Marriage & Divorce - 17 November 2007

My whole life I have been told you are nothing if you don't drive a nice car, have alot of cash, have a beautiful girlfriend...... now I have all that and more... I married her, I have 3 nice cars and alot of cash... I have a ton of friends but they are all married with kids too, so time with then is limited. I play with my two kids all day long... I hang out with my wife all day long too... I have been to may places..

People tell me to give back, but I'm under 40 and have plenty of time to give back....

I'm not religious, cause I was religous till I was 18.

What am I missing?

2007-11-17 10:31:41 · 13 answers · asked by Latin G 5

I love my husband with all of my heart, but i openly admit I fell for someone else.The chemistry was soooo strong, he pulled me aside one evening and told me his feelings for me (we have known each other for 5 yrs),he also took every oppertunity he could, to make me aware of how he feels and I was so confused, it turned my head around. This bloke lives and works locally, so i have done everything I possibly can to avoid him for last few months, as i cant act on any stupid feelings. And I would never risk losing my husband, but why the hell did it happen in first place? I love my hub so much, we have great life. Angry with myself that this bloke made me feel this way. Beat myself up about it each day, as i feel as though i betrayed my gorgeous, lovin darlin of a husband. I would never of acted on it, so why cant I forgive myself????

2007-11-17 10:28:00 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband worked with a female for about a year. This was in 2006.She no longer works with him. I am just finding out he loaned this women money. She called my house and there was some whispering. He said she called crying needing more money. He promised me nothing happened between them. After a week of pure hell I gave in and believed him. The problem now is I keep catching him in lies about the situation. I found out the last night she was there, they sat out in his truck and drank a beer at midnight. He swore up and down earlier this didn't happen. He said he couldn't remember the month he loaned her the money. How hard is that to remember? I know he's lying, I just don't want to think anything happened, but he's making it look so bad lying about the little details. She moved out of town. Thank God. I am waiting for the cell phone bill for 06. How else can I check this out without him knowing. He thinks I dropped it.

2007-11-17 10:25:54 · 18 answers · asked by bob 2

2007-11-17 10:25:27 · 6 answers · asked by malekessya 1

My husband isn't ever happy for things that happen for me...we are young and he is a very successful athlete at a university. He is known in his sport and I have always been supportive of him! I am so happy for him when he does good and ask how practice is...I travel to a lot of his games as well... But when something cool happens for me he isn't excited, like he will just be like.."oh, cool..." and just change the subject. This is for everything...job, contest, projects, compliments people give me, promotions, anything good for me. Like, he makes me feel like he is sooo much better than me and my accomplishments are nothing. I mean why can't he let me be happy!? I have been so supportive for so long, I'm almost about to say, go get someone you think is good enough for you, because the way you treat me isn't right...What do you think?? It's like he wants me to think I'm worthless...which is tells me a lot!

2007-11-17 10:25:12 · 7 answers · asked by elle 3

MY fiance's exwife hates me and talks badly about me to everyone infront of their 7 yr old son. She also tells me things like I can't watch thier son, can't be involved with his school work etc. Not only will my fiance not say anything to his exwife about this but acts like it really does not bother him . He knows it really bothers me but just plays it off as no big deal. Well the other day his ex called and got me as my fiance was not home. She told me my fiance needs to step-up as a dad and make his son #1. Well when i told my fiance this he asked if his son heard this and i said i think so.Well he fliped out and called his ex and threated/yelled at her that he will take their son away from her if she ever talks badly about him again. Why did he flip out on her when she just said that one thing about him but never cares about the hundred of things she says about me?

2007-11-17 10:25:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

both husband and wife are in agreement. husband and wife + another person. no seperate sessions.

2007-11-17 10:18:24 · 20 answers · asked by Marquita R 2

My soon to be ex-husband has a terrible upbringing. His mother was very mean and abusive. His father would cheat and leave his mother for months at a time. He has 2 brothers in prison. One for rape and one for murder. One brother is a drug dealer who has not been caught yet. I married him knowing all this because I thought he would be different. He cheated on me multiple times after the marriage and later became emotionally and physically abusive towards me. Do you think it has to be with the was he was raised?

2007-11-17 10:17:08 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

and how would you describe it for your partner

2007-11-17 10:16:18 · 6 answers · asked by Perfectionist 6

also, what is The Rebel Yell: Sex and the University?

school newspaper?

2007-11-17 10:16:04 · 1 answers · asked by Greg D 1

2007-11-17 10:12:59 · 38 answers · asked by Denny D 1

I got married at 17 & my husband was 26, he got me a job with hem after a year and everything was great, then we had to move to NY (I worked there as well, but in the office) then I saw hem kissing with this woman & it was terrible for me but we gave it another chance everything starterd to crumble from there, came back & now we started our own business but working together has been so tuff to the point we hate eachother & insults that I cant stand, We are always together 24/7, oohh he gain weight & I'm still the same so i don't feel atractive to hem anymore, he is very loveble and nice, also 2.5 years ago i wanted kids so bad and he didn't, now he wants them & don't feel like it anymore, I told hem i need to see a counselor to help me figure out why do i feel so weird but he said no, that i can talk to hem, that he love's me, but now i'm not so sure i do I always depened on hem for everything it's been 8 years together and I'm not sure what & how to make a decition. Any suggetions?

2007-11-17 10:07:14 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband left on a trip Friday early morning, we had gotten in a fight Thursday night...he wont answer his phone or return my calls...I am 8.5 months pregnant and don't like the way he has been treating me. The fight was actually more hurtful towards me, so I would think he would be calling me feeling bad, but he hasn't (don't worry, he is okay, his mom has talked to him). I just know that most husbands would check up on their pregnant wives and see if their okay and stuff...I'm so upset, cause I think he is going to just go home right from his trip for Thanksgiving and leave me here a lone for the whole week and not answer his phone or talk to me. I might pack my stuff and go home (different state) but I have a doc. appt. on Weds. so I would have to wait, plus he left his dog...what do you think???

2007-11-17 10:04:50 · 21 answers · asked by elle 3

to save your spouse or bf or gf.. courage or would you consider it foolishness

2007-11-17 10:04:39 · 12 answers · asked by vis 7

2007-11-17 10:02:25 · 16 answers · asked by timeforce20 1

i like my guy but yet i love to look any thoughts? anyone out there have the same experience

2007-11-17 09:59:10 · 9 answers · asked by El Dorado 2

Him and his friends get to eat in the den and watch football but he won't let me when I want to eat popcorn while watching my penguin movie.

2007-11-17 09:50:44 · 17 answers · asked by Little Angel 1

he has been emotionally and verbally, and somewhat physically abusive to me. we have a lot of problems that i just no longer am willing to work on. we have only been together for 3 years, but the toll it has taken on me and the children has just become too much. He just returned home from iraq a few days ago and has already done a few things that are not okay. yelling at me in a parking lot (really mean names) and F You, things like that. Today we talked for awhile and i let him know i was done with this, and now it is time to prepare for divorce. please understand i did not want to leave him while he was deployed. i just didnt have the heart to do that to him. now, he just isnt understanding that all of the things he has done to us in the past are wrong. he will be moving out after xmas. what can i do to support him? he doesnt want this at all, i do.
thank you

2007-11-17 09:47:52 · 10 answers · asked by ★SuGar and SpiCe★ 5

I have been with this girl for over 4 years now. I pursued a lot before we fell in love 4 years ago. We always talk about being together and how our family would be.

She always wanted to marry me, but now since last year she has changed the stance and says for her marriage is not that important and she will not die if she not marry me.....
I asked for a pic that can be shown to parents but she does not agree now and says in love marriage photo is not required.
But in our culture and hers it is always needed. She just keeps asking me to wait and I have been waiting for an year. Earlier she said that nobody knows about her in my family .. Her family knows me very well and they know that she is going to marry me. But I don know how to take things forward, she said dont eat my head with all the crap of yours and ask ur parents to wait for antoher 6 months..... earlier it went from March to Sept and then to Nov, then she asked to wait till March 2008, I don know still.

2007-11-17 09:30:49 · 28 answers · asked by anu 1

Well see this girl Ialso know but not as much as my husband asked him to go with her and shop for me. But the thing that gets me is why couldnt WE go shopping . Im pretty sure he is using our money. and it just gets me. what do i do

2007-11-17 09:29:57 · 29 answers · asked by expe girl 1

I know that there is a better "her" but she hasn't shown up yet...

2007-11-17 09:28:14 · 12 answers · asked by Da Man 1

Has society changed so much that when they marry they half expect to divorce?
Some women are even more shocked when they hear you had bad times and hard times and yet your marriage lasted that long
I mean those who have never married twice. Never been divorced
Some women say if you lasted that long he must have treated you right all those years and you never had an argument. I tell them that people are suppose to marry for the good times and the bad and they should grow and adapt. They say thats silly. They tell me when the sensual act gets boring, its either cheat or divorce or just walk away and disappear to start over. What do you say? are there any one still maried ater25 years or more and proud of it I tell them yes. They tell me if there are any they are living in agony and theman is cheating and the women accepts this I say nothing.

2007-11-17 09:26:36 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know a preacher who married a couple and one of them is addicted to drugs. The preacher knew this before he married them and never suggested that they go through pre-marital counseling. He did not get paid to preform the ceremony. He has said that it will not work out because one of them is an addict who refuses to get help. Was he right to marry them?

2007-11-17 09:22:09 · 6 answers · asked by freespirit 3

is nasty to you and kids behind your husband back and in front of him is as nice as pie

2007-11-17 09:06:20 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Can a man sign away his parental rights in Florida if the mother doesn't want him to? Does he still have to pay child support if he does?

And I don't want to hear anything about how it's his responsibility because it's not! It's her responsibility! I know the child didn't ask to be born but he didn't ask her to have or keep the child either. He didn't even know this woman got pregnant until recently when we got a letter from Child Support Enforcement. No one would dare tell a woman who got pregnant that she HAD to have the baby AND keep the baby because she "spread her legs". Women have options after getting pregnant and i think men should too.

2007-11-17 09:05:00 · 12 answers · asked by neet 6

I am 26 yearsn old. I met the man ,which 31 years old. I love him very mutch, but he has a child! What have I do?

2007-11-17 09:02:31 · 6 answers · asked by malekessya 1

tomorro i cook dinner for a mother in law i cant stand

2007-11-17 08:56:21 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've got married for 2 years. My husband loves me very much and does care me but he has not had ability to do make love anymore!!! I've asked him to go to see doctor but he didn't go and doesn;t want to take madecine. what should I do?

2007-11-17 08:55:28 · 7 answers · asked by Rabbit 1

Former fiance broke it off 2 years ago and spent it with another women in town. Told her he loved her, wanted to marry her and went house shopping with her because she was going through a divorce etc.
She no longer wants him in her life and has moved on easily. Would you take him back?
I spent 6/7 years prior (4 years separted from a husband) and had no idea this man was lieing to me for the past 6 months of our relationship..

2007-11-17 08:48:21 · 13 answers · asked by Blue 1

2007-11-17 08:47:58 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous