My husband and me had a fight this morning and he slapped me on my face very hardlyand then he left for his work. He never called me after that and now its 12:00 p.m . I just called him to find out when he is coming. He said that he will come late.I am really angry and upset. What should I do?
2007-11-17 15:56:28 · 11 answers · asked by anamika s 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He sound like he was having lot of fun out there. I didn't want to fight over the phone thats why I said o.k
2007-11-17 15:58:13 · update #1
Should I talk to him when he comes home. I am so confused right now.
2007-11-17 15:59:39 · update #2
What you do is pack your things and leave. We will see how much fun he is having when the only person he has to hit is himself. I wish i could break the arm off that he hit you with and beat him to death with it.
2007-11-17 16:05:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Go and get your self a hotel room for the night so that you are safe and don't tell him where you are going he hit you and that is not OK he did it and got away with it as of right now you should seriously contact authorities because he will just continue and I know its hard because you love him but you can't let him do that to you its NOT OK!!! And he is out having fun and didn't tell you that's suspicious all in its self!
You both need a chance to cool off and maybe when you do talk have someone there that you trust so that he doesn't hit you again!
If my husband hit me I would flinch every time he moved towards me forever it would never be the same! I would have to leave!
2007-11-18 00:02:52 · answer #2 · answered by Amberlyn 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would not talk to him tonight. I would try to go ahead and go to bed. It sounds like he is trying to get under your skin and irritate you so I would not give him the pleasure of seeing me upset. As far as him slapping you........Honey that is spousal abuse! There is no doubt about that! I don't care if it is the first time he has ever laid a hand on you. ONE TIME IS TOO MANY TIMES when it comes to violence. Even if someone is just being abusive verbally it is ABUSE! Remember that hundreds and thousands of wives and husbands are killed by their spouse and the violence usually starts out "minor" so they do not leave and they believe their spouse when they are told that it will not happen again. I say the least of your worries is him sounding like he is having fun and him being late!!!!!!!!!!HONEY, HE HIT YOU! You need to sit and think long and hard about staying in this marriage. So many woman think it is a one time thing and that it will not happen again, or that their husband was just under alot of stress and that is why he lashed out, or that they provoked the violence and alot of these women are getting abused on a regular basis and some of these women are dead.
I say go to bed. Get some sleep. Wake up in the morning with a clear and level head and weigh out your options. No one is worth being abused for. NO ONE! Your husband sounds like a real jerk....or atleast he sounds like he can be a real jerk. You may want to consider leaving. Lord..I hope you do not have kids with this man. If so, then you almost have no option but to leave him for the stability of the kids. Kids deserve better than to be in an abusive family. GOOD LUCK!
2007-11-18 00:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by whatshername 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
His actions are very very hurtful. A man who loves you would not do this to you. Slapping you hard is totally unacceptable and it is abusive, and I assume he IS abusive toward you. On top of that, he doesn't come home, he doesn't call, and when you do reach him he is out with other people having a good time - without you - on purpose - to hurt you. Stand up for yourself, girl. Don't take this treatment any more. Don't be home when he gets in. Disappear for a couple of days. Let him know YOU won't put up with this garbage anymore. Because he won't stop hurting you as long as you are just sitting home crying over him - that is what he wants...to hurt you and make you upset. Don't give in to that anymore. Don't cry, don't show him that you are vulnerable any more. Toughen up. If he's no good, admit he is no good. If he is abusing you, admit that he is abusing you....and divorce his nasty butt, because you don't deserve to be treated like this. Don't be afraid of him, if he is so bad that he would hurt you, get yourself a court order of protection and go stay with a relative, friend, or women's shelter. No one deserves to be treated like this by their husband.
2007-11-18 00:17:19 · answer #4 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You would get a good answer if you told what the fight was about. for him to get that mad and act that way. so what was said has a lot to do with this. so I am not sure how to answer this. also has this happen before? best I can say is, if this happens again. pack some cloths and stay the night at your mom's, Sister or friends house for the night. he will then think twice about doing that again. if he is angry, just tell him, if he does it, you will also. maybe he will think twice be for doing that again.
2007-11-18 03:55:22 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you sitting at home waiting for him he is the one that hit you. You shouldn't of called him now he knows he can do what he wants to you and you'll do nothing. Get up and go out even if it's for a drive that's what i use to do. When my husband was out late i would go out about 1:30AM drive around and come in 2:30AM he would think i was out agood part of the night.
2007-11-18 00:18:13 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no point talking to him, he isn't even sorry! If he was he would be home right now with a fvck load of flowers and a million apologies. I know it's not easy, but i would seriously consider leaving..
2007-11-18 00:04:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
No one has the right to lay a hand on anybody and it is worse if it is your own husband who did that to you. That alone is enough reason for you to leave. If you stay, you will experience more abuse in his hands. That is my opinion and I ask you to think about that.
2007-11-18 00:05:31 · answer #8 · answered by Belen 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
okay has ur husband doen this before . if so maybe u should look into a councler i think that u need to talk to hima bout it and myab ehe is cheating on u i think that it is really important that u talkt o him abou this and make it known to him that it is NOT OKAY for him to do that
i hope that evrything turns out okay
2007-11-18 00:01:13 · answer #9 · answered by cece 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No way should you put up with someone hitting you. Get out
2007-11-18 00:12:26 · answer #10 · answered by Lynn M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋