im 26 and been married for 2 years which i rushed into. i have 2 daughters aged 4 and 3 and this is why i rushed intto marriage, it seemed the right thing to do at the time. The problem is im not happy at all, me and my partner dont get on, we have nothing in common, she wudnt cope without me and she wudnt be a good mum as she has no patience and wud be a bad mum, this is a reason im staying to, i want my kids 2 be happy. i wanna go back to work but she wud be jealous and shes already made me leave a job before. she wnt let me have friends as shes jealous and im really not happy.
2007-11-10 09:42:09 · 18 answers · asked by azil_jesani 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
also i do all cleaning, washing, everything round the house i do it all, she is so lazy. i als osee to the kids when she wants 2 sleep which is nearly all day every day.
2007-11-10 09:45:30 · update #1
You made your first mistake when you rushed into something as important as marriage! Your second big mistake is staying for the kids! Believe me they know if you aren't happy! The best thing to do is get out if you and your wife aren't happy and if you don't love each other!You never mentioned love so I will assume that is not a part of the equation! Sir you need to stand up for yourself & your kids!
Make yourself happy & then they will be happy!
2007-11-10 13:06:52 · answer #1 · answered by Me 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's why it is never a good idea to rush into a marriage before you get to know the person very well. You need to turn the tables on her. You are head of household not her. Stand up for your self and be a man, don't let her walk all over you. She can't make you do anything. Take the power away from her.
2007-11-10 17:56:06 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
were things ok before u married?marriage doesnt bring happiness marriage doesnt bring happiness nobody marries a perfect person!2 different people marry and WORK at the marriage to make it ,each other and the marriage much more enjoyable!you did the right thing by thinking about your kids !!!!i am sure you have heard most men say i am the head of the household?!so are you mate and wherever the head goes/turns the whole body(wife n kids) follow! right? its not easy but take yo position take a stand and b the MAN!!!wish you the best in your marriage!!
2007-11-10 19:07:47 · answer #3 · answered by bravo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what you want you cant just let her controll you. if this is ruining you then u need 2 let her no. You no what, put a recorder or camera somewhere hidden in the house where u nd ur wife usually sit and tlk in and record how unfair she is. play it back to her and she will see. Love is strong so dont split up because u disagree on thing, u need 2 find something u both like
2007-11-10 17:47:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like neither one of you are happy. There must have been a reason that you two wanted to be married and you both should find that reason and try to salvage your marriage. Divorce is too easy. And marriage takes work. So buckle up the two of you and love one another again. Hows that for some advise? Hope that you take it and put it to work......(smile)
2007-11-10 17:56:07 · answer #5 · answered by Fergy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to stick up for yourself, mister. You sound hen-pecked. To stay in a loveless relationship when you have kids is not the answer. I would tell her to help you make the things that are wrong in your marriage right, or you're going to file for divorce and seek custody of the children. Good luck, young fellow!
2007-11-10 17:50:06 · answer #6 · answered by Charles WE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cannot stay in a marriage because of kids,if you are unhappy they will sense it and then think its their fault.Your wife sounds as though she has some emotional problems that need soughting out.
As for not allowing you to go to work,try bloody well standing up to her are you a man or a house mat for her to walk all over,by not allowing you to work she is effectively chopping your balls off. Just tell her to get off her lazy **** and start being a proper wife and mother,coping as we all have to ,and for you to start providing as a father should. If she wont then walk away but keep in contact with your kids.
2007-11-10 18:01:08 · answer #7 · answered by irene c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think big for your kids future and your family
You know your wife from a period of time before marriage just discover bad things after marriage !
2007-11-10 17:57:50 · answer #8 · answered by sa_2006 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off Hun, you must be a heck of a man to still be there!!! you need to go seek help, let them know what's going on, so they can document it, take pic, write things down, so when the time come's you can ask her for a divorce and you can get sole custody of your kid's.
2007-11-10 18:11:30 · answer #9 · answered by Terry Cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all consequences of a bad decision. You were made to leave a job? Lack of spine for you and lack of respect from her. If there is no respect, there is no love. Divorce and move on. Learn a valuable lesson. Important decisions take time. Lots of time.
2007-11-10 17:49:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋