Do you consider cheating touching, flirting,etc?

Question

I often wonderd what the the difference is between what men consider cheating and what women consider cheating. I have heard men , scientist say that men cheat because its built into there DNA. I have to laugh at this idea. If this was true then wouldnt women have a reason to cheat to, cause wasnt Eve made from Adam? Some men say as long as they dont touch then they arent cheating. Some women say aint nothing wrong with flirting. Is a person who cheated once ,doomed to be considerd a cheated till the end? If it has to be kept as a secret , do you consider that a clue of doing wrong?
I would like you to think hard on this one. What ever you wouldnt want done to you .

Wow loven the imput yaw. I agree I would never cheat on anyone for any reason !! I think if someone isnt happy with there signifcat othere then why waste each otheres time and happiness! So far I am seeing that men and women both feel pretty much the same on this issue. Thanks

Answer 1

First off many studies have shown now that women cheat just as much as men, but they lie about it much better.

As for myself I don't have a hard line I'd draw as far as what was and wasn't cheating. I'm not interested in how I'd label my wife's behavior as much as how I feel about it, and in regards to that I have a rather strange take on that.

To me, any serious flirting, touching kissing etc. with a close friend or potential rival would be very very upsetting. Playing around with the gardener or pool boy on the other hand would be possibly upsetting but much less so because I would know that my wife wouldn't be seeing them as potentially better than me or replacements for me. They would just be toys. I would also be much more upset if the guy were "in control" or the aggressor than if not, again because that puts him in my place as it were, and not as just an amusement to her.

Now I know most people won't understand what I'm saying, but that's the way it goes.

My two cents worth.

Answer 2

WOW! Talk about a questions in a half. You have many things that make for good conversation.

I have cheated and been cheated on and I am female. I don't think flirting is cheating but it still pisses me off to no end. Probably because my husband doesn't give a second glance, at least that I notice.

Cheating is only if there is an act of sexuality. Touching, kissing, etc. Just talking or flirting isn't really cheating because there is no physical contact.

I have had it all happen to me so I guess I don't count. Flirting can get you places and get you things so it's not all that bad. Besides some people flirt naturally and don't realize it so we can't condemn them for that.

Hope that helps a little.

Answer 3

My boyfriend and I were not clear in the beginning of what we consider cheating. After a few incidents, we sat down and had a in depth conversation about what fell into the category. For me, cheating is doing anything with another person that you know your significant other would have a problem with. A little flirting is ok, but you can't let it go too far. Basically, we are under the agreement now to be completely open and honest about what happens. Kissing, sex, and things like getting phone numbers are cheating to me. Everyone has different ideas about it though so I think the best thing to do is have a very specific talk about what behavior is ok with the other person.

Answer 4

My husband and I have been married for 15 years. He and I feel that basic flirting with the opposite sex is actually healthy. But, that is where it STOPS. Anything beyond that - kissing, touching - is a NO NO. And I would have to say as far as "once a cheater always a cheater" is incorrect. I believe that if you find the person that you truly want to give your heart to - you should never even WANT to cheat. I was in a BAD abusive relationship from the time I was 17 until almost 22 years old. I cheated on him many times because the relationship was awful and I didn't have the courage to leave (yet, I had the courage to cheat behind his back - don't ask me why). Before my husband and I met - he was a virtual "ladies man" having slept with over 200 women. But, since he and I have been together, we have been faithful to each other. Because we still find ways to please each other and to renew the love. We have trust, respect and we constantly communicate. And after 15 years, I am still as IN love with him as the day I met him. I would never even think of being with another man now. So, yes, I was once a cheater, but no more.

Answer 5

I consider cheating touching, flirting, and doing anything that they wouldn't want me to know with someone else.
Not everyone is always a cheater just because they cheated before.
But, if this person is married and cheating on their spouse, then the chances are they're not gonna stop cheating. I can understanding cheating in your teenage years because you live and learn and you're young. But once you settle down and say I do, the cheating days should be over for good, and if your spouse is cheating... chances of them stopping and never doing it again are slim to none.

Answer 6

Well i believe after you have been cheated on you become stronger and more aware of the signs of it. But you also become more detatched in relationships like a lil peice of you dies. I was cheated on for 2 years completely aware and ended up gaining 15lbs over it but i met my current fiance and i am all better now. He had cheated on my once and i felt it coming and new how to catch him so i dont believe once a cheater always a cheater. I forgave him and we are trying to move through it but i consider hiding it the first sign you are cheating and you might not even realize it. I think physical contact you wouldnt appreciate would be cheating or flirting with someone while you are aware of it is too. But that is just my opinion. Good Luck

Answer 7

I believe if a man or woman looks upon another with lust in their heart then they have already cheated because a man or woman that truly loves another has no reason to even look.
I do not feel that when a person has cheated that they are considered a cheater till the end but if you have never told this secret of cheating then don't! You will have to keep it in you forever. All it would do is cause pain and mistrust and harm.

Answer 8

Is Touching Flirting

Answer 9

In my opinion, you are cheating the minute your mind starts showing interest in another individual other than your life partner. That lustful thought itself is the initiation of cheating. From there comes flirting which is a sign of saying, "I like you and I'm trying my best to get inside of your brain, so you will start thinking of me. When that happens, I will take my next step to get your phone number or take you out on a date".

Sometimes lustful thoughts are human nature. We all look at things and "think" about the things that we see. However, if your INTENT is to go further with that thought, by flirting, repeated eye contact to let your interest be known, getting a phone number, trying to find a way to interact with that person, all fall under "cheating".

Also by the way, there is no difference with gender. The process is still the same.

Answer 10

I wouldnt touch or flirt with anyone because I know how my fiance would perceive it. Like some answerers have said its how the other person would see it.

Heres an example, back in July I went to Star Wars Celebration Europe (a convention) on the last day there was a girl dressed as Princess Leia in that gold bikini now everybody else was taking pictures of her next to the model of Jabba the Hutt. I didnt because I know how my fiancee would react.