Someone I know just got engaged. Yay! Wait, though. She's 23, he's 20. She's known him for 6 months. Neither of them have met the other's parents. But now they are engaged.
I'm very worried she is making a HUGE mistake. But I'm not that close to her, so I can't say much. And her mind is made up either way.
2007-11-10 07:50:28 · 13 answers · asked by IrishFan2011 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It was nice of you to care, but it sounds like she will do what what if wants to do.
2007-11-10 07:54:27 · answer #1 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is just "someone you know" not a great friend then? "But I'm not that close to her"? So why are you bothered? Many people meet and marry within 6mnths, so sure are they. They have just become engaged, not walked down the aisle. The whole point of an engagement is to show that you are committed and INTEND to marry, it is a period of time in which to reflect that you are ready to commit to this particular person. Many engagements are broken, not all lead to marriage. Say nothing, just let her get on with it, I really cannot understand why you are so concerned, even if she were your best friend you should respect her choice regardless, as nothing more than acquaintances by the sounds of it, your concern is inappropriate.
2007-11-10 16:04:00 · answer #2 · answered by Willow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long do they plan to be engaged? If they are not planning to marry right away it will be alright. They will have time to get to know one another better and to meet each others families. Even if you were close to her she might not listen to you. If they are going to rush into the marriage there is not much you can do. Sometimes we have to learn from our own mistakes. Maybe you could form a better friendship with her and be there for her when she needs you later.
2007-11-10 16:04:32 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only 6 month and have not meet the soon to be inlaws.. well if the inlaws live close by i would wonder why they have not met them.. any way 6 months is really kinda quick.. i would say bad.. but if her mind is made up there is nothing you can do to change it. just be there for her incase she needs you
2007-11-10 20:54:20 · answer #4 · answered by vis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you're not that close and her mind is made up, it doesn't matter what anyone thinks. I married my younger husband after only knowing him for 8 months. Well, here we are, 15 years later...
2007-11-10 15:56:00 · answer #5 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately this person needs to make her own mistakes, and as you stated you 2 are not that close..so sorry to sound so harsh but its really none of your business... why are you concerning yourself with someone else's life that your not even friends with? hummm
2007-11-10 16:00:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it probably a bad idea but there may not be anything that you can or should do about it.
One of her close friends or family should talk with her.
2007-11-10 15:56:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your right her choice is already made, all you can do is support her choice and if it fails then she lives and learns about it, but untill then all you can do is be happy for her like if you made that choice you would want others to be happy about your choices that you make.
2007-11-10 15:54:33 · answer #8 · answered by Nessaja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's your friend, its really not up to you. if shes happy then be happy for her. who knows maybe it is the real thing? but if not then she needs to find that out on her own.
2007-11-10 15:56:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not bad at all. None of your business.
2007-11-10 16:01:00 · answer #10 · answered by csiders30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋