it go and focus on your own life. If you are still having problems, then seek some help. Suicide is not the answer. You not only hurt yourself, but the ones that you care about, and they will have to live with that pain for a lot longer than you would. Is that what you want?

Answer 5

One suicide is selfish or maybe you have a serious chemical inbalance I don't know! But your parents splitting isn't your fault but would you rather have two married UNHAPPY parent's or Parents that are finally happy and feel free? I know it may be really hard on you but it happened six years ago and it's not your fault you just need to be the bigger person and act grown up about it and stop doing things tryong to get attention killing yourself will get you attention alright but none that you are there to enjoy and it won't bring your parents back together you just need to make the best of it! Life is so much harder than parent's splitting and they LOVE you!

Answer 6

Look into group therapy sessions for children of divorce. Also, if you already tried killing yourself you should be in some kind of counceling already. If you're not I'm surprised. This divorce is making you angry and you need to deal with your anger and you need help in accepting the situation. Please let a trained professional help you along. It is the best thing for you. You can't go on like this.

Answer 7

There was a point in my life when the same thing happened to me and i felt like the whole world was going to come crashing down on me, like there was no way out!i did have a bad relationship with them at one point.You should try going to your friends for help or, the school counselor also helped me get through their divorce.What ever you do DON"T try to kill yourself,there is so many good things to experience in life and you'll miss out by doing something that you'll regret,LIKE KILLING YOURSELF .It's not your falt.You can't change the past.Your parents do love you no matter what,even if they don't act like it sometimes. Life is full of ups and downs, don't let one bad thing in your life get to you. Always think of what you want not what you don't want.When you think of bad things, you r attracting bad thing to you.when you think of good things your attracting good thing to you.there's always a way out.always think to yourself,"things will get better for me."If ur gonna live ur life, live it with happiness not with hatrid towards your parents." Always remember to think positive that's what i did and my life couldn't be better.Hope u take my advice,PEACE OUT ALLIE:)

Answer 8

I sympathise with you but thats no reason to want to kill yourself.
Make sure thay you marry the one who loves you and try to live happily everafter ?
Your parents just fell out of love with each other, probably married too young and realised that they needed their own space now to do what they missed out on ,
or they just outgrew each other and fallen in love again with someone else .
Love is a funny thing , it cannot be controlled, only experienced ...

Answer 9

You can not change this situation. And you are wasting your life dwelling on the past. If your parents divorce is the absolute worse situation you ever find yourself in. Thank your lucky stars.

Answer 10

Don;t try and kill yourself you will getover it eventually my parents got divorced when I was 6 and I still feel bad but you should not worry about it, you should ask for a picture of your mom and keep it at your dads house and get a picture of your dad and keep it at your moms house.