Guys, why do you have trouble talking with your wife?

Question

I know the question is generalizing, but I see alot of questions on here where women are saying that their husbands don't talk with them, or there is little or no communication in the marriage.

I think honest & open communication is key to the sucess of a marriage.

Just would like to hear from the guys on this.

Outbackbob, I'm not young or niave, I'm 31, and have been marred for 11 years, and I have noticed that people posting questions here n YA, especially from women saying their husbands don't talk.

And I'm just asking the guys, why they have trouble talking with their wives.

Answer 1

And if you believe the answer's above I have an island in the south pacific to sell you for a cheap fee .

Women are unhappy because the communication is gone in the marriage and their men wont open up , but 8 time's out of 10 men wont open up because what start's out as a nice calm questionaire turns into a blood curdling death match of screaming , yelling and accusing.

All you here is women saying this , women trying that , women suggesting this , women wanting that and if they dont get it then they'll go outside the fence and find it.I have also answered many question's where women have NO idea how to communicate they just expect their men to know what they want and how and why , then we're all labelled as women who expect every single man to be a mind reader.

Some men are capable of discussing thing's with their wive's / g/f's , but if they were so good at it as the men here have stated , why are they divorced or playen the field? think about it , success with women? you wish.

I'm going to star this question because I wanna come back and check how many more men answered your question honestly or lied to make themselves look good.

Answer 2

JadeyOZ you rock!

I'm also going to guess that the asker is young and naive.

It's not that simple. Egos become involved, the facts are never so clear or simple, needs change with time and so on. Add to that the fact that we all open our mouths sometimes and say the exact opposite of what we are trying to communicate. Add to all that the fact that while women think they want a sensitive guy to open up to them, the truth is that if you go to them emotionally wounded and seeming weak they will have a natural disdain for you. They want a nice sensitive MAN. Not a needy wimp.

I agree that good communication is key, but sometimes you have to be very circumspect in doing it. Marriage is not a simple thing and there is no simple formula that will work always. Sometimes love just ain't enough.

Answer 3

Well you're right about communication. But some Guys have that 'mach thing' and think that any explanation of feelings is 'soft'. What's worse is that many females buy into it, hence all the questions you see about it here.

My Grandmother always said that a man who can't express himself is not yet a man and therefore not worth any woman's time.

I wish more women knew that.

Answer 4

When I was married, I was the one who would sit down and talk to my wife about any problems that were occurring. She would hold them in and not say a word. Come to find out she didn't want to talk about some issues because when she had in the past it turned out all to be a lie.

Answer 5

Women are sensitive. A lot of women on the Y/A
page are just like my wife. They are sensitive...
and yet smart. They would like more sensitivity from us men. It's not just communication...it's the
quality of words, gestures and subtle nuances
that make what we say (or lack of it ) so mean-
ingful to them.

At times, we as men need to be more sensorally
acute, if we're not already.

Answer 6

yes you are right, but you also need love in a marriage, which i see a lack of on here in most cases

Answer 7

My wife and I talk about every thing ,

Answer 8

whats the point of talking to a wife, just get a girlfriend so you can talk to her