We have three children 4, 8 and 10 years old. I understand that in order to keep my children with me I have to show some reason to divorce judge. I have the reason - my wife is drinking. The question is how to document her drinking. Should I contact local police station when she comes home drunk? Or neighbors? How to do it right to present in court?
2007-11-10 12:21:26 · 9 answers · asked by OlegB 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Once you make the accusation in your Court papers, the Court will require arbitration. The arbitrator will study / research each Parent and make a recommendation to the Court.
2007-11-10 12:29:13 · answer #1 · answered by Nana Butterfly 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your wife is an Alcoholic, try taking her to an AA meeting. If you do not Know where on is in your area, Look in the Yellow Pages of the Phone Book under Alcoholics Anonymous. I don't know what State you are in, but in Texas you can File for Divorce for " Irreconcilable Differences". No one has to be at Fault. BUT, Think Hard about being a Single Parent!!!!!! I was for about 10 Years until my kids got old enough to Fend for themselves. It is a TREMENDOUS AMOUNT of RESPONSIBILITY. You will have NO Personal Life. I Know. People used to call me Mr. Mom. For me My Kids Came First... I just had to Wait. Learn how to spend a Whole Lot of Time either At Work, At School, and at Home. I did, and I do not regret One Minute of it. God Bless and Good Luck.
2007-11-10 12:41:56 · answer #2 · answered by John R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe your wife may be going through some things that bothers her, perhaps she don't want to face you and tell you about it. For her to develop drinking problem, there must be a reason behind it and I will suggests you find out what it is and help her to stop her behavior. Before you consider divorce, it's best to consider the effect of it to you and to your kids? How will the kids take? What would be best interest of your kids? Consider all the advantages and disadvantages of divorce and if fits your interest and you wanted to continue with divorce, you will need to prove that she is unfit mother and she is a risk hazard to your kids safety/interests. To prove this you may hire a legal investigator to document and record your wife's behaviors, if she care for their safety, well being and well fare. or have abstracts from the police department is any, for his drunken behavior. If can't prove with no reasonable doubt that she posses safety hazard to your kids, forget about having the custody of your kids.
2007-11-10 22:24:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the first time I answer a question. I felt that it's important. I'm sorry to hear about you and your wife. I've been reading books and websites about how to save marriages. I believe that your marriage can work. For the sake of the kids, you should try to work things out. If your wife finds out that you want to divorce her because of drinking, then she if not drunk when you tell her, will more likely choose you. Just like someone else who answered your question said he told his mom to choose him or drinking and she chose him. I'll recommend one site that can help http://www.divorcebusting.com/ . If you talk to a lawyer he's just going to convince you to divorce. It's not his job to help you work things out, but he can help you destroy your marriage and he'll get paid. I hope everything turns out for the better for you and your family. Please consider working things out for the kids sake. Yes, you can marry someone else, but the real mommy is just not the same.
2007-11-10 13:53:26 · answer #4 · answered by hope 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it just her drinking? I agree that you should consult a lawyer before doing anything. You could just do an intervention-type thing. Tell her she either stops drinking completely today or you are leaving, taking the kids, and filing for divorce. Believe me, I understand what alcoholics are like. I put up with my drunk mother for most of my childhood. Once I left the house, I told her she either had to choose me or the booze. She picked me and hasn't had a drop since.
2007-11-10 12:30:58 · answer #5 · answered by Fall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No find out when she is driving drunk then call the highway patrol.
Also, document every time she gets drunk or is intoxicated.
Also tell the judge you can provide a more stable and better life for the kids financially emotionally etc.
This may shock her into getting help.If it does work with her for the kid's sakes.
It will take the power of GOD to break her addiction ,try the United Pentecostal church they have a treatment program for alcoholics and druggies.
2007-11-10 12:29:34 · answer #6 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know she drives home drunk, then you can call the cops on her. That way, she has a DUI. However, just drinking and taking a taxi home or getting a ride home, won't most likely go in your favor. If she gets violent when she drinks, then you should document it and call the cops. Other than that, you are most likely screwed because you are a guy.
2016-03-14 07:31:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The local police aren't going to give a damn that your wife comes home drunk unless they catch her driving under the influence. Why would you bother the neighbors to watch/spy on YOUR wife. You have to show TANGIBLE proof of her drinking, empty bottles in hiding places, neglect of the children, the children testifying TRUTHFULLY (that means you don't coach them or tell them what to say or how to say it) as to how their mother treats them.
2007-11-10 14:38:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
better ask a lawyer on this one.. you don't want to make any mistakes.. and if she starts a fight.. a bad one with you while drinking you can call the cops.. that way you have proff... but talk to a lawyer first before you do anything.. most will give a free consultation
2007-11-10 12:26:08 · answer #9 · answered by vis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you get in contact with a really good divorce lawyer, you can find more information here http://www.insightempire.com/Divorcelawyerconsultation/ hope that helps
2007-11-12 10:30:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋