Can a man sign away his parental rights in Florida if the mother doesn't want him to? Does he still have to pay child support if he does?
And I don't want to hear anything about how it's his responsibility because it's not! It's her responsibility! I know the child didn't ask to be born but he didn't ask her to have or keep the child either. He didn't even know this woman got pregnant until recently when we got a letter from Child Support Enforcement. No one would dare tell a woman who got pregnant that she HAD to have the baby AND keep the baby because she "spread her legs". Women have options after getting pregnant and i think men should too.
2007-11-17 09:05:00 · 12 answers · asked by neet 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why does everyone assume he didn't wear a condom????
He said he wore one and that's why he doesn't think it's his.
2007-11-17 09:19:13 · update #1
Colleen - she also CHOSE to sleep with him, she CHOSE to rely only on a condom as birth control, she CHOSE to have this baby and she CHOSE to raise this baby - ALONE! SHE made the choice to raise this child, NOT HIM!
My husband is an excellent father to our children and i don't think he's a bad person for not wanting another one with his boody call from years ago!
2007-11-17 13:35:09 · update #2
If the law allowed a man to get out of child support by just signing away rights, there would be a stampede at all local courthouses.
But it is not right that she kept the pregnancy from you. You are right that you should have been involved from the start, not just for monetary reasons after the child is here.
Talk to a good lawyer or the child support office that served these papers. No matter how you feel, the child is here now. Get visitation and learn your rights.
You never know- this little one could offer you a lifetime of happiness. Please do not allow your rage (justifiable as it is) at the mother to affect your rights to be completely involved in all aspects of your child's life.
Think it over. Good Luck!
2007-11-17 09:17:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you can't just sign over your rights because you don't want to pay child support or have anything to do with the child.
I understand that you are upset and that you feel that you have been pushed into being a father to a child your did not want, but to be honest if your didn't wan the child, why did you have sex with her in the first place? Also why didn't you use some type of protection? I mean in this day and age you should be happy that the only thing you got was a baby and not AIDS!
Look be a man, go to court and tell the judge that you really don't want anything to do with this kid, but if paying child support keeps you from having any other responsibility, then i think your gonna have to pay. I don't agree with the way you think, but hey to each his own. Good Luck man, your gonna need it!
2007-11-17 09:21:48 · answer #2 · answered by sparkling_apple 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what the laws are in Florida, but if you have no connection to the child and didn't even know you had a child out there until now, I do believe that you need to sign away your rights of the child, it would be no different then the mother giving up the child for adoption, if you sign away your rights, it will give the mother a chance to move on and give that child a chance to be adopted by a man who can love him/her, and no, you don't have to pay child support if you sign away your rights, you will no longer have a connection to that child.
2007-11-17 09:14:47 · answer #3 · answered by tiny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you just found out then they have to pay for the paternity test. They cannot make you pay child support unless you signed your name on the child's birth certificate. The difference is if you are married to her. She then can put your name on the certificate with out you signing it. This is how it is in Ohio. I would not think that you can sign away your rights and get out of child support if she is not willing. If that were the case there would be a lot of men that do that. There are a lot of lawyers that will give you a free consultation. Get out the phone book and look for one. Make them prove that you are the child's father and do not do it willing without proof.
2007-11-17 09:15:33 · answer #4 · answered by kim h 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
when a man decides to have intercourse with a woman he becomes responsible for any results such as pregnancy, emotional attachment and disease. when a man impregnates a woman he is held legally responsible. it's the woman that has the choice to carry the child to full term, because it's her body. a mother doesn't have complete rights to give baby up for adoption and to this requires consent of the father. the father would need to show in court that it's for the best interest of the child before the court would authorize to terminate parental rights. The court can order child support no matter if the father ever sees the child.
2007-11-17 09:14:28 · answer #5 · answered by Liteson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO, he can't just sign over his rights without her consent. YOUR man should have put on a Jimmy hat if he didnt want kids...HE had control of becoming a father and HE chose not to handle his business. Women are 50% responsible for getting pregnant but she damn sure can't not get pregnant if dude takes on his 50%. Your man will have to pay child support.
2007-11-17 09:12:17 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, who knows the answer to your question other than the courts and child support office in Florida.
However, I think it would be prudent for the man to insist on a paternity test. I would not admire a man who turned his back on a child that MIGHT be his. I wouldn't respect him, admire him or love him.
However, you come across as a person who really doesn't care if this man turns his back on a child who might be his, you seem more worried that he has ties to another woman.
Are you insecure?
2007-11-17 09:48:28 · answer #7 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I did not read the comments made before me so i don't know what they said.. but first of all you need to ask a lawyer on this one...and if you wore a condom.. then do not assume the child is yours.. even if you did not wear one.. get a DNA.. only the women knows the child is hers. not the man.. if she sleep with more than one man it could be any of them.. believe me my step daughter named 2 men and she was just 16.. and each one was the only person she slept with.. we still do not know the daddy of that child.. and he is 7 yrs old.. but lucky for her a man in her past wanted a child.. unlucky for her he took that child away from her due to drug use and leaving rthe child all over the place..i finally got her to admit she don't know who the father is.. if you don't want the child and if she is the type to sleep with any one and you wore a condom.. your best bet is to let her take you to court and do a DNA.. chances are that child may not even be yours.
2007-11-17 09:29:39 · answer #8 · answered by vis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends upon the state. In California if the child is his he can sign away parental rights but not child support. If the man didn't want to possibly create a human life then he should not have CHOSEN to unzip his pants and drop his drawers...As soon as he made the CHOICE to have sex he also CHOSE to take on the responsibity of the consequences of HIS actions. One of the consequences to having sex is pregnancy. Obviously when he CHOSE to have sex he was not mature enough to do so as he hasn't done any growing up since making that CHOICE.
2007-11-17 13:20:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
if its his child he is responsible for the child support. its not the fault of the child. u cannot just sign away your rights, and what kind of real man would want to. your just angry that he will have to pay out some of the assetts, and u might have to give up something.
2007-11-17 10:45:14 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋