Marriage & Divorce - 10 November 2007

Shes in her twenties
hes in his early thirties
They agreed to swap partners when they got married/
Four friends married foir days apart and agreed to this
after years of happiness doing this. She is the only one of the four that wants to quit. She continues but dont know how to bow out
She said it not being unfaith since All four agreed before they married
There are no children
Is this wrong or do they have the right to do what they wish as long as it doesnt hurt society? Maybe it does hurt society and they dont know it.

2007-11-10 11:03:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My partner and I are always looking for something different to do we dine out, dancing, entertain,BBQ's, love having our grand children over, from time to time our adult children bring friends over which we love, we have quite nights, go to bingo.Genuine replies thankyou

2007-11-10 11:01:51 · 7 answers · asked by Kaye B 6

2007-11-10 11:00:27 · 9 answers · asked by Thomas M 1

HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-11-10 10:56:32 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I STOP SENDING THEM BECAUSE SHE FOUND BUT NOW HE HAS A NEW PHONE. I WANT TO SEND HIM A VIDEO TO HIS PHONE I NEED TO KNOW HOW TO BLOCK MY NUMBER. WHAT SHOULD I SEND I really need to know from someone who has done it.We been together going on three years. I know he thinks about leaving her. We never discuss his marriage. It started out as a casual thing. Now we are in love. I think everyone deserve to be happy.

2007-11-10 10:56:10 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for 5 yrs in Jan and we have been together for 7 yrs and last month my husband walked out on me..He has been cheating for the last 2 months with a high school friend.. It hurts knowing that he turned his back on me.. He will not even talk to me...The part that I am confused about is that I still love him and I am having a hard time letting go...

2007-11-10 10:54:28 · 39 answers · asked by HEART BROKEN 1

What does it mean when your husband of 6 yrs meet a female and becomes good friend with her and her husband but will never allow you to meet either one,because he says they're his friend and not mine but he also talk to the girl alot on line or the phone but he work and comes home all the time.My heart doesn't believe he is cheating but my mind really make me wonder why he is so secertive.He tells me there only freinds. But I am his wife and why can't I meet this so called friend,what is the big deal. any advice mind wondering,someone please help.

2007-11-10 10:50:03 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex-fiance and I just moved into together in august. Since then it has been nothing but drama. He is verbally and emotionally abusive toward me. I have asked him to leave and he states he will when he feels like it. He is always drinking and always complaining about one thing or another. the utilities are in my name. I also have two children and they have adjusted very well to the area, and school. I dont feel I should be the one to leave, I moved them once to be with this man. Is there anyhting I can do to make him leave?

2007-11-10 10:49:30 · 5 answers · asked by Sarah B 1

me and my wife has recently seperated.... she says she wants to spend more time with her friends and family but ive told her i dont care what she does as long as she is home with me at night... is that to much to ask?? she said that i want to love on her too much or something like that but i thought that you was suppose to be very close when you get married but i guess i was wrong... is it something ive done??? whats the deal and what should i do?????

2007-11-10 10:43:30 · 7 answers · asked by dragonhead_85 1

Neither one of us is having an affair. My desire is about 0. I want to have sex but it just seems that we just don't . We have been married about 18 years. 2 teen kids. I would be happy to have it now only because it has been so long. I think I would like to have it with other people but I would NEVER cheat. It is wrong.

2007-11-10 10:39:54 · 10 answers · asked by Shelly K 1

Is emotional abuse, rage attacks, and neglect, no communication, low intimacy, and putting the marriage and family as a last priority an acceptable reason to give up a bad marriage to God ? Even if you have worked hard keep it together. Not to mention having gone to marriage counseling, reading books , etc. And made many attempts to revive and repair the ailing marriage. Including a tremendous amount of self sacrifice and putting ones own needs on the back burner for years in order to keep things together while the kids were growing up. Even though he has been semi stable financially speaking but shamefully lacking in every other way. He is selfish and plays a lot of mind games. He usually ends up getting his own way even if he has to do his will without consulting with his wife, or getting her OK or her blessing.
He acts like a part time father and husband. He only participates when he feels like it and on his own terms. When do you know it's time to throw in the towel

2007-11-10 10:39:37 · 14 answers · asked by haditforgood 2

I would rather be able to speak French or Italian than have good looks. Or be able to undestand Wall Street and all of it's complexities. Or understand how international finance is conducted between nations of substance. I wish I could listen to a friend and hear a problem and give the right answer to solve their problem.


Your thoughts please

2007-11-10 10:34:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

just curious

2007-11-10 10:34:15 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

Among several other stupid problems they have, she needs advice on what to do in this particular situation..
So yesterday morning, she was running late for work..he was aware of that, and he was supposed to drive her to work so he could use her car. She needed to leave at 7:45a to be at work at 8:30, well it was now 10-8a, and she was rushing. Well, in the middle of all that, he wanted to have sex before she left, and she said no because she was gonna be late, and this is a new job. Well what did he do? He put the covers over his head, and completely ignored her . COMPLETELY!!! She ended up driving herself to work (which she didn't mind). But the point is that when he doesn't get his way, he pouts like a little boy! It's STUPID! And to top it off, he begins to talk when HE is ready..no apology, no responsibility of his actions. And he acts like nothing ever happened ..business as usual...HELL NO! She's tired of dealing with him. So what does she do?

2007-11-10 10:25:30 · 17 answers · asked by ~fullofluv~ 2

Hi

wondering what people think of infidelity in marriage when the incident was premeditated and planned, as opposed to a heat of the moment lost control thing

if it is premeditated ie talked about in advance between say the husband and the other woman, do you think that makes a difference in terms of:
1) what it says about his marriage?
2) whether it will likely happen again?
3) feelings involved etc?

i guess i believe that planned infidelity is worse as there is more opportunity for the married person to take stock and let their conscience intervene, but i am keen to hear others' opinions

2007-11-10 10:17:49 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I often wonderd what the the difference is between what men consider cheating and what women consider cheating. I have heard men , scientist say that men cheat because its built into there DNA. I have to laugh at this idea. If this was true then wouldnt women have a reason to cheat to, cause wasnt Eve made from Adam? Some men say as long as they dont touch then they arent cheating. Some women say aint nothing wrong with flirting. Is a person who cheated once ,doomed to be considerd a cheated till the end? If it has to be kept as a secret , do you consider that a clue of doing wrong?
I would like you to think hard on this one. What ever you wouldnt want done to you .

2007-11-10 10:11:26 · 25 answers · asked by kallicokitty 2

my normal everyday hubby is sitting watching high school musical on the telly and hes really enjoying it .is he werid?

2007-11-10 10:03:45 · 26 answers · asked by big mama 3

As a child, I was abused by my Father and when I was 12 my first boyfriend took advantage of me. I thought I was over it after counseling and because I got over my depression and stopped hating guys and started dating. I was happy because i felt like I had gotten victory over this. But now whenever I get intimate with my husband, I freak out. I feel like I'm just a machine made for his pleasure and I can't get into it every time. I feel such a range of emotions and it confuses me. I desire him but when he touches me I get scared. Sometimes I see the people who've hurt me and hear them in my head. It's as if My marriage opened up a wound that I felt was healed and now It came back twice as effective.
Does anyone have any advice for me. My husband is so supportive of me and says he'll always love me but i can't help but fear one day he'll get fed up. and if that's the case, maybe i wasn't made for marriage.
Thank you all.

2007-11-10 09:54:23 · 17 answers · asked by YeshuasEvenstar 1

I fell in love with another woman inspite of being married and a dad. I finally managed to tell my girlfriend that I will not walk out of my existing marriage. She is completely heartbroken, and losing confidence. She knew I was married and a Dad before we got into this. She wants to stay friends. How can I help her? Please help.

2007-11-10 09:51:46 · 33 answers · asked by jamesjopio 1

Hey, Im very young and married. Im 20 years old and my wife is 21. We recently got married (in August), and we were so happy. I know this is what most people are like when they are in their first couple moths of marriage, but things have changed so drastically. We are going to University together and have some classes together also. For the last month she has changed so much. She treats me like Im not her equal and kind
of makes me feel inferior to her. Im a joker and love to make people laugh so I dont know if she doesnt take me seriously or what, but she doesnt do very much to equal out the load of work in the house. There's piles of dishes, most which are hers, and has her laundry strewn all over our room even though we have hampers. I try to be nice and just ask her to try and keep things clean but she doesnt. At school she treats the guys there with more respect and every time I see her she seems to be near guys. (My jealousy) Last night one guy flirted with her near me and

2007-11-10 09:50:56 · 12 answers · asked by J G 1

I asked a question a while ago about my Ex who was recently married and had emailed me from oversees about my personal life. It felt wierd that he'd wanna know as over the last few years we've only had a professional relationship. Since this question was asked, I did reply saying I'm fine and glad things are goin well where he is. I received another email from him asking me to help him out with something for his wife!Im sure it seemed like no big deal on his end but it bothered me
I wrote him back:
I told him stright up that I didn't wanna hear about any details of his life oversees;wierd that he asked me to do something for his wife;I appreciate his concern and I'm doing great but prefer to keep my life private and to take care. He responded back very angrily and shocked..Saying he didn't think the request was a big deal and that he thought after4 years he could ask/tell me anything, but since I can't do this, that's fine with him.He came across hurt, but was not my intention

2007-11-10 09:43:31 · 13 answers · asked by PIXIE 2

Are you having a nice Saturday night ? I am, my baby and husband are asleep, the house is clean and I'm relaxing with a cold beer...bliss

2007-11-10 09:42:24 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

im 26 and been married for 2 years which i rushed into. i have 2 daughters aged 4 and 3 and this is why i rushed intto marriage, it seemed the right thing to do at the time. The problem is im not happy at all, me and my partner dont get on, we have nothing in common, she wudnt cope without me and she wudnt be a good mum as she has no patience and wud be a bad mum, this is a reason im staying to, i want my kids 2 be happy. i wanna go back to work but she wud be jealous and shes already made me leave a job before. she wnt let me have friends as shes jealous and im really not happy.

2007-11-10 09:42:09 · 18 answers · asked by azil_jesani 1

We have been living together for the past 14 months. I noticed that my boyfriend cannot prepare meals. He doesn't clean well. He really tries to clean and pitch in with the chores. However he does a poor job and I often have to reclean the areas, he has "cleaned." when I explain these things to him, he think am picking on him. We were just raised differently . For example, his idea of making the bed is just throwing the sheets across the bed. Which differs from my idea of tucking the sheets at the end, making sure the sheets are even and the wrinkles are straighten out. When he cleans he is extremely sloppy!
I really love this guy and I can see myself living the rest of my life with him. But I can't help but notice the red flags and the thought of raising a family with someone who cannot cook or clean frightens me. He doesn't want to hire a cleaning crew and shows no effort to clean things properly. I am not a neat freak. I just expect things to be presentabl

2007-11-10 09:37:50 · 26 answers · asked by Guy's baby 2

I know the question is generalizing, but I see alot of questions on here where women are saying that their husbands don't talk with them, or there is little or no communication in the marriage.

I think honest & open communication is key to the sucess of a marriage.

Just would like to hear from the guys on this.

2007-11-10 09:37:26 · 8 answers · asked by Bryan M 6

i have been married for 4 yrs and we have a 3 year old son together. now my husband wants to get divorce and it will be finalized in few months. the reason for the divorce is he has been suffering from depression for many yrs and he does not want to talk to any counselor or anything, but he cannot take the responsibility to have a family. he would rather get divorce and be alone. but i am living in a hell, but i dont show it because i have to be strong because of my son, my parents in laws are helping me a lot to deal with the things but i cannot think anything without him. any advice how to cope with this pain?

2007-11-10 09:37:03 · 17 answers · asked by jmpk 1

I've been dating a guy for sometime now and our time has been a roller coaster ride. He's got kids which are #1 to him which I understand however I feel I'm always put on the back burner.

He doesn't invite me out when he takes them out, I feel he never says he loves me anymore nor makes time to visit.

I try to be the best person I can. I even got some words from an ex of his that I'm nothing special. He didn't have to much to say about it.

I hate being alone and I know I'm hanging on for the wrong reasons. I just want things to be the way they use to be. I feel very depressed about it and from time to time he says he wants to live with me and then says I'm a slob (which I'm not) and then doesn't want to live with me.

Does someone have any advice?

2007-11-10 09:33:14 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with my wife now 6 years; married 2, dated 4, lived together 4. We always seem to get along, have good sex, and enjoy each others families. Over the last 6-7 months I've have become more and more distant with her. The problem does not seem to be our relationship, but I don't feel as if I love her anymore. Is this normal, is there a way to fall back in love? I have spoken with her and she says she still loves me..... I am so confused and don't know what to do.

2007-11-10 09:19:33 · 11 answers · asked by flappy jack 1

2007-11-10 09:05:52 · 18 answers · asked by sara 4

Please know that I have brought sexy clothes, danced for him, stripped for him etc. He does take the bait, and the whole thing is over in 2mins. I have talked to him for 2 years. I have been begging him to go on a vacation. He refused. I had a heart to heart with him two weeks ago. It didn't help, back at square one. Thank you guys for your comments. but, I have reached a decision, I'm leaving him today. I've been planning for awhile. My husband won't be home until 12mid. I have packed, emptied my account (we have separated accounts), I have brought two airline tickets. Me and my son will leave at 8pm. tonight. I took a leave of absence from my job just in case I want to return. Going to leave with a relative until I get settle. I feel that my mind will snap if I don't leave. Guys pray for me. If this is wrong, why do I feel so good. Comments?

2007-11-10 09:04:40 · 8 answers · asked by Monique 1