I'm a single woman in her mid 40s and without children. I had spent a long time with one guy and we broke up a couple of years ago. As luck has it, I look a lot younger than my years and am frequently taken as a 30 year old. I also take good care of myself by keeping fit and eating very well. Because of this I am often asked out by guys in their twenties. The problem is, I am often attracted to them too. You might say 'what problem'? Ok, true, if an attraction is mutual why not go for it but in reality, I feel a bit insecure about the level of maturity of these guys and usually turn them down. I am not really attracted to men in my age group so I feel frustrated at this situation. I want to date a guy who is able to have a stable long term relationship with me. I fear that these 20 somethings are just looking for a fling or sexual experience with an older woman. Can these relationships really work..like real love? Or will the want a young girl for a baby etc?
2007-11-10 06:51:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
All I can tell you is I have been married to a older woman twice.
My first died almost 11 years ago and I still miss her everyday.
My second I am still married too and we are very happy.
The thing I find attractive about older women is that they are more secure, more stable and play a lot less games then younger women. (and they are better in bed)
I have been married a total of four times, the first to a younger woman who I left for my first older woman.
The third time was also to a younger woman and it was a disaster.
I was 35 the first time I married a older woman (she was 40) and 50 this last time (she is 62).
So, in my opinion yes this can work very well. I value my wife's opinion, she is my best friend and will never lie to me. I would trust her with my life.
2007-11-10 07:19:59 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots of younger guys love and I mean genuinely love older women. It depends on the connection. You are obviously a gorgeous woman because young guys that go for older women, usually go for the hot ones. My advice is, try going out with these guys and you will know very quickly if they are falling for you or if they are just looking for a fling. You have more experience in life than they have so you hold all the cards. People who criticize these relationships are usually jealous as they never had the chance to experience them!!
2007-11-11 20:56:56 · answer #2 · answered by must see 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women now a days look younger then they really are so nothing unique or special in that. I myself have pass for someone fifteen years younger. I married a man 7 years younger then i am and we have been married now for over 28 years. It hasn't been easy because the way women are today,bold as hell and could care less if the man is married. One of the biggest problems facing a wife are the female co-workers,they dress nice and are on their best behavior. Remember if you think he is sexy and good looking so does 100 other women out there,it's not easy holding on to a man these days. Doesn't matter if you are the best wife a man could ever have, the fact that you are the same look the same day in and day out is what makes a man look for someone else.
2007-11-10 12:32:50 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 25 and am rarely attracted to women my age. I too think that most of this age group is still trying to relive its college-years by binge-drinking and listening to Dave Mathews. I have a bad habid of checking out my older friends' wives when they bend over to load the dishwasher.
To answer your question, VERY few men my age are interested in children. Most I know, including myself, are more interested in our own hobbies and pasttimes to want to give that up in order to raise offspring. It's not at all a fear of committment, it's just a fear of losing a sense of self.
Yes, these relationships can work. But don't fool yourself... sex IS going to be a large part of it... you said yourself you're not "attracted" to men in your age group. You're attracted to the apparent virility of younger men.
2007-11-10 07:01:17 · answer #4 · answered by Cunning Linguist 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can get yourself some good sex but don't think it will be anything more than that. they are looking for a good time and that's it. you might date for awhile sure, but your a woman and you will fall in love and make it more than sex and a good time. he is also going to want to do stuff you find stupid and he will want to go places you won't feel comfortable at. guys don't have a problem with young things because we keep it casual. but good luck, i always dated older chics. my wife is 6 yrs younger than me.
2007-11-10 07:20:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you should comprimise a little, maybbe find someone in there early 30's, the age gap wont be so drastic, and things may work out for you
2007-11-10 08:11:57 · answer #6 · answered by anthony s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes its men who have gotten fed up with the games younger women play. They are mean, hurtful and self-absorebed and concerned most with what we can do for them.
2007-11-10 06:54:51 · answer #7 · answered by csiders30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really know. Sometimes i like the songs. But listening to them one after another can get very boring after a while.
2016-04-03 05:59:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL I WAS 24 SHE WAS 46 WE DATED SHE WAS GREAT IN EVERY WAY NOT JUST THE SEX
2007-11-10 06:56:35 · answer #9 · answered by master 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋