ok.... here it goes im 22 yrs old had a baby whn i was 16 and i havnt been with my sons dad in awhile but we still have sex is tht healthy or should i stop?
2007-11-10 07:19:20 · 21 answers · asked by tiff 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe you should move on and have sex with a person you are actually with......
2007-11-10 07:24:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Never. I do not have sex nor will I ever have sex again with the father of my daughter. Yes we were married but once I left it was over. The entire relationship and what it was, ceased to exist. We have a parenting relationship and that is it. We are trying to raise our daughter together but not as husband and wife. For me, an ex is an ex. Once we break up, I want nothing more to do with that person. Not a even a phone conversation. I have moved on with my LIFE, and they were apart of my LIFE once but that part is over and done with. I don't want to know how they are doing, what they are doing, and most times I find that I will have nothing left to say to them. I don't really care either.
I would stop and move on with your LIFE. If your still having sex, it really isn't over with. Have him in your kid's LIFE, have a parenting relationship but nothing more then that.
But really its up to you. You can't ask a bunch of people on Yahoo if its healthy or not and if you should stop. If this is what you really want, and feel in your heart, its the right thing to do, then keep doing it. Everyone on here is just going to tell you what they would do and that really is no way to live your LIFE. Live your LIFE by your rules, and do what you feel is right.
2007-11-10 09:06:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have doubts, then it is not a good thing, is it? Have you remarried? Has he? Then both of you are cheating on your present spouses. Hon, you screwed up your life big time having a baby at 16.... a baby having a baby. You gave up some of the very best years of your life, and have no idea what you missed. Get some counseling. For sure you must be one miserable, confused lady, to still be flucking around with an ex. Get some help, sweetie.... Truly, you do need it.
And tho lots of this is not really your fault-------- to continue down this path is. We don't teach classes any more in hs about life skills, and how to parent, and how to choose a partner. You are typical of our messy public ed. system, and as a public school teacher, my deepest apologies to you, hon.
2007-11-10 07:28:52 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is using you. Move on with your life and find someone who actually wants to be with you, not just have sex with you. Don't waste your time or your life on someone that isn't committed to you. Sooner or later you are going to get hurt, when he finds someone else. And it cant be very healthy for your son either. Stop it before he is old enough to realize daddy is only using his mommy for sex, that isn't a good example to set for your son.
2007-11-10 07:32:00 · answer #4 · answered by cris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why SHOULD you have sex with him at all? Unless you really want to have sex with them then dont... But if you aren't even together then its your own personal choice as to what relationship you want with him... the thing is if you continue to have sex with him you are not allowing yourself or him to move on and find someone else because when all else fails it seems like you will still be his bootie call and he will still be your bootie call... do you really want that?
2007-11-10 07:28:10 · answer #5 · answered by Aneesa M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
a very long time ago..maybe it was a dream..people had sex with each other because they loved each other. it was also called intimacy. and it meant something. it was giving of yourself and your body to someone you trusted and cared for.
all i'm saying is..that kids pick up on things..they learn by example too.
the best example you can give your child is not to have casual sex with people (whether or not it's his biological father)
have respect for yourself. and buy yourself a vibe.
2007-11-10 07:58:43 · answer #6 · answered by shyanne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you having sex with the hope for resolution and getting back?? Then there should be other signs... do not be used. Use protection ! You need someone else in your life in order to compare...because maybe you are not giving yourself an opportunity to move on. Do not be so easy to have sex..although you feel for it etc....Be STRONG...MOVE ON!!
2007-11-10 07:38:53 · answer #7 · answered by trop 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-11 01:23:22 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I had a a slighty different situation that you...I had dated this guy for 6 years and we broke up, or rather he broke up with me. I was devestated. But we tried the friend thing for 3 years. Which really was just us having sex and watching tv. I am sure for him it was a good deal, but for me it was a 3 year break up because I kept hoping he would choose me again. He didn't. So I guess if you both agree it is just sex, okay but just make sure no one gets hurt.
2007-11-10 07:24:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why don't you get back togather if your still screwing. If thats not possiably continue to use each other for sex as needed until you have a new partner then it needs to stop
2007-11-10 10:52:19 · answer #10 · answered by Answerman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP and find someone who loves you, not someone who would be willing to give you another baby to take care of by yourself. Your children deserve a live-in, married to you father.
2007-11-10 07:47:18 · answer #11 · answered by arlene k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋