My husband cheated, and I've forgiven him. How can I forget?

Answer 1

Sadly you'll never forget something like this. And as time passes, just maybe it will fade from your thoughts, but you will never be able to forget this. I really wished I could tell you otherwise. Wishing you the best =)

Answer 2

Forgetting will be difficult. I will likely never forget. I have had 3 serious relationship including a marriage and have been cheated on in all 3. I've forgiven 2 people and have forgetten 1. The most important thing is to not hold him responsible for his previous mistakes if you've truly forgiven him. You need to communicate with him, tell him how you feel, and continue to be loving and supportive. Of course, if you think that's too hard, then you may be better off ending it. Also, you may think about couples council. Focus on all the great things about your relationship and hopefully you can put that behind you.

Answer 3

The same thing happened to me several years ago. My husband cheated on me at the lowest point in my life. It was shortly after the birth of our child, and I had postpartum depression. Our relationship was lacking because of the way I felt at the time.

I forgave him. The hardest part for me was forgiving him. I felt like he did a horrible thing to me at the worst most possible moment. We had to talk a lot to each other to work it out. And I didn't forgive him right away. I made a decision that I was not going to divorce him, but I didn't forgive him in the same instant. And I had a hard time being intimate with him for a long time. Slowly, I started letting it go, until one day I felt I was able to forgive.

Forgetting is something else entirely. I have never forgotten. But I don't hang it over his head every time he pisses me off. If you have honestly forgiven him, you WILL think about it when things get rough between the two of you there is no doubt about that. But if you keep thinking about it, then you have to ask yourself if you have truly forgiven him.

God bless you

Answer 4

You will never forget, You simply have to forgive and move forward in your lives together. You have to try not to bring this up everytime you fight, I know it's such an easy card to play too. Don't you think this is in the back of his mind as well ? You won't "catch" amnesia! It's hard, but you've obviously felt as though he was worth it and your sacred bond of marriage is worth saving. Have you thought about therapy? Alone (for you) and together (to repair any damage)? Hope I've helped... (I've had a similar experience)

Answer 5

It would be nearly impossible to forget...when my ex cheated on me...our relationship was never the same...it didn't work out for us...but i am not saying it is not oging to work out for the 2 of you...you live and learn...forgive...and keep on going with your life....with time the bad memories will fade...it will take some time...but they will..but i don't think that you will completely forget... :(

Answer 6

You never will forget, the thing is, as time goes on, it won't be in the front of your thoughts all the time. It's kind of like a death, sure, it's painful as hell now, but over time, it won't hurt so much and you will have both learned from it, hopefully.

Answer 7

You will never forget. Actually, it could be a good thing that you don't. Now you know what behavior to look for if it ever begins to happen again.

Answer 8

you will never really forget you just have to learn how to deal with it. In time when he earns your trust again you will think about it less and less but no one really forgets this type of thing. If you cannot deal with it then maybe talking to someone will help you deal with it better.

Answer 9

you will never forget. that is the shitty part. im in the same boat you are. i have forgiven him but i will never forget. this is just something that only time will tell.

Answer 10

We never forget, unless you get some kind of illness that affects your memory. But with time, it doesn't hurt as much, specially if you don't bring it up again.