Among several other stupid problems they have, she needs advice on what to do in this particular situation..
So yesterday morning, she was running late for work..he was aware of that, and he was supposed to drive her to work so he could use her car. She needed to leave at 7:45a to be at work at 8:30, well it was now 10-8a, and she was rushing. Well, in the middle of all that, he wanted to have sex before she left, and she said no because she was gonna be late, and this is a new job. Well what did he do? He put the covers over his head, and completely ignored her . COMPLETELY!!! She ended up driving herself to work (which she didn't mind). But the point is that when he doesn't get his way, he pouts like a little boy! It's STUPID! And to top it off, he begins to talk when HE is ready..no apology, no responsibility of his actions. And he acts like nothing ever happened ..business as usual...HELL NO! She's tired of dealing with him. So what does she do?
2007-11-10 10:25:30 · 17 answers · asked by ~fullofluv~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
'She' gets the hell out and finds a real man. Leave the little pouting children to their mothers.
2007-11-10 10:32:03 · answer #1 · answered by suneidayz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sure know some significant details about your "friends" husband and their problems.......
Since your "friend" just started a new job, that has more priority than having sex and he should know better. However, some men are unable to think beyond the length of their pecker.
I would say set the alarm an extra 20 minutes early.
Have your wardrobe ready the previous day.
Make sure all your work for work is ready and in your briefcase.
Go to be half an hour early. That way if the husband is wanting to give you his best 2 minutes worth, you have time to kill.
2007-11-10 18:41:23 · answer #2 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just remember all men are little boys, but some never actually grow up. Just let him know you will come home later to play with him but right then you are on your way to work with an adult job an an adult paycheck. Tell him also that if he wants to use the car so bad, that he needs to get up, get dressed and take you to work so he can have the car.
2007-11-10 18:31:48 · answer #3 · answered by IDoToo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Men get all freaked out when women get new jobs, especially if the salary is going up. They worry that you wont need them as much and act like 'sulky little boys'. Asking for sex is his way of finding out if you still love him more than your new job.
But I could be really wrong about this because I am no expert.
2007-11-10 18:33:16 · answer #4 · answered by insomnia c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to try to get his baby @ss into counseling. If he doesn't go, he doesn't go. She then needs to make a decision. Can she put up with his BS until death do they part, or is this something she can't live with. Put up with it or put him out with the trash. My advise would be to kick his pouty little butt (rhetorically speaking of course) into a therapists office. I hate pouters, did I mention that? I watched my sister suffer many years with one and now she is dead and I think his behavior hastened her demise. I would just run to a divorce attorney. Don't judge me, I have been in a happy committed relationship for nearly 20 years! Sometimes divorce is the only way.
2007-11-10 18:38:30 · answer #5 · answered by sky64 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The husband is a spoiled brat, who thinks he's the king. He likes to be controlling by being in charge by making things inconvenient (being late, etc...) to show that he has power over her. In this particular situation, she needs to set him down, and talk to him about it.... how he should have handled things, and how to compromise. If this is normal behavior, and he refuses to change, then she needs to rethink her marriage. It will only get worse. There is no reason for a woman to be treated like such.
2007-11-10 19:14:50 · answer #6 · answered by Shelber 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She need to get into counseling with him and if he won't go, cut her losses and file for divorce. This is a person who is very immature and will drag her down if she doesn't put a stop to it. Perhaps if she moves out and prepares to get a divorce he will change a bit but she has to make sure he gets the counseling or he may continue to be more like her child than her spouse.
2007-11-10 18:38:04 · answer #7 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say she needs to write a letter to him- or communicate in some non-confronting way (so he doesn't feel threatened and actually think about what he has done) and just say whatever she feels in a gentle way such as: "i felt you dealt with it in a really immature way can you think about what you did and how it made me feel- frustrated, uncared for etc" and just go out of the house (just her) to dinner by herself or go to her best-friends, to give him time and space to think about what he has done. He seems like he has been brought up as a child throwing fits when he cant get his own way etc, so dealing with it with anger and shouting and agreeing wont solve the problem or make him realize what he has done.
2007-11-10 18:37:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to let him sulk and go do what she needs to do. The only reason he is doing it is because he gets a reaction.
If she doesn't let it bother her eventually he will realize it's not working and stop. He needs to learn to grow up, he can't always have his way.
Her feelings are important too.
2007-11-10 18:34:33 · answer #9 · answered by unknown friend 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Read him the Riot Act. Give him one dead-serious chance to grow up, because he really needs to, and if he does not -- buh-bye.
2007-11-10 18:42:04 · answer #10 · answered by Chipmaker Authentic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋