Well, me & my bf have been dating for 4 months, we look great together, he's got an amazing personality and mind, and he also is VERY attractive.
But, I've always had very rocky relationships in the past, and they usually ended up in me breaking up with them or cheating. Now, I'm much more mature with this relationship and I haven't even a thought of ever cheating on him. I love him very much.
But every night before I go to bed, I always have this really strong feeling to break up with him, and when I go to bed that night, dreaming about breaking up and I wake crying at around 3:00 each time.
Is it my intimadation of the relationship? Or what?
Please help I'm confused.
Much love,
Maddi. <33
2007-11-10 12:57:23 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe you're afraid of the other shoe dropping, like you're waiting for something to go wrong. You can't lump your current guy in with all the bad ones from the past. He can't do that for you, it's your choice.
If you feel like it's overwhelming, maybe talking to a doctor is the next step, it may be an anxiety disorder or depression, maybe both, but if you truly love yourself, you should get to the bottom of it.
2007-11-10 13:09:04 · answer #1 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have very little self-esteem. People like that assume their relationships are not going to work out and they subconciously sabatoge them on their on. They will do strange things that break up the relationship.
Try to relax and think only positive thoughts that this time is "it" and you will be with him forever. Make yourself believe that you deserve a good relationship and just enjoy.
If you still have problems then talk to a counselor to find out why you are so sure you are going to fail.
Good Luck
2007-11-10 21:09:32 · answer #2 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are subconsciously trying to sabotage your relationship. Like you do not believe that you deserve this happiness. Do not break up with him. Ride it out and see what happens. We all make mistakes in our life and we have to live with them but you do not have to pay for them forever. Forget about your past mistakes. The past is the past just do not make the same ones now. Good luck.
2007-11-10 21:08:04 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you think of cheating on people? "oh hey ill go and cheat on my boyfriend" what is wrong with you? "oh hey i didnt cheat" im so proud. that isn't mature, being faithful is a requirement in any relationship.
doesnt seem like you can handle relationships or something is missing in it. usually the guys who are the most attractive dont really have personalities they are just percieved to be that way by the girls that adore them.
2007-11-10 21:03:42 · answer #4 · answered by djmixah7 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you have a fear of commitment. You may be afraid that it is going so well that you may now feel trapped. Just enjoy the relationship and see where it leads. Just be happy for a change!
2007-11-10 21:10:17 · answer #5 · answered by tbobm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is wierd. YOu do have a problem. You should go under hypnosis and see what is really going on. Ive had a friend do this, and it works. she was wondering why she always felt like she was going to loose her daughter. She always felt like her daughter was going to die or something, and she went and got this done, and turns out in her last life, she lost her daughter.
2007-11-10 21:38:02 · answer #6 · answered by laura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are insecure in the relationship, and are tending to head towards previous actions. I would talk with him about your fears and how you don't want to break up with him but you keep having these thoughts. Maybe he can put your mind at ease.
2007-11-10 21:05:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your actions are typical of someone that is afraid of commitment. You need to think back to what happened in your life to make you feel this way.I would also seek counseling if I were you.
2007-11-10 21:17:02 · answer #8 · answered by bella s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your afraid of taking chances on something more then just dating.. if so quit that or you will never be able to commit to anyone.. just let what ever happens happen. if its good keep going and if its bad move on. good luck
2007-11-10 21:09:09 · answer #9 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest you get some counseling to deal with whatever is wrong that you won't allow yourself to be happy.
2007-11-10 21:05:28 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋