Some people are shocked when they hear 25 years of marriage and never been divorced/ Is divorce today expected

Question

Has society changed so much that when they marry they half expect to divorce?
Some women are even more shocked when they hear you had bad times and hard times and yet your marriage lasted that long
I mean those who have never married twice. Never been divorced
Some women say if you lasted that long he must have treated you right all those years and you never had an argument. I tell them that people are suppose to marry for the good times and the bad and they should grow and adapt. They say thats silly. They tell me when the sensual act gets boring, its either cheat or divorce or just walk away and disappear to start over. What do you say? are there any one still maried ater25 years or more and proud of it I tell them yes. They tell me if there are any they are living in agony and theman is cheating and the women accepts this I say nothing.

i dont think a marraiage of 25 years or more is based upon luck. It takes commitment of the mind body and spirit tthrough thick and thin/ to make it work. It takes trust and adaptability too.

Answer 1

well i think that marriage is just taken to lightly today ,they figure if they don't like it they can get a divorce .it doesn't seem like people a willing to work at it .marriage is a hard job and like anything it takes work to keep it good ,people work harder at keeping their cars nice than keeping their marriage healthy ,i have been married for 34 years and we have had five children we have also had hard times but we faced them as a team ,but out of 35 kids in my youngest daughters class only 3 kids parents were still married and now i think it is less

Answer 2

No its not expected but we live in what is called Lazy America no 1 communicates anymore ,its so easy to divorce nowadays that people just have a problem and walk out .

when i got married i was 23 and while Dancing to my wedding song i heard someone say that my Marriage wouldnt last a year ....we celebrate our 10th year wedding anniversary april 25th 2008 ...i live buy what i try to tell people all the time its called the TLC rule of Marriage

Trust
Loyalty
Communication

you need all 3 for a successful marriage ....

Divorce shouldnt be a convienence

Answer 3

Believe it or not, divorce isn't that easy. You have to go through a lot of red tape prior to even filing for divorce. I know I looked in up, at least in NY state.

I believe it's the way some children are raised or what their background is. Some marry to get the money in which they may receive in divorce.

There are some who stick it out, try their best and still can't make it work. I know I am one of them. I have tried for 4 years to get my husband to love me for me. I lost weight, not that I was big to begin with.

Some people just don't know what true love should be like and they marry the first person who they believe is there true love, even if their heart belongs to someone else. Some realize after they are married, that they were wrong and file for divorce instead of trying to make it work.

Note to Uncle Dodge: there are women out there less that 400 pounds who are eligible for dating then marriage. You must be looking in the wrong place.

Answer 4

My parents have been married 54 years. They don't understand why in today's culture that people divorce over the first bump in the road.

I'm divorced twice and in both cases the woman just quit. The first one only lasted a year with the 31-year-old woman running back to her mom. The second one was uglier with three kids over six years, when the woman (from the Philippines) fully intended to make me pay via divorce so her relatives in the Philippines could have the money I wasn't willing to send over.

If there's an honest woman who's eligible to marry and less than 400 pounds I haven't met her yet.

Answer 5

I'm not shocked to see people married 10, 20, 30, 40 or 50 years what shocks me is seeing an honestly happy married couple. Not the 80 year old couple that walks hand in hand in the park then goes home and curses each other out LOL

Answer 6

Its a fact of the times we live in.I must say when I know people who have got married i oftern wonder how long it will last,i think most marriages now days are lucky if they last 10 years.
You have to find a totally compatable partner to make it last long term,my marriage lasted just 9 years because of his constant affairs every 6 months or so,in the end what is a person to do put up and shut up I don't think so.

your lucky to have found your soul mate and to have lasted ,not all of us find their true mate we all think we do thats why we marry but divorce shows they are not the right one.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

I take my hat off to you and yours. Society has changed, people and kids are lazy. A long marriage is hard, it's a lot of give and take and people these day only want to take. People think marriage is a joke. I believe it was Brittany Spears who was married for fifty four minutes then divorced. Some people in society take marriage to lightly. When things get tough they take the easy way out," they bell".
I was married twenty years, I have spent over half of my life with my ex-wife tell one day she didn't want it no longer. She did give me two wonderful children and the best twenty years( twenty four if you count the four we dated before getting married) of my life and I'm thankful for that.

Answer 9

sadly yes! today a married couple has a 50% chance of getting divorced....that is just scary!

Answer 10

Hell when I was 25 years old I wasn't even married nor had I ever been.