refuses to marry because he is not circumsized?

Question

my friend doesnt wanna marry this guy eventho they have been 2gether for over a year now. they r waiting to get married before having sex. she admits liking him but she doesnt wanna marry him cause hes not circumsized. she told him to get it cut, but he doesnt want to and he is actually proud of it.she wants my advice of whether 2 marry him or not. i dont know what to tell her. do u guys think she should marry him?

my friend wants him to do it bc of her religion. she is jewish, and he is not. supposedly he converted, but recently found out he didnt get it cut!!! my friend believes that it is more hygienic for her and him to have it cut if they r planning to have sex

Answer 1

This smacks of one religion trying to impose its beliefs on another one, and if this woman doesn't like him as he is and wants him to alter his body purely in the name of religious beliefs HE SHOULD TELL HER TO GET STUFFED AND WALK AWAY FROM HER AND ALL THAT SHE STANDS FOR. THIS IS 2007, not 1007

Answer 2

Good Grief!! Not marry someone because they are not circumcised? Neither my father, my husband, or my son are circumcised. What is her fear? Circumcision has become less popular as parents realize that there is no medical reason to circumcise. It is more of a social issue these days. If this is the only reason she is hesitant to marry this man, then she may want to rethink the relationship. It would not be fair to him either. If she is concerned about the sexual aspects of marrying someone who is not circumcised, tell her not to worry. In some ways it make it more pleasurable for the man and the woman.

Answer 3

Has he brought up the subject of female circumcision? No, I thought not. Who does she think she is, unless there is a medical reason any circumcision in this day and age should be seen as child abuse! He's better off without her as if she has any children from him, and they are boy children, she will obviously insist on the abuse carrying on to the next generation.
She could just get 'more man for her money' but she doesn't deserve him. Maybe for some backward thinking religious bigots having any form of relationship outside of their narrow rules list should be avoided, therefore not demanding others live by their archaic beliefs and ridiculous requirements which have nothing to do with the decency of the individual.

Answer 4

Well if I was a man I wouldn't allow anyone to tell me to get mine cut. It has been proven that they are less sensitive after circumcision and lets face it the natural state of a penis is uncircumcised.

If your friend has never had sex it shouldn't make any difference to her anyway - it's not like shes tried both and knows she prefers them cut!!

And what the hell has marriage got to do with circumcision anyway?? If she loves the guy she'll marry him - how would she feel if he told her to have a part of her body surgically removed or he wouldn't marry her??

She sounds like she should do some growing up before she gets married!!

Answer 5

Your friend might want to get better informed about the (parents) choice to have a child circumcised or not. The American Medical Association no longer endorses circumcision for medical reasons, only for religious ones. There is an organization, I believe based in California, called, No Circ which disseminates information on the benefits of not having your child circumcised. Perhaps your friend is uncomfortable with her fiance for religious reasons -- it sounds like she doesn't want to marry him if he is not circumsized and he doesn't want to get circumcised, so the answer is apparent.

Answer 6

if she is jewish and he has converted then this will be a problem, its not a case of her getting used to it. religion dictates that men are circumcised and they see uncircumcised men as dirty. my boys were brought up in islamic society and circumcised as babies as is the norm there, but my daughters living here have not had their boys done and my new partner is not however i find it a bit strange.

Answer 7

Circumsizion is a matter of personal choice. If the man in question is a person who practices ordinary hygiene (and I have to believe if he is uncircumsized he is) there is no reason for him to have to be put in a positon to decide whether or not he is willing to do this to please a partner. I wonder what she would say if he said,"one of your breasts is noticably larger than the other and it bothers me.Please have the excess surgically removed".

Answer 8

I'd say it's her choice... but seriously, for all the stupid reason not to marry someone, that's topping my list. Uncircumcised penises look the same as circumcised ones when they are erect (something she'd know if she'd had more sexual experience, but each to their own). She either loves him as is, or she doesn't. That's as bad as a man telling a woman he won't marry her unless she gets breast implants.

Answer 9

Well, it's not up to her to tell him to get circumcised.

If an employer hires you with a mohawk, he's stuck with you and the mohawk.

He was uncut before.

How riled would she be if he suggested SHE get female circumcision like the do in the middle east?

Answer 10

nothing to do with maturity here'.it's question of traditions,habits,religious background,culture,i drink alcohol but i can't eat pork cauz i grow up with the idea that pork is sin,in her case is difficult ,one of them has to sacrifice ,it's the same for him ,not easy or they should split up
above all last research said that circumcised men are better in bed than others!!