Marriage & Divorce - 10 November 2007

My husband dated a gal eleven years ago. He has told me that he fell in love with her and wanted to marry her. When he asked her, she rejected him and said she wasn't ready for marriage. My husband told me this woman left him to find a man who didn't want a commitment.

I am not questioning my husband, but doesn't that sound strange? My husband also told me (last night in fact) he is not in love with this woman, he loves me. But he does have love for her, just is not in love with her. (Thinks about her sometimes and hopes shes doing ok. Wherever she might be. His words. ) I had no idea how to respond. When he noticed that I was speechless, he started apoligizing, telling me he shouldn't of said anything.

I trust my husband, and I know he loves me. Very much. I know that he wouldn't leave me. But...how do you respond to something like that?!

2007-11-10 13:17:18 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-10 13:08:54 · 12 answers · asked by reeder3878 1

men only what do you like done to you.

2007-11-10 13:08:30 · 13 answers · asked by Cally D 1

My boyfriend will be overseas for 5 months when he comes home. We have been talking over e-mail and phone whenever we get the chance. We know that there are dramatic changes that are going to take place and we are willing to make those changes. But because we both live in two different states because of his job, we dicided that we both don't want to be apart from each other anymore.
Can anyone give me advice? What should I do? We want to move in together in January right after he gets home.
If we do move in together, can anyone tell me what it's like living with your one true love?

xoxo
K.M.

2007-11-10 13:06:00 · 25 answers · asked by KAY 2

Well, me & my bf have been dating for 4 months, we look great together, he's got an amazing personality and mind, and he also is VERY attractive.

But, I've always had very rocky relationships in the past, and they usually ended up in me breaking up with them or cheating. Now, I'm much more mature with this relationship and I haven't even a thought of ever cheating on him. I love him very much.

But every night before I go to bed, I always have this really strong feeling to break up with him, and when I go to bed that night, dreaming about breaking up and I wake crying at around 3:00 each time.

Is it my intimadation of the relationship? Or what?

Please help I'm confused.

Much love,
Maddi. <33

2007-11-10 12:57:23 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-10 12:55:40 · 23 answers · asked by azprincess 4

is she cheating on me or not

2007-11-10 12:40:08 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am in my late twenties and have had a 4 troubled year relationship with an amazing girl five years younger than I. She suffers from a terrible abusive past, with many unresolved issues stemming from her father's prolonged sexual abuse. She eventually put him in prision for this, and has done much to put her life together. She is extremely bright, as she is putting herself through college (majoring in engineering and mathematics), and a very kind and loving person. Still, she has a lot of trouble with jealousy, self-worth, and self abuse. We have now been apart for some months, each of us dating other people. Despite our problems, our love for each other brings us back together again and again. I learned that the slept with a "friend" of mine that even lived in my home for some time. In my extreme anger, I told each of their signifigant others about how they had cheated on them, sabotaging their relationships. Any thoughts/suggestions? I can't seem to stop loving her.

2007-11-10 12:39:31 · 9 answers · asked by lost in thought 2

This girl had gone out walking to a party, and after it was over she walked home but instead of going on the road, she took the back road you know between all the houses, the dark alley, well there was this guy at the end of the road watching her, and she prayed that God would protect her and just kept going, and then she passed up the guy and the next day there was a report on the news that this girl had been raped RIGHT WHERE THAT GUY WAS BY THAT GUY! She reported to the cops that she saw that guy waiting to hurt someone or whatever he was doing, and she had to go through a line up of men and she said "thats him" They said "Are you sure" she said yes, i need to talk to him. So, they let her talk to him and she asked the guy (the rapist) How come you got her and not me? He said...: "Because there were 1 men on each side of you" "God had sent his angles to protect her, that is why that guy left her alone.

2007-11-10 12:29:14 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Relationship wise, cheater? sweet? a**? ETC................................................................................................................................................................................ the most honest Man will get 5 stars!!!

2007-11-10 12:27:53 · 17 answers · asked by Conteplative 3

Why did you get married? And if you've been married for a while, are your feelings still the same for your spouse?

2007-11-10 12:27:52 · 8 answers · asked by ♥Kimchi♥ 4

for the past 2 months i've been severely stressed out with school and home and i sort of feel depressed it's said that my uncle and grandpa take zoloft, but back to the 2 months i'am constantly been yelled at at home and barley get anything in school and i don't know how much more i can take before i actually run away cuz im not gonna kill myself or go emo i just need to get away, and right now my gf the only thing keeping me going, so thats y I'm staying cuz i can't live without her.

2007-11-10 12:27:40 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-10 12:27:02 · 13 answers · asked by JustWondering 1

WOULD YOU RATHER HAVE: #1- a man that you had tied around your pinky, wanted to be with you all the time, was deeply in love with you, was at your beck and call, wouldn't cheat on you, was jealous, didn't have much of a backbone to stand his ground, but would do anything for you...... OR #2- a man who offerered you a challenge, loved you and treated you with respect, one that you wondered if he'd cheat on you or not, one who kept you on your toes who wasn't always predictable, and one who had his own life and occassionally wanted his own time to do things...

2007-11-10 12:24:51 · 11 answers · asked by Shelber 2

We have three children 4, 8 and 10 years old. I understand that in order to keep my children with me I have to show some reason to divorce judge. I have the reason - my wife is drinking. The question is how to document her drinking. Should I contact local police station when she comes home drunk? Or neighbors? How to do it right to present in court?

2007-11-10 12:21:26 · 9 answers · asked by OlegB 1

ive actually seen grown men do this too.

2007-11-10 12:17:02 · 15 answers · asked by Hi 1

He says it is because he feels fat and unattractive. Don't men want it not matter what? I mean I present myself well. I am attractive. I have other men who think my husband is an idiot. Although, they do not know why he doesn't want to do it. My husband says for me to make the first move. I get my thong on and wear a sexy top with no bra when we go to bed and I message him. Still nothing. Help!

2007-11-10 12:14:21 · 30 answers · asked by N8TIVEHUNNIE 1

My 5 year old step son told me that his daddy stayed the night with him and slept in the bed with his mommy. Is this fantasy/wishful thinking or do kids just not make up stuff like this?

2007-11-10 12:13:32 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for 8 years and have 2 kids. My husband is a functional, binge drinking, alcoholic. For 3 years I have told him I have not been happy with the marriage and we need to seek counseling. I did so on my own for three years. I feel like my husband has been a teenage son rather that a spouse and I am burnt out. I think he may be bipolar also. Mood swings and depression. He currently is not drinking, (that I know of) and says he will not drink anymore. I finally decided after the past 3 years that I do want to separate and NOW he wants to go to counseling. He says he knows he has issues but he says I do too. After 3 years I have come to terms that this marriage is over and I am ready to move on. He is ready to try, I think a bit too late. He is saying that some of the way he is is because of me. Now I am feeling wishy-washy and 2nd guessing my decision! Thoughts anyone...

2007-11-10 12:10:46 · 10 answers · asked by Q T pie 2

I am 51 next week and have been cancer free for 7 years. I have wanted a pink ribbon tattooed by my ankle (about 1" tall). I have wanted this for the past four years and have not changed my mind. My husband is against it, he doesn't like tattoos (we have been married 29 years). How can I help him to understand this tattoo is my "badge of honor". He said maybe one time, and he suggested it be put where it doesn't show.....I want it to show!! Any suggestions?

2007-11-10 12:07:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am 18 years old

2007-11-10 12:01:25 · 12 answers · asked by bla 1

My wife and I have been married a little more than a year, but have been sleeping in seperate rooms since April (per her request for space). I have never cheated, lied, abused her or lacked in responsibilities and yet she treats me horribly. Her reason is that "she has no feelings for me". We are both Christians and went through Christian counseling prior to being married. Once we had problems we went back to the counselor who encouraged us to increase our relationship with God. I did so, she did not. In fact she refuses to go to church with me and spends every weekend with her family. I consider divorcing her almost everyday. I have not had sex, a home cooked meal, a hug, a kiss or a kind word since April. I work long hours and this marriage is taking its toll. Any advice from a Christian perspective as to how I can better deal with this situation. I do not believe divorce is an option, but some days I wish she would give me the papers and I would definately sign. thanks

2007-11-10 11:56:26 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-10 11:55:20 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have a 2 year old together and he has a 3 and 5 year old with his ex girlfriend. My concern is not for my son as he has always seen mommy and daddy together. However I am concerned for my step children. They have a basic idea that I am daddy's girlfriend but how do we explain that we are now married (4 days ago). Sometimes the 5 year old asks why doesnt daddy live at his mommy's house. i mean how do we explain to a 5 year old that his parents are not together nor will they ever be together again and daddy is now married to me and what that means?

2007-11-10 11:47:48 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-10 11:39:44 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have be seperated and we have been working on our marraige and everytime we see each other it is me going to see him . I feeling like I'm the only one putting any real effort at trying to make it happen for the relationship.
I'm the only one doing any ground work, spending money and
energy and taking time to drive to see him . Is that truly fair when he could come see sometimes?

2007-11-10 11:28:50 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

well my uncle and aunt divorced about 3-4 years ago. They got married when they were young and had 2 children. Alex-5 Ian-3
Well they got divorsed when alex was 1. Since then My uncle has been living with his mom. (my grandma) and everytime he has time with the kids i baby-sitt them and he spends no time with them. Today when i was done baby-sitting them he spent time with them but they were really sad that we left and started to cry because they really like me. What should i do?

p.s. My uncle got fired from his job and he lives with a friend and there house is so dirty and gross what should i do. Thankx for reading and thanks for answering.

2007-11-10 11:27:59 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Wife acuses him of adultry because he talks intimnately with the next door neighbor for hours with the wife always present.
He nevers sees this neighbor without his wife being present
Hes careful that way. His wife never joins in the conversation but endures the deep sensuaous words. He always leaves with the wife and she says he does his huband act at night

she says he is commiting adultry with his words. Do you agree. They have been married ten years. Just before they go over for the conversation he always buys her the wife gifts which she loves. He never forces her to go over there. When she doesnt fell like going he wont go. The two ladies are best friends. They remain on good terms and are still bestr friends

2007-11-10 11:15:28 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My first year anniversary with my husband is fastly approaching, and I want to do something really nice for him. He has always been there for me. We have had a tough first year, my father was admitted to the intense of care on the day of our wedding...and died a few days later. I never would have made it through without his support...our funds are significantly low, so if anyone has any great ideas that does not require money...I'm all ears. Thanks in advance....

2007-11-10 11:11:23 · 7 answers · asked by Pandora 4

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2007-11-10 11:10:41 · 4 answers · asked by Claudio F 1