i am very suspicious my husband is cheating on me because ever since he went into the military he is mean to me. In basic trainig i didn't get one phone call. His letters only talked about his daughter no hello to me or anything to my 7 yr old from previous marriage. he is now in ait he NEVER answers his phone. i have text messaged him i need closure and that i think he is cheating but he never responds. He called his daughter one time in the whole 4 months and i missed the call but he says on the voicemail the srgt made him call he does send the lowest legal amount but thats it. Other than that were dead to him he didn't invite me to the graduation from basic where they are allowed to sleep with wives for one nite on post. since he gets weekend passes in ait from sat at 5pm till sun 5pm he has been renting hotel rooms at the marrioot & spends lots of money atm debits of 300 dollars should i go up there and confront him since he never answers his phone or just consider him a cheater
2007-11-10 07:18:05 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
in your heart u know the truth and confronting him won't change a thing, because he doesn't care as his actions tell. file for divorce, get your child support and accept it as there is nothing u can do about it. u could report him to his commander, as the military frowns on cheaters. u can tell when a man is cheating, they no longer care and nothing u say is going to change a thing. instead focus on getting out of this marriage with your dignity.
2007-11-10 07:34:41 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am guessing by your description that your husband is in the US Army. In basic training they are limited to the amount and number of calls thye can make. At AIT they get more freedom and as you said he is spending time at local hotels..
Do you have yor dependent ID card? IF so you can get on base, but first make an appointment to discuss this with a Chaplain you can get there numebr by calling hte basse and asking for it. THey will talk to you and also to him about his conduct.
How old is your husband? Did he want to get married that young? If after talking to hte chaplain you cannot resolve things then I believe you are headed for a divorce and it is better for him to get it over with prior to being deployed overseas.
Send him a letter and tell him taht you are coming to see him and are planning to talk to a chaplain for guidance. See if he calls you.
2007-11-10 15:38:24 · answer #2 · answered by will_955 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If (or really since) you have proof he's cheating, why the drama???? File for divorce and leave the dude. Betrayal is the deal-buster in any relationship. Obviously you don't want him back.
Get out so you can find a guy worth your admiration, respect, passion and trust.... you have none of these for this guy, from this posting.
2007-11-10 15:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can call him commanding officer and talk to him. It is against the rules of the military to commit adultery. I would not go to the base. That could get ugly and it could get you into trouble. If he is staying at the Marriott he is with another woman. He can sleep for free at the base. Even if you decide to leave him talk to his CO.
2007-11-10 16:00:49 · answer #4 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are not allowed to just go on base whenever you want to. Why don't you just apply for a divorce and get it over with? If he is running up debts that you have to pay, get busy with the divorce as quickly or you may end up paying for HIS fun at the motels he rents.
2007-11-10 15:56:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can't just get on base so don't bother trying. He has to sign you on base. Just get a divorce he's a jerk. What husband doesn't answer his wife's calls?
2007-11-10 15:27:03 · answer #6 · answered by LilybearPDP 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
They will throw you in jail. Dont do it. Get a divorce.
2007-11-10 15:22:28 · answer #7 · answered by csiders30 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
IT IS AGAINST MILITARY LAW TO COMIT ADULTERY. IF YOU CATCH HIM HE CAN GO TO MILITARY JAIL!!!!
2007-11-10 15:42:38 · answer #8 · answered by tammy 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
go for a visit.
2007-11-10 15:43:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋