If a guy cheats on his wife, y do the women end up hating each other, when they should be hating the man?

Question

i notice that the woman gets more angry at the other woman. when the other woman could have been an innocent party.
meanwhile the married woman forgives the hubby.
do women secretly hate each other and dont want each other to succeed.

even during elections?

catty??

Anastasia...no decent man should be cheating.
AGAIN, why do you fault the woman. how do you know the woman knows the truth?

Answer 1

Well a real woman would be blaming herself as well. In most situations there are indications that the marriage isnt good. If the wife doesnt have sex with her husband or show him any kind of affection, then why is she shocked when he finds it elsewhere. Of course its the husband's fault, he should not have cheated but tried to sort out their differences. Some men have tried that, but the wife still withholds the sex and intimacy. If that is the case and the man isnt happy, he should leave her rather than cheating. There are so many reasons why a man doesnt leave the woman....financial security is one. Afraid of the unknown also plays a part. Cheating is easier than leaving a marriage, especially a long term one. Every situation is different and I am not condoning cheating. I am saying that a man/woman usually cheats for a reason and if those reasons are ignored then the woman should look at herself and what she wasnt giving her man. There are some men who cheat for the hell of it,. but I think those ones are in the minority. Blaming the other woman is the easy fix....then they dont have to look at themselves. They need to look at the bigger picture and wonder what role they played in seeing their husbands needing to go out and finding another woman.

Answer 2

I personally think it's because it's this unwritten code amongst women that IF YOU KNOW the person is married, then you should have walked the other way instead of cheating. Even if they didn't know, it's still kind of a hard pill to swallow and we put blame on everyone involved. Married women might forgive their spouse because anyone can walk away from a marriage but it takes special people to work through their issues. Some people feel that means even if a spouse cheats, you try and work it out before ending in divorce. I am a strong believer in working it out, but I can't say for sure I'd be able to stick around if my husband cheated on me. As for putting blame on someone else, everyone deals with hurt and anger in different ways. If everyone is open and honest, and stands by their vows and committments in marriage, then cheating shouldn't happen in the first place.

Answer 3

I have been thinking and saying the same thing, why be mad at the woman instead of the guy? Another thing I have thought about, why does a woman (married or in a relationship) constanct nagging and become less sexual. And when the guy find it else where she want to blame him then switch to the woman rather than herself. I don't know what it is....thanks for asking and now I can see what the other ladies have to said about this question.

Answer 4

Hate is a pretty strong word, however I know women who ended up hating the man, and some women hating both. Not every woman is like what you described. But probably the majority are that way. Maybe it's because women are very protective over their husbands and thinks that the "other woman" stuck it to them, put a knife in their back and so on. Different strokes for different folks I guess......

Answer 5

Who gets madder at the other woman? I held my husband 100% responsible and was mad as he** at him. I do think that if a woman or man, for that matter, knows someone is married, then they need to be responsible for their part in it, but if the cheater was also lying to them, they are as much a victim of the cheaters deceit as the spouse.

Forgiving is another matter; it is a personal choice someone makes. I am not catty at all or jealous of other women who may be younger or more attractive. I believe beauty is in ourself and how we interact with others. But, then again, I am not the sort who likes gossip, either; I'd rather praise someone than knock them down.

So...don't put any group of people into one category. Each person or individual is unique.

Answer 6

it's part of the idea of 'chicks before *****'. There is a special trust between women, like a contract. No decent women should take anothers man. In a weird way, it's about posession. When it comes to that sort of thing, women look at it as, 'she's taken my man away from me'. it's a betrayal to womankind to do that. We are a complex sex

Answer 7

Because....when it comes to sex...most men are weak! Sorry guys....but which one of you would say no if it was laid in front of you?

Married men probably don't go looking for fun as much...but a lot of single women (and some married ones as well)...like the conquest of trying to win a man's attention.... even over his wife or gf. It's called egomania.

If we love our man we make excuses for him as if he is the victim here...because a standing p...k has no conscience. We expect the sisterhood to realise this and be loyal, and when there is disregard for these rules we get our claws out!

Answer 8

Because a woman does not like to know that another woman has had her man & that pisses her off. So she begins to see everything as the other womans fault instead of the jerks fault.

Answer 9

I have often wondered this myself. I could see if it were her sister or her friend. Usually the other woman only knows what the liar has told her. I guess maybe it is easier to blame her than to think that it was their husbands fault. I would not forgive for cheating.

Answer 10

Because the woman was really hurt and its easier to hate someone you don't know than the person you still love.