I asked a question a while ago about my Ex who was recently married and had emailed me from oversees about my personal life. It felt wierd that he'd wanna know as over the last few years we've only had a professional relationship. Since this question was asked, I did reply saying I'm fine and glad things are goin well where he is. I received another email from him asking me to help him out with something for his wife!Im sure it seemed like no big deal on his end but it bothered me
I wrote him back:
I told him stright up that I didn't wanna hear about any details of his life oversees;wierd that he asked me to do something for his wife;I appreciate his concern and I'm doing great but prefer to keep my life private and to take care. He responded back very angrily and shocked..Saying he didn't think the request was a big deal and that he thought after4 years he could ask/tell me anything, but since I can't do this, that's fine with him.He came across hurt, but was not my intention
2007-11-10 09:43:31 · 13 answers · asked by PIXIE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Breakup: Mutual decision to end after 3 1/2 years, still loved each other, but rollercoaster relationship. Didn't wanna get married although the promise was there earlier; he was younger by 4 years.
The request: Since the food was so bland down there he wanted a 'Great' recipe that he remembered I made when we were together for his 'lovely wife'.
2007-11-10 10:07:09 · update #1
your not his keeper anymore, i would have told him to take a hike anyway. good for you for sticking up for yourself
2007-11-10 09:47:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well for 1 I know how I'd feel if I found out my man emailed an ex-girl friend and asked for a recipe of a great meal she used to make , he'd be packed and sent back to the ex quick smart.Food in any country is as bland as you make it sheesh what a sorry excuse for a wanna be cheat.
Dont answer anymore email's , he's not happy , he's hunting for sexual excitement anywhere he can get it dont fool yourself into believing he is anything more then an ex , remind yourself why the relationship was a rollercoaster.I never believe the term "mutually agreed upon seperation", it just doesnt happen no matter how much you try and convince yourself.
He shouldnt be hurt he knew why he was emailing and he knew it wasnt innocently because of some stupid recipe.
2007-11-10 18:53:31 · answer #2 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are justified in not wanting to have any kind of relationship besides a professional one with him, if any. He has to take your feelings into consideration when asking you to do something for him personally especially since you are ex's. It seems to me that he may still have a thing for you and is trying to get a feel for how you feel in return. I recommend cutting off relations with him completely unless you have kids together or a legitimate professional need. Hope this helps.
2007-11-10 18:01:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What he asked was uncalled for, if he had any kind of insight he should have known how you would feel. You should be the angry one not him. He should apolojize for asking a favor for his wife in the first place.
Best to leave him as the x. I wouldn't email him again and I would block him from emailing me, that's for sure. You don't need that kind of abuse.
2007-11-10 17:51:48 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
...seems he still had respect and trust in you even though your relationship didn't work out. Deep down he still likes you and obviously respected your opinion/advise. For whatever reasons your relationship didn't work, he still views and trusts you as a confidant. This would "hurt" no matter who you are!(especially a guy). (Remember, men tend to hang on for a lot longer than women!)
2007-11-10 17:54:25 · answer #5 · answered by Only me! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He can be hurt, all he wants. It's not YOUR concern. Dont give it a 2nd thought. He doesnt need your help for his wife.
The whole idea is rediculous. It IS a big deal. HIS big deal.
......Which has absolutely NOTHING to do with YOU!
He requires no further response from you. Please allow him to remain deep in the X file! ;)
2007-11-10 17:50:27 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
why shouln't you still be friends? And do things for each other. I don't see the big deal. But, refer to why you split up. Therein may be most of your answers.
2007-11-10 17:52:14 · answer #7 · answered by jammygal 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think he overreacted. He shouldn't have been asking you to do anything for his wife in the first place. I mean If you asked him to do something for your husband would he comply, probably not.
2007-11-10 17:51:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is why I have no contact with any of my exs. They may have moved away from sh!tting on me but their @ss still smells.
2007-11-10 17:55:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
dont worry about it what u did was the right thing to say
2007-11-10 18:02:02 · answer #10 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What was the request?
2007-11-10 17:50:53 · answer #11 · answered by Erin 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋