We have been married for 14 years now and the last 5 years has been hell for us. We argue he has anger issues and we dont communicate. and I notice that recently I am having anger issues as well, which is not me at all. I really hate the whole situation. I told him for us to seek marriage counseling but he refuses because of the copay amount that we have to pay. What should I do please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-11-17 15:09:39 · 13 answers · asked by sleepless07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sometimes it comes down to moving on it's hard to face but if you don't get along why stay together.Please don't say you love each other because people who are in love does not argue all the time especially about little things. Sometimes when the threat of losing someone and by that i mean separation.Your flame has die and you need it lite so if you keep away from him it's all that much more he will want you back. My husband and i separated for 2 1/2 years and when we got back together it was like WOW we couldn't keep our hands off each other. We dated and did things as a family would the whole time we were separated. That was 10 years ago and we are still in love.
2007-11-17 15:47:39 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go to marriage counseling. If your husband is worried about the co pay, you can seek counseling from you church. It pains me to hear how quick people say the word "DIVORCE" as if they were buying a pair of shoes. There is another "D" worked that many so forget after they are married...DEVOTION!! If you are arguing, it's probably because 1. There are unresolved issues 2. The arguing has become a bad habit. Hey, I know it sounds crazy, but anything that you practice or do over time becomes a habit, good or bad. Go back and rediscover why you fell in love with each other and perform a task together such as cooking so the you can begin to solidify your bond. I hope for the best for you and your husband.
2007-11-17 15:20:47 · answer #2 · answered by MCW 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Out of 14 years, five? How about the 9 previous years? peaceful? If yes, then the two of you can easily find the solution to this problem. Discover what is it that has changed after year 9.
If no, then the two of you must be trutful to yourself. You really have to communicate with each other. Do you both want in or out?
2007-11-17 15:48:54 · answer #3 · answered by Ellis O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make a marriage work all by yourself...You need his cooperation and involvement...and by him refusing to seek counseling because of a copay...speaks volumes...He has very little concern for your marriage...
2007-11-17 15:16:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, sounds like my marriage and yes i em seperated now my husband had anger big time and i told him to get help and he made me very miserible , so i pretty much threw in the towel plus i got a pfa against him he got pretty violent throwen things and he hit me once acrossed the head while i was driving the car, ive been seperated for 8 months now and if your husband refuses to go to counseling for his issues it will never get better tc and gl to you i hope u make the right decision
2007-11-17 15:20:23 · answer #5 · answered by jewels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you 2 want to save your marriage i would get a loan to pay for some co-payments then ......everyone has a rough patch this is the real stuff to see if your marriage is built to last .....your backs are against the wall how are you getting out .....you going to fight to keep it ....or lay down and just give up
2007-11-17 15:18:22 · answer #6 · answered by Dan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In such cases, usually there is no issue to argue except your own ego.
Sleepless, don't go sleepless. Listen, if for once only you put aside your ego and do what he says, everything will go smooth. Do it and see. If it fails, abuse me most.
2007-11-17 15:17:58 · answer #7 · answered by sv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know that if he love you and want this marriage to work he would go to seek help no matter what he have to pay and maybe if you go to your guys Church it wont be that much if any wish you all well
2007-11-17 15:18:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your anger issues are not you, but his are? Sounds like double standards, to me. He doesn't need that. Leave him.
2007-11-17 15:14:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Plain and simple if he won't do counsling and ur unhappy then leave and find urself happiness!
2007-11-17 15:14:34 · answer #10 · answered by NONAME 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋