2007-11-17 10:12:59 · 38 answers · asked by Denny D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just ask, she has never refused me yet. in fact she loves dressing up as a schoolgirl and teasing me as her teacher.
She said you were boring and weren't interested
2007-11-18 01:35:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Should have done it a long time ago... I've been married 2 years and I've just talked to my wife about it now - and I think I've waited too long.
Write a list for your wife and have her do the same, have each of you put things you want to do then swap them over and let your wife tell you what she'll willing to try off your list.
2007-11-18 23:19:13 · answer #2 · answered by silverfoxdmt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as far as the people saying "I can't believe your afraid to ask her anything" just because you have been with someone for twelve years doesn't mean anything! Some are conservative in bed so I can see the hesitation if she is....start out with something different, anything different than you normally do in bed, then depending on if she objects or not then keep going!
2007-11-17 10:26:37 · answer #3 · answered by veronica c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should NOT be afraid to share your fantasies with your wife. For god sakes she's supposed to be your partner until death do you part. I said that to say "If you can't share your fantasies with her, then who on earth will you ever be able to share them with! You have been married for 12 yrs and you don't think she will approve of your fantasies? I think you should say " You know for a while now I've fantasized about......and I wondered if you'd help me out with this fantasy, I can't seem to stop thinking about it!!!!!!!!
2007-11-17 10:22:34 · answer #4 · answered by mscooke34 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife an I make wagers, like playing miniature golf, wager on a ball game, etc. Looser had do do what winner wanted. We always gave the looser 3 choices. But in reality, the looser doesn't really loose. Also, on our birthday, the other has to go naked all day and subject themselves to the birthday person. You just have to make sure the looser has fun too, and be ready for your turn.
2007-11-17 11:44:20 · answer #5 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you think since your wife has been with you for 12 years,. she loves you dearly..... Just talk to her and I know she will be open minded enough to listen..Just prepare yourself for her answer, she may be in agreement and she may not, so be ready for what she has to say, and when you talk to her, please don't start off the conversation with....I know you probably won't like what I am about to ask you. Be really posiitive and maybe you can get her to come around to your way of thinking. I know from experience, most woman can be talked into most anything, as long as you choose your words carefully. Have you ever heard the saying, men fall in love with their eyes and women fall in love with their ears...well...its true, you can sweet talk her into anything. . .
2007-11-17 10:31:31 · answer #6 · answered by lucylocket7258 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you be more specific?
12 years is a long time without your wife not knowing your desires - ask? Just surprise her with them one day!
2007-11-17 10:20:05 · answer #7 · answered by Leu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe just tell her that you want to spice things up and try these things that you are fantasizing about. Subtly tell her that you had a fantasy the other day and you thought that maybe you could do it
2007-11-17 10:16:23 · answer #8 · answered by biking for life 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have been married for 12 years and you cannot talk about sex? I would just ask her, no sense in beating around the bush.
2007-11-17 10:22:38 · answer #9 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her. Also ask her what she fantasizes about and make a compromise.
2007-11-17 10:40:12 · answer #10 · answered by SAHM/Part Time Tutor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude...12 years and you still don't have the balls to ask? It seems like a communication issue more than anything. Just ask.
2007-11-17 10:16:25 · answer #11 · answered by sassy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋