I am 51 next week and have been cancer free for 7 years. I have wanted a pink ribbon tattooed by my ankle (about 1" tall). I have wanted this for the past four years and have not changed my mind. My husband is against it, he doesn't like tattoos (we have been married 29 years). How can I help him to understand this tattoo is my "badge of honor". He said maybe one time, and he suggested it be put where it doesn't show.....I want it to show!! Any suggestions?
2007-11-10 12:07:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have no tattoo's and neither does my wife. I'm not usually for them..... Under the circumstances, I support you 100%. Go get yours! You deserve it!
I lost my mother to that horrible disease!
2007-11-10 12:14:46 · answer #1 · answered by Mulligan 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a breast cancer survivor and my husband has suggested getting a tattoo to hide the radiation tattoos. There are alot of women living a dying with cancer. I understand why you want to get it. Does your husband just not like it or is there some moral issue that he has with it. Maybe put it somewhere that is not exactly visable all the time, but can be if you want it too be. Like your shoulder or the small of your back. But it is your body and unless it is going to cause lasting problems in your marriage, I would go for it, he will probable get use to it.
Good luck and congrats on being cancer free.
2007-11-10 20:22:04 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't like tattoos either and suggest you stick with less permanent ways to advertise.
Saying that, this is obviously something that you have thought about for a long time and want a great deal. Even though your husband is against it, he should understand and respect your wishes.
2007-11-10 20:15:43 · answer #3 · answered by Rosie S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your body, while you respect his opinion, do what makes you happy! I mean this is something that shouldn't have a big impact on your marriage, its just a personal decision. I mean if he doesn't like red are you gonna band red from your wardrobe when its your favorite color? I hope not! The point is it doesn't define your relationship in any way! So it shouldn't be a big deal to him even if he personally wouldn't get it.
2007-11-10 20:12:18 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs.G-unit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off ... congratulations on being cancer free for 7 years!! That's awesome ... Second off ... it's your body and since you went through the hell of chemo, losing your hair, feeling like not going on ... I think you owe yourself that tattoo ... I'm not big on them either and your husband needs to realize that this is something your need for you ... just tell him your getting it and believe it or not he'll get over it ... and if he doesn't than at least its not his name :)
Best of luck to you and may you remain cancer free!!!
2007-11-10 20:15:37 · answer #5 · answered by emnari 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Need to respect your Man there girl!
How about an anklet with a pink ribbon as a compromise???
2007-11-10 20:18:29 · answer #6 · answered by Nana Butterfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, it's your body. second, it's a tasteful tat. not a piece of sh*t so many people get now. third and most important, it IS a badge of honor. i'd have it done. it's something you really want and have earned - so to speak.
congrats on being cancer free.
2007-11-10 20:18:54 · answer #7 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what are his reasons? If they are out of concern for you from a health or psychological reason, then it may be worth your considering. Such concerns like: "well, you could get infected, or you shouldn't trust those people because of..."If it is for other reasons, then you may want to just do your thing. Other reasons could be things like "it's trashy" or "it's not right for a woman of your age to get a tatoo." I hope you make the best decision for you.
2007-11-10 20:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by matt 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him about it... explain to him how importan that is to him.. but don't get it if he doesnt agree. a marriage is two people not just one.. when you marry you join your life to another... you are no longer alone..therefore decisions should be based on both people's decisions... I'm sure you guys can compromise on it...
good luck...
2007-11-10 20:37:07 · answer #9 · answered by DatDrMaHeLuvs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try a fake one first to see his reaction.if he freaks out,tell him it's fake and let it go at that.if he doesn't mind as much,then get the real one.congratulations on being cancer free!god bless!
2007-11-10 21:14:32 · answer #10 · answered by bratt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋