Can you be happily married and in love with your husband but have a strong attraction/crush on another guy?

Answer 1

I have been married for over five years, have a 2&1/2 year old and one on the way due in december and you better believe I still am attracted to other men. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH IT EITHER!!! Its making the choice to act upon it is were so many go wrong. Just because you are inloved in a relationship doesnt mean that other men will not exsist out ther. Women and men notice more of the opposite sex when they are taken because they feel safe being them selves and it opens the door to other feelings that are not always expected.

Answer 2

Absolutely and it is very normal too. it doesn't mean you don't love your husband either. As a matter of fact you may have a number of crushes on different men during your marriage.

The thing is how you handle it and there are several ways to do that as well.

1. Always keep it under control and never let it get out of hand.
2. If you let it get out of hand and have an affair or cheat, then lots of things may take place.
3. Rather than cheat, figure out a way to tell your husband and offer to help him find someone too and begin a non-monogamous marriage. which can have many benefits.

I could go on but you get the idea. non-monogamy is very common today and often works out well for all parties involved..

but back to your basic question...yes very normal.

Answer 3

Absolutely, It can be the pheromone a male has that your attracted to, or simply a personal trait (maybe something reminds you of the person you're with currently, IE: your type). It's very animalistic. Just because you're on a diet, doesn't mean you can't look at the menu honey... You are a woman after all. Don't you ever catch your honey looking at a woman even you find attractive, Can you blame him? You looked at her to see him looking at her... Didn't you ?

Answer 4

Really why would anyone got marry and have crush other guy?

Makes no sense about this. Seems either bec. Not happy with husband and feeling other guy? Love husband but met a wonderful man ???

Women and men should think really hard or/and think twice..... before marry someone?

Answer 5

Attraction is normal as long as your understand that if you act on it your MAKING THE CHOICE to dismiss your marriage not your husband!

Also tell your husband about it and tell him why your attracted to other man who knows this may stimulate him to offer you this need for you so you don't have to look outside your marriage for it!

Answer 6

I think it's possible to find another guy attractive, we are all human.

The problem arises when you act on that attraction. If you are happily married, then you will recognize that you see this guy as attractive, but he will pale in comparison to your husband.

Answer 7

That explains the lunacy of a "soulmate".
Anyhow why do women think they can be attracted
to other men , and guys are suppose to keep their
noses up you're butts 24/7.

Answer 8

Yes, you can. Its not usual, and there is nothing wrong with you, but you have let someone else in your life and take some of you attention. So, let him go and concentrate on you husband. That is what marriage is for to only have one....Stop the other NOW!!!!!

Answer 9

Okay, tell me why would you want to even put yourself in that situation? It is totally dysfunctional and really bad behavior. Do you like turmoil and trouble waiting around every corner?
When everything is going all right, do you throw a monkey wrench into the works??
Seriously, figure out why you want to give feelings to another man that should be for your husband. your not being fair to your husband.

Answer 10

Sure you can. Your not dead are you? i have been married for 9 years, and I have a serious crush on my best friend. I can't stop thinking about being with him. I love my husband, but I am human, and i have feelings. It's normal, and it's healthy.