Why is it everyone ok with fathers not caring for their kids?

Question

Should a father not hae some role in raising kids. The bible is very clear on this issue.

Being a father is not just bring home a paycheck.

I am glad to hear someone does care. My daughter hurts because her father never took an active role. He and I are still married but I could never get through to him. She is now seventeen and says he's her father but she don't really care because he never took the time to go to plays, or play a game. He never did anything but watch tv when he came home and it is what he wants to watch.

Jay: I am sorry for what you have been through and I applaud you for caring for your son. Although I am sure you know you are the exception. Your son is lucky.

Answer 1

I'm totally NOT ok with fathers not caring for their kids. My husband lays around and does nothing while I work, care for the girls and cook. Oh, he does dust and vacuum once in awhile, but that's not the same as taking charge and being a father to his children.

Answer 2

1.Society is very clear about the fact that fathers are second rate parents. That is why it's so hard for them to get custody, in a break up.
2. Often it is hard to do anything without having Mum impose her rules over him.
3. The bible might be the word of God, but it was written by men trying to sell the concept.
4.There is a difference between not caring and not being allowed to care.
5. Bringing home money is caring.
6. A woman can get away with the same thing by blaming hormones.
7. Sometimes there are questions as to whether they are actually his kids. In which case it's someones else's job.
8. Often what is considered caring, is a matter of opinion. Not fact and fiction.

Answer 3

I care. In fact I am writing a book about this. In the 1800's fathers were automatically awarded custody. Then came the feminist movement and the scales were unbalanced the other way, i don't think that this was intentional. Children need both parents in their lives. I am fighting for fathers rights because they should play or have the option to play an equal role in the raising of the children. They way things are structured now, they don't.

Answer 4

In a perfect word, both parents should play a role in raising their children. We dont live in a perfect world and we are all a product of our upbringing and environment and there is no rule book on parenting. Some men dont have a paternal bone in their body. Some women too dont know how to be a good mother. A lot of parents have seen what their parents were like and really dont know how to be a "good" parent.

My ex was raised by a very promiscuous father. His values were not present when he married me. I didnt know that at the time. He didnt know how to love and that included his children. He was not a good father, and like your daughter, my children have no respect for their father.....he was never there for them. My parenting skills have rubbed off on my daughter and she is a wonderful mother. She is with a man who takes an active role in raising their children. My other children will be good parents too because they have seen what a bad father is and Im sure my son, when he has children will be a wonderful father because of what he has missed out on. I wish it was a perfect world....unfortunately not everyone takes the role of parenting seriously.

Answer 5

I had a wonderful father. He worked 3 jobs and still made time for church on Sunday, intimate and meaningful times, loving daily discussions with his wife, vacations with our family, etc. He took us to our doctor appts too. He was an amazing, loving, dedicated father. Every day until his death. He was a a real man and an amazing father. He was an involved and loving father. A wonderful role model for fathers today.

I for one am definitely NOT Ok with any father not caring for, or not being in involved with their children. They have a lot to contribute to their family other than a paycheck. Anything less is a derelection of duty and an abomination. It is an honor to be a father and he should be a blessing to his wife and children. Skirting his responsibilities is childish and morally wrong and devastating to his family that needs him. It should be a labor of love to be involved with his family. Without true involvement and loyalty his family and society will suffer. chaos and negative consequences will result. A total breakdown of society is entirely possible. An involved father is key to a happy functional family and society.

Answer 6

SOME fathers don't even cut a check! Some men tell a woman right off the bat that they do not want kids, and are completely honest about that. The woman tricks them and gets pregnant anyway. And then complain that the man doesn't help her?? Some men are just not that interested in kids. Especially when they are young babies, a lot of men do not have the patience for it. That is why you need to be very clear on what you want from a partner, way prior to getting married, and figure out if you are compatible with that person as far as child rearing goes.

Answer 7

There are many wonderful fathers out there, many who wish they should take a larger role in their children's lives and many women who want the father's of their children to take a bigger role as well. I think you are judging an entire population by a small portion.

If anything it is the courts who do not see the importance of fathers in their child's life...other than a pay check. I agree that this is a problem.

Answer 8

Yes a father should have to care for his children. And more so if the parents are split up. My daughter see's her dad every weekend, this is very important to me. I want my daughter to have a relationship with him, I want her to know him and I want her to spend as much time with him as she can. I wasn't the only one who was there when I got pregnant with her. It is his responsibility as a father to care for her when he has her. And he should want to becasue he loves her. He should want to be involved in her LIFE as much as possible. I think there is something very wrong when a father does not take care of his kids. There is more to being a father then bringing home the pay check. Children need both their parent's equally but in different ways.

Answer 9

I'm not ok with it. As a father it's my responsibility to help in the care and raising of my children. And I think guys who think they don't have to help care or raise their kids are lazy deadbeats. And are NOT real men. Because a real man would NOT complain or try to run from that responsibility.

Answer 10

Not everyone is okay with that! My husband is a wonderful father to my daughter (his step-daughter) and his daughter. He's very active in their lives, as well as being financially supportive. He also has a son, whom he pays support for, that refuses to see him, he feels his step-dad is his dad so wants nothing to do with my husband, and this just kills him! So, sometimes, it's the kids. And women can be just as inactive in their childrens lives as men can.