My dying ex-fiance (who is also my best friend) knows that I have a new bf. Yesterday, I told my ex that I loved him more than any other guy. But then he just said "I wish you were happy with your new guy." Then he gave me his cellphone, told me to take care of it for him. Then told me that he hopes my new bf enjoyed my cooking as much as he used to. My ex is now in his hospital deathbed, he has cancer, I don't know what to do. I love him more than my bf, but it's so hopeless. (We broke up cuz we decided we were better off as friends). But why is he letting me go already? I don't want him to die...
2007-11-10 08:53:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hes being totally unselfish. He is letting you go because he knows he is dying and he doesnt want to burden you. If you trully love this man then you be unselfish too. You show him just how much you love him and stand by his side. Make it clear to him just how much you love him and be with him until he dies. When that happens, then persue someone else, but for the moment this guy needs your love and support. If you trully love him, then you will want to be there for him until the very end. Dont let him persuade you to leave him. Stand your ground and make him realise just how much you do love him. He needs to die knowing he was trully loved.
2007-11-10 09:00:54 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he Loves you enough to let you go, and wants you to find Happiness. He wants to Know you are being taken care of and that you are truly happy. Maybe you should keep telling your ex that you DO still love him, and you want to be there for HIM during this difficult time. You said you both decided you were better off as friends, and I think standing beside your friend, to show your love for them, is a testiment to your friendship. Also, maybe seeing you, knowing that he is dying is just too hard on him. Maybe he's trying to push you away so you can move on when he is gone. Whatever his reasons, ask him. And be true to your heart, and do what your heart tells you. Hopefully, your bf is okay w/ your friendship w/ your ex. If he isn't , it's best you find out now anyway. Good Luck and God Bless !!
2007-11-10 09:11:41 · answer #2 · answered by casper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knows that he won't be there for you, and wants you to be happy. He accepts the fact he won't be around, since he's on his deathbed. If you aren't ready to love another, then you shouldn't have a new boyfriend. It's OK to be single. You could then be there for your ex and care for him as you feel you should. Very sad, and a hard thing to go through.
2007-11-10 11:36:13 · answer #3 · answered by Shelber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard situation. It sounds like you are still in love with him. Do you really like the guy your with now? If not, you might just need to take some time off from being in relationships till you get a chance to heal. It sounds like he wants you to be happy, and he wants to know someone will be there for you when he is gone.
2007-11-10 09:15:02 · answer #4 · answered by bluemonarch17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop telling those things. He is worried about your happiness. He is going to die so stop telling him things that make him worry about you. Just tell him that you are making yourself happy and that you will always love him. It is normal to want to know that people that you care about are going to be alright after you are gone. I am sorry that he is dying.
2007-11-10 09:03:21 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he has accepted that he is dying. And you need to also, don't make it any harder for him by being in denial. And I am sure he is hopping that you will find someone to be happy with. He doesn't want to worry about you being alone.
2007-11-10 09:01:03 · answer #6 · answered by cris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes probably letting u go bcause staying with him in all of his pain would hurt u both,so instead of letting u hold on until the fnal day of his death,he wants u 2 b happy because he knows he will not b around 2 make u happy,the sooner u let go the faster u heal from a broken heart i guess,good luck
2007-11-10 09:06:16 · answer #7 · answered by kim27 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's giving you his permission to be free to love someone else. He is giving you a gift full of hope and care and love; to let him go and to make the most of the life you have ahead of you. I can see why you care so much for him; he'll be watching over you along your journey in life.
2007-11-10 09:00:29 · answer #8 · answered by pussycat 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's letting you go because he cares about you and wants you to be happy instead of mourning for him. It's all he can do. What else do you want?
2007-11-10 09:00:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He wants you to be happy. Everyone dies sometime. His time is just sooner, rather than later.
2007-11-10 08:59:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋