Shes in her twenties
hes in his early thirties
They agreed to swap partners when they got married/
Four friends married foir days apart and agreed to this
after years of happiness doing this. She is the only one of the four that wants to quit. She continues but dont know how to bow out
She said it not being unfaith since All four agreed before they married
There are no children
Is this wrong or do they have the right to do what they wish as long as it doesnt hurt society? Maybe it does hurt society and they dont know it.
2007-11-10 11:03:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well personally, if I wanted to stop I would just sit all of them down and have a talk with them and let them know how I feel.
2007-11-10 11:11:30 · answer #1 · answered by Terry Cat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. It's their choice. It may offend some people, but it doesn't hurt society.
2. She's changed her mind and that needs to be respected. There's no law in the universe which says she has to continue doing something she doesn't want to do.
3. She tells her husband and they take it from there.
2007-11-10 19:26:24 · answer #2 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
FOUL!!!!! If she doesn't want to continue, maybe shes not getting what she needs from the other man, 1,) encluded another couple/single man/woman! This add to the excitement and pleasure for all. 2.) Bow out gracefully, but provide a replacement that all agrees with!!
2007-11-10 21:52:16 · answer #3 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're asking two very different questions, but I'll answer the second one first. No, it's not wrong if it's among consenting adults, and it does not hurt "society" (whatever that means) in any way.
However, if one person no longer wants to do it, then she stops being a "consenting" adult. Therefore, it would be morally wrong to attempt to coerce the one who doesn't want to do it against her will. Her husband should respect her decision to quit, and the activity should end.
2007-11-10 19:09:54 · answer #4 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she doesnt want to she shouldnt. I dont care what she agreed to before marriage...she is married to her HUSBAND ...and their marriage has nothing to do with the couple they swap with.
Swapping is fine as long as all participants are okay with it...clearly THIS is not the case with this foursome anymore.
2007-11-10 19:21:00 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just like they made an agreement to do this, you can change your mind to no longer wanting to do this, but be mindful the husband may want to continue and if he does, she may have to walk away from the marriage. as for hurting society, as long as they are consenting adults and no legal law is broken who cares. good luck
2007-11-10 19:10:03 · answer #6 · answered by lynnette 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is adultery and it matters not that all four of you are consenting.....If you want to quit with this extra curricular activity then by all means you should...but be prepared that you may get flack from your husband and/or the other couple....
2007-11-10 19:17:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you have been doing it since you have been married, it can't be that much of a marriage.You are adult. End it.
2007-11-10 19:17:50 · answer #8 · answered by Harley Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they all wanted to continue having sex with other people they shouldn't have gotten married.
2007-11-10 19:23:04 · answer #9 · answered by Thomas M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's adultery, whether they all agree to do it or not.
2007-11-10 19:10:25 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋