sexual activity whatsoever, would you leave them or support them?
I ask this because I received four thumbs down for answering "How important is sex in a relationship?" with "I believe that if you truly love someone that you can spend your entire life with them without touching them at all."
What is your opinion?
2007-11-10 08:09:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well for me thats easy ...sure I'll stay cuz I'll just buy every vibrator known to man, plus I can do it myself w/o a vibe so either way I'm covered!
I think I have more sex w/ myself anyways.
EDIT: I read the other question and ur response was good... sex is important in a relationship and if ur able to do it I think u should it should not be neglected however if circumstances come to where it CAN'T be done well then thats where love would come in cuz love will always keep u together!
2007-11-10 08:17:20 · answer #1 · answered by NONAME 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
well I can answer this by having seen 2 people go through just this same thing...My parents, my Dad had prostate cancer a little over 6 yrs ago and as a result they can no longer have sex...I have talked with both of my parents about this "for fear of them drifting from each other" and both of them have said that while sex is a great part of marriage its not everything, its a perk. they love each other so much they travel and spend time with each other they also have a great respect and communication with each other...don't get me wrong it isnt always easy it is hard to give that part up but they didn't have a choice, and they have accepted that...and you can still touch them..you can hug and kiss....if you love them than I believe that can with stand anything
2007-11-10 16:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree. I had some illness from past couple of months. I had ovarian cysts and it was painful. We haven't had sex from almost a month. we have been married for 3 months and that thing happened. Marriage Or love is not because of sex. Its just a physical emotions to show how much you love the person. I love my husband that much even if something like that happened I will be with him for the rest of my life.
2007-11-10 17:48:19 · answer #3 · answered by SweetS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's easy for others to comment, but unless you are in this situation, you have no idea what it's like. Ok, I am in this situation.....except....we have rarely had sex since his 5 year affair with my 'friend' ended, and have had separate rooms for 9 years....no sex for 10....long before all his health probs. I have stuck with him through thick and thin...because of my vows. It has been a nightmare..... and I suffer with severe depression, and if we weren't friends I would leave, but he has been good to me, most of the time.
However....sooner or later someone will come along who does want you, who makes you feel loved, and special, and alive again. It has happened to me ......but now I think I may have lost him because I can't bring myself to leave my marriage unless I am sure. It is a big risk. We have not had any physical contact as yet....
Therefore....support can cause heartache....even if you love the spouse...but cheating can do the same. Leaving can cause major guilt...so in this situation...yes you can spend your life with someone without touching them....but omg it is sooooo not fair. I feel like I'm destined for despair whichever way I go. We all need love, and it DOES depend on the situation.
Those who have not lived it should not pass judgement.
2007-11-10 16:37:44 · answer #4 · answered by Chatterbox 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you. We marry in sickness and health and an accident is beyond anyones control. I would not leave my husband for this.There are a lot of thumbs down to some decent answers on here.
2007-11-10 16:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband had heart surgery whereas he had to have a stint put into his heart. He couldnt have sex for over 2 mths. Honestly, it was very hard, but I feel as though sex isnt that major component of marriage. Love, understanding, trust, and honesty is everything in marriage. A marriage shouldnt be based solely on sex, yes we all have our " needs " / " wants".. but you have to be understanding and willing to deal with a situation of this matter. If it was to happen to him again, I would support him and be there for him.
2007-11-10 17:23:26 · answer #6 · answered by Tru_New Orleanian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my wife had a serious injury I would not leave her even if we couldn't have Sex. We have been through too much to ever leave her. We have had children together and experienced six years together. I have made a vow and I intend to keep in sickness or in health.
2007-11-10 17:22:14 · answer #7 · answered by hawkeye316 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without touching?? NOOOO - but without sex, yeah.....touch is essential to both of us....and there are always times in a marriage that preclude having sex, but there are many ways to "make love" with words, a glance and touch.
2007-11-10 16:47:30 · answer #8 · answered by that judi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be very hard, but if that happened to my husband I would still stay with him. And I will try my best to be faithful. Although i cannot guarantee it. I probably won't be happy. Love does not last forever. You'll see.
2007-11-10 16:34:34 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica C 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sex is very important to me, but my wedding vows are more important.
"In sickness and in health..."
2007-11-10 16:16:45 · answer #10 · answered by War Games AM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋