Marriage & Divorce - 10 November 2007

After a big argument and false accusations were made against me, I left my house with my new baby. I refused to come back home even though I really wanted to because I was scared. We went through a custody thing for a couple months. I really want to go home, but my husband says he doesn't know if he can "forgive me" because I was unappreciative of him when we were together and that I was cold. He said if I asked right now, he'd want a divorce but that could be different later, and he had to "fall back in love" with me. We've been separated for 3 months, and this past weekend I slept w/ him (after almost no communication for a while), then yesterday, he got mad at me because he received a bill from something a long time ago and told me he'd made so many sacrifices to make me happy and he didn't even want to talk to me! I have worked on a lot of issues, and am in counseling. How do I get a second chance?

2007-11-10 08:57:32 · 7 answers · asked by Morgan G 1

My dying ex-fiance (who is also my best friend) knows that I have a new bf. Yesterday, I told my ex that I loved him more than any other guy. But then he just said "I wish you were happy with your new guy." Then he gave me his cellphone, told me to take care of it for him. Then told me that he hopes my new bf enjoyed my cooking as much as he used to. My ex is now in his hospital deathbed, he has cancer, I don't know what to do. I love him more than my bf, but it's so hopeless. (We broke up cuz we decided we were better off as friends). But why is he letting me go already? I don't want him to die...

2007-11-10 08:53:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've moved out of our bedroom, separated our finances and if I could afford a lawyer right now I'd get one! I've tried being nice, thinking that would make it easier. But he goes through my checkbook to see what I'm spending money on, when I go out he calls to check up on me and gets mad when I don't answer. He actually sets his alarm clock for the middle of the night to see what time I get home. He constantly accuses me of cheating, which I am not. The only action I get is my vibrator!! He's been on Adult Friend Finder.com and answered at least 2 personal ads that I know of. Then there's Tasha from work who is in a tottaly different dept, but he called her at 11pm and doesn't remember making that call. That would be the best thing for me. I wish he would find someone else! But don't call me the cheater! I think he's even put spyware on the computer to see what I'm up to. So if he wants me back so bad, which is not going to happen anyways, why is he on the hunt for internet whores?

2007-11-10 08:47:24 · 13 answers · asked by mary rachel 1

My partner has an account on a live webcam site where he can tell girls to do whatever he wants while he masturbates. He doesn't have a webcam, only they do. If you were in my situation, would you end the relationship? Would you consider this cheating?

2007-11-10 08:43:03 · 17 answers · asked by weatherizbad 1

2007-11-10 08:34:53 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

i notice that the woman gets more angry at the other woman. when the other woman could have been an innocent party.
meanwhile the married woman forgives the hubby.
do women secretly hate each other and dont want each other to succeed.

even during elections?

catty??

2007-11-10 08:24:10 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-10 08:10:35 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

sexual activity whatsoever, would you leave them or support them?

I ask this because I received four thumbs down for answering "How important is sex in a relationship?" with "I believe that if you truly love someone that you can spend your entire life with them without touching them at all."

What is your opinion?

2007-11-10 08:09:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex will not move on. We have been seperated for over six months. He quit his job and got a lower paying?so child support would be lower for him. He claims to love the kids and me. How could he and quit his job. He has not given me money for then in over four months. What do I DO?

2007-11-10 08:06:00 · 3 answers · asked by Jazzy Faye 2

A friend of mine is getting divorced. It is a mutual divorce. They have been married for 4 years. They own no property, have no kids and owe less than $5,000 in credit card debt. Is a lawyer necessary in this type of divorce or can it be done on their own?

2007-11-10 08:05:55 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

What if you did not have feelings for your husband for a long time but knew you could not leave because you had no money ,no job and nowhere to go?

2007-11-10 08:02:50 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband can't spell the word "romance". He never gives me flowers, or compliment my cooking. I know he enjoys my cooking, by looking at his plate (gready). No hugs, Kisses? what's that. Bedroom activities are 50% out of 100%. I can take it, or leave it. At this point, I don't care. We have been married for five years. I don't suspect him of cheating, because he is always home. He work comes home, play the video game for hours, get on the computer for hours, look at tv for hours. Then goes to bed. When its time to get intimate, he has the nerve to get mad when I am sleep at 2am in the morning. 2am is when his little activites end. Believe me it's not worth waiting for. I rather go with out. In a nut shell, I don't feel appreciated. I keep a clean house, I cook, wash his clothes, take our son to school, and I work as a R.N. in the Emergency dept. which is very stressful. Before we got married, he was so romantic. He acts like a old man. We are both 38years old. I do love him. Help!

2007-11-10 07:58:39 · 8 answers · asked by Monique 1

whats the advantage and disadvantage of getting married early????

2007-11-10 07:54:35 · 15 answers · asked by jason D.C 4

Someone I know just got engaged. Yay! Wait, though. She's 23, he's 20. She's known him for 6 months. Neither of them have met the other's parents. But now they are engaged.

I'm very worried she is making a HUGE mistake. But I'm not that close to her, so I can't say much. And her mind is made up either way.

2007-11-10 07:50:28 · 13 answers · asked by IrishFan2011 3

I was thinking of posting a picture of myself on truth or dare.com as a suprise for my husband. He likes it when I show off.

2007-11-10 07:44:31 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm very depressed, have been for several months now. Every time I told my fiancé he said we don't have money for me to see a doctor. So I'm dealing with this on my own. Sometimes I cant stand looking at him I go and sleep on the couch. He really believes our relationship is GREAT!! I have started to be sad all the time. I feel he is making me worse. I want to leave but keep thinking of our son. I looked up an apartment that I might be able to afford a couple of weeks ago. Well they sent me an email about first month being free. Is this my sign that I should leave? I have been with my fiancé for 4 yrs. We, well he bought a house (my name not on house) and opened up a successful business. I stayed home raising our son for the first year. I recently just stared a job as a Cake decorator. Pay not great but I can try and make it work. I’m just so lost and confused on what to do. I've suggested counseling. But he thinks it stupid and a waste of money. HELP

2007-11-10 07:37:21 · 14 answers · asked by momma to 1 2

My ex-boyfriend who I dated 2 yrs ago and we are still great friends he is 20 and is engaged to a 15 yr old... He says he still loves me and wants to be with me... He has been with her a yr, she just found out her mom has terminal cancer and she really doesn't have any other family....He feels its his responsibility to take care of her.... I know its bad that I want him all to myself but im tired waiting my turn... she is young and has time to find many other guys... I am not in high school anymore I want a family now... what should I do? I am only a sitting duck? The evil side of me wants to burst her perfect life bubble and show her the emails and conversations he and I have everyday.... and the other side wants me to wait but I think after her mother dies he will feel responsible to marry her and take care of her and thats is the last thing I want... She is very mean to him and thats just cause she is young and inmature I know but he shouldn't put up with it either.... Help!!!

2007-11-10 07:37:13 · 52 answers · asked by Amber m 2

well me and my husband ben separatd for 2 months lastmonth i found out i was pregnant i tried to work things out with him but he refuse to hes alwyas ignoring me and he tells me that its not his child that someone tld him i sleep around which is a lie i know for sure , i never cheated on him and he never accused me either but i dont know why hes saying that when he know we usedun protected sex because he wanted a child and just cuase we're separated hes saying its not his, im tired and stressed out dealing with him and trying to tell him i need his support andfor him to be there for me, i dont know if hes just saying that cause he doesnt want it or he knows its his but dont want to be there, and women was orin y situation? i really need helpand good advices? will he be there at the end or what should i do to get over this.

2007-11-10 07:30:52 · 9 answers · asked by rhea 1

Been married for 3 years now. Great girl and i love her very much...but she suffers from depression and she sleeps alot. We also dont have as much in common as we thought.
Ive recently (and i know im a dirtball :( but ive started seeing someone. We have been physical, and we love being together and have a lot in common.
I just dont know what to do....im a very visible person in my community and we have lots of close friends. In other words i would have to quit my job and we would have to move if i did something drastic. I dont want to....but i also am not sure i can go without seeing this person. Its not some puppy love or phase, or lust. We genuinely have a great connection together.

2007-11-10 07:21:27 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok.... here it goes im 22 yrs old had a baby whn i was 16 and i havnt been with my sons dad in awhile but we still have sex is tht healthy or should i stop?

2007-11-10 07:19:20 · 21 answers · asked by tiff 1

i am very suspicious my husband is cheating on me because ever since he went into the military he is mean to me. In basic trainig i didn't get one phone call. His letters only talked about his daughter no hello to me or anything to my 7 yr old from previous marriage. he is now in ait he NEVER answers his phone. i have text messaged him i need closure and that i think he is cheating but he never responds. He called his daughter one time in the whole 4 months and i missed the call but he says on the voicemail the srgt made him call he does send the lowest legal amount but thats it. Other than that were dead to him he didn't invite me to the graduation from basic where they are allowed to sleep with wives for one nite on post. since he gets weekend passes in ait from sat at 5pm till sun 5pm he has been renting hotel rooms at the marrioot & spends lots of money atm debits of 300 dollars should i go up there and confront him since he never answers his phone or just consider him a cheater

2007-11-10 07:18:05 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am trying to find out how to go about changing a divorce order. I know I will need a lawyer to do what we are wanting to do. But we are going for joint custody of my husband's kids and also want to change his child support order to consider his present employment status. If anyone can help please let me know.

2007-11-10 07:05:55 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

had bought 4 leather sofas on the internet without waking you up? He felt he found a good deal and I could tell he was getting too excited. I told him before I went to bed not to buy furniture on the net at least untill we shop and see what we could buy locally. I woke up this morning and he had bought FOUR leather sofas. Not a sofa and loveseat or sofa and chair. I have 2 rooms of sofa pairs.I could have spontaniously combusted. He said I should be happy. What do you think? Would you be happy?

2007-11-10 06:53:27 · 16 answers · asked by BERT 6

I'm a single woman in her mid 40s and without children. I had spent a long time with one guy and we broke up a couple of years ago. As luck has it, I look a lot younger than my years and am frequently taken as a 30 year old. I also take good care of myself by keeping fit and eating very well. Because of this I am often asked out by guys in their twenties. The problem is, I am often attracted to them too. You might say 'what problem'? Ok, true, if an attraction is mutual why not go for it but in reality, I feel a bit insecure about the level of maturity of these guys and usually turn them down. I am not really attracted to men in my age group so I feel frustrated at this situation. I want to date a guy who is able to have a stable long term relationship with me. I fear that these 20 somethings are just looking for a fling or sexual experience with an older woman. Can these relationships really work..like real love? Or will the want a young girl for a baby etc?

2007-11-10 06:51:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with this guy for over 2 yrs now and we have a 5 month old baby girl. We get along great for the most part and he has been there for me in really hard times. I was hospitalized for 6 months in the begining of our relasionship and again for 2 weeks when I was pregnant, he was right there waiting for me and supporting me. He asks me everyday to marry him and I keep saying just a lil longer, is it time to say yes. I love him and do plan to be with him forever but I am just scared what do I do?

2007-11-10 06:50:46 · 15 answers · asked by Boo Boo Kitty Fuck 1

I STOP SENDING THEM BECAUSE SHE FOUND BUT NOW HE HAS A NEW PHONE. I WANT TO SEND HIM A VIDEO TO HIS PHONE I NEED TO KNOW HOW TO BLOCK MY NUMBER. WHAT SHOULD I SEND

2007-11-10 05:24:35 · 59 answers · asked by Anonymous

What are the steps involved in getting married? Please be specific. How do I get legally married in NJ. I know nothing about the legal/procedural process

2007-11-10 05:19:12 · 13 answers · asked by Jared 4

So I wrote this story/question... (Pretty funny I thought you should check it out here's a link http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Aj_tz3aswpeQ1IpT2yo6.GPsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20071110065925AA28QZ2 )

However, My wife did NOT find the humor in it and is draging my ole a** out for a new coat and pants.. am I the only husband out there that hates buying new stuff for myself? I would buy her the world but... I dun need anything as she IS my world so I'm good. Plus I hate shopping...

But ya, do other husbands dread the wife making you buy clothes?

2007-11-10 04:32:35 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife is divorced and after that she move to me and we have been married now for six years now. Once a year we live about a month close to her son and we meet with him as often as we can. He handle me very polite, but I can feel and actually even understand that he is looking at me as the guy who "stole" his mother from him and his father.

My problem is of course that I wonder if he will ever accept me, no matter how I act.

2007-11-10 03:21:56 · 13 answers · asked by Mr Innocent 2

Alarming new International Journal of Sexual Health study reveals casual sex (engaging in frequent, spontaneous sexual encounters with new and exciting partners) may only provide unimaginable pleasure and heart-pounding exhilaration for, at most, 25 to 30 years.

"People who participate in random, lovemaking sessions with sexually adventurous strangers should be advised that this type of behavior is only incredibly liberating for the first quarter-century or so," said Dr. Loren Sullivan of Yale University, coauthor of study, "Though sometimes it can be longer."

The study observed 100 sexually active volunteers who were not tied down by dull, passionless relationships and were therefore able to have sex with whomever they wanted, whenever they wanted.
A control group of individuals who were married or had otherwise allowed their erogenous zones to fall into complete and utter numbness was also monitored for comparison.

Researchers found those that achieved mind-blowing orgasms...

2007-11-10 02:57:14 · 22 answers · asked by ? 2