what do do when ure going through this separation and find out your pregnant?

Question

well me and my husband ben separatd for 2 months lastmonth i found out i was pregnant i tried to work things out with him but he refuse to hes alwyas ignoring me and he tells me that its not his child that someone tld him i sleep around which is a lie i know for sure , i never cheated on him and he never accused me either but i dont know why hes saying that when he know we usedun protected sex because he wanted a child and just cuase we're separated hes saying its not his, im tired and stressed out dealing with him and trying to tell him i need his support andfor him to be there for me, i dont know if hes just saying that cause he doesnt want it or he knows its his but dont want to be there, and women was orin y situation? i really need helpand good advices? will he be there at the end or what should i do to get over this.

Answer 1

sounds like his dening as dont want to pay for,or has he another girlfreind

Answer 2

Tho not the greatest choice, in your place I'd opt for an early saline abortion. No way would I raise a kid who wasn't planned for, and this one wasn't planned for.

Here are the four little rules my mama began hammering into my head when I was 13. And our little talks about sex, did indeed include abortion, and responsibility.

1. The most important decision you will ever make is who you marry. Choose with your head as well as your heart.
2. Have no children until your bond is strong, and have no more than you yourself can support. You may just have to
3. At any and all costs finish your education to qualify for those high paying jobs. It is likely that you will work sometime during your marriage, probably for decades…. Get paid for it. And remember, your kids and your education are forever…. Husbands, lovers and promises are not!!
4. Have a stash of cash no one knows about even if you are sure you will never need it. You absolutely will, and the more the better.



Personally, I am very pro life.... I love and honor life so much that I think every kid ought to have the things that can make his life everything it could be Every kids ought to be planned for and loved, long before conception....... private music lessons, private art lessons, symphony tickets, and great times that unfortunately, cost money.. At $250,000 buckos per kid to age 18, and that is with nothing like what I listed above. I also know as a kid I'd have been goddamn resentful and pissed, if I just "happened". Talk to Planned Parenthood, soon hon. The sooner, the easier.

You made a mistake in marrying a baby. Don't make another by becoming a single mom.... absolutely the worst of all possible worlds.... you will be lucky to find another husband. Most men aren't much interested in raising other men's kids (read all the stuff on here), so then you get forced into the trap of getting preggers again to trap a guy.... He'll stay about three years, then you now have two kids..... It's practically formula, hon. Ask any counselor.

Answer 3

You are married and you can put his name on the birth certificate if he is the dad. If he denies it he is the one that has to petition the court for a paternity test. He may never be there for you but make sure that he pays for his child. If you have not done so now is the time to consult a lawyer. He does not want to work things out so get rid of him. He is a low life since he does not want to take responsibility for his baby. You deserve so much better than that. It will be hard at first but you will make it. Good luck and congratulations.

Answer 4

Parenthood is easily proven with a DNA test. Have one done when the baby is born. The father, whether or not he wants to remain married, is responsible for paying support during this child's life. Like it or not, he can't get away from that. I think you need to concentrate on being a mom and figuring out why this loser is all you think you deserve.

Answer 5

A man when he is separated from his wife will assume,that having sex is his security; when he can't have sex with another.A course he isn't going to respond to getting back together,
because he was seeing someone else all along.Now that you are pregnant,it isn't going to change his mind.But there is something you can do after the baby is born file for a divorce and file for child support and that is 6% of his income and more to come.You will have to keep in mind that he isn't coming back to you and he won't talk to you about ..but he always want to have sex with you, and now that you aren't
new to the feeling of having sex you really don't need him to
please you,you can do it yourself.

Answer 6

you need a lawyer.
I wouldnt bother him about it any more. he has denied you,accused you and doesnt want to take responsaillity.
he doesnt trust you or he wouldnt have accused you by saying it wasnt his.
If there is no trust, then you have nothing to work with.
get yourself a good lawyer, and a councelor and move on with your life.
how about a single moms support group ??
talk with friend and family and ask them for there support.
by the sounds of it there support will be better than your husbands

Answer 7

Get an attorney. Have a court order for paternity tests. You cannot force him to be there for you but at least you can get financial support.

Answer 8

THAT SUCKS, BUT WHATEVER YOU DO, IF YOU HATE HIM, DON'T GET HIM INVOLVED WITH A BABY. IF YOU KEEP THAT BABY, GO OFF ON YOUR OWN. IT GETS TOO COMPLICATED WUITH A MAN YOU CAN'T STAND TRYING TO TELL YOU WHAT TO DO
AND FOR GOD'S SAKES, QUIT WHINING ABOUT HOW YOU NEEEEEEED HIM . YOU DO not NEED HIM TO BE THERE FOR YOU. mORE THAN LIKELY HE RARELY EVER WAS IN THE FIRST PLACE. GET STRONG AND GET ANGRY!!!!!!!
LIKE ME!!!!!!
SUCESS IS THE BEST REVENGE!
ONE DAY WHEN HE IS WHIMPERING ABOUT HIS CHILD, YOU SAY "WHAT CHILD? OH, HIM? HE'S NOT YOUR CHILD. thats MY child"

Answer 9

Tell him the truth and then if he gets mad then say it not just your fault its his to.