I have been with my wife now 6 years; married 2, dated 4, lived together 4. We always seem to get along, have good sex, and enjoy each others families. Over the last 6-7 months I've have become more and more distant with her. The problem does not seem to be our relationship, but I don't feel as if I love her anymore. Is this normal, is there a way to fall back in love? I have spoken with her and she says she still loves me..... I am so confused and don't know what to do.
2007-11-10 09:19:33 · 11 answers · asked by flappy jack 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Love is not a shirt that you put on or take off. Love is in your core. It's either there or it never has been. Maybe you were merely infatuated with her. That wears off in time.
2007-11-10 09:33:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try counseling before it is too late. Save your relationship. There must be a reason you feel this way. Maybe you have some personal issues and problems at work you project into the relationship, Maybe you have a mid-life crisis, or you just feel un-inspired for some reason. the good thing is you talk about it and don't loose the communication, because your wife should be that. your best friend, your lover, your partner... so look for ways to make this work and better again. also she must see if she hasn't changed over the years. is she still loving, kind, pretty? do you have a healthy sexual relationship.... all these things should be talked about with a marriage counselor to find out what has changed and how to adjust to that.
good luck and I hope all will turn out well for you and your wife
2007-11-10 09:31:46 · answer #2 · answered by GreenEyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flappy Jack old boy you are bored! And you can bet she is too although to a lesser degree probably.
You have reached that time in life when you need to get a bit crazy. Time to vet your creative juices! Start working on having some fun. Elaborate practical joke ideas? Now's the time. Absurd romantic stunts to pull on her? Go for it. Always wanted to do this or that? Now's the time. Go ahead and jump out of a perfectly good airplane. Why the hell not? You only live once, it might as well be grand!
Enjoy
2007-11-10 09:33:27 · answer #3 · answered by Duck in the woods 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look back in your relationship and think about the things that you and your wife did that made you fall in love with each other. And work on those things again. Something that helped my wife and I was taking the time to have date nights. Because just because we are married didn't mean that the dates had to stop, and we enjoy our date nights when we have them.
I think having date nights regularly is important and is quality time for you and your wife to connect with each other without having kids around.
2007-11-10 09:31:39 · answer #4 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do not turn away seek out the things you enjoyed with her in the past communicate with her. ask yourself what other things are going on in your life that may be affecting you your job the hours away from home bills see if these may be affecting your feelings for her how often do you talk go for a walk just enjoy each others company. and if you still can not come up with an answer seek out a counselor or member of your church you are not out of love with her just out of touch with her and your feelings stay strong and good luck to you both. try not to become a statistic.
2007-11-10 09:27:45 · answer #5 · answered by mc52132000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think this can be normal.The good think is that is sounds like you guys have a communication base.Work from that.When was the last time you went on vacation?Or just went out on the town?Or run her a nice warm bath with rose petals And then washed and pampered each other!?You say your relationship is fine,and that very well maybe so.But are you having any fun as well!
2007-11-10 09:31:13 · answer #6 · answered by Alex I 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you are going through some sort of depression? Try talking to her about how you are feeling. If you find you really don't love her anymore, then give her the respect of telling her before you let anyone else in your life. Good luck.
2007-11-10 09:30:14 · answer #7 · answered by casper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been together for awhile and maybe got in a routine. Take her out on a date or do some things that you did when you were first together that helped you fall in love in the first place.
2007-11-10 09:31:18 · answer #8 · answered by Mulligan 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well it could be alot of what your thinking in your life most marriages get very comfortable with the lifestyle they are living everyday work and responsibilities just like work would you give up or quit your job? if you love it or not? you either work it out to make it work for you or change your stubborn ways just think about it what can you change or her to make life just alittle better?
2007-11-10 09:32:43 · answer #9 · answered by bustnloose_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a choice.
You vowed to love your wife for better or worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer until DEATH do you part.
Read 1 Corinthians chapter 13 in the Holy Bible so you will know what love really is and then start loving your wife like God intends for you to.
2007-11-10 09:27:12 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋