After a big argument and false accusations were made against me, I left my house with my new baby. I refused to come back home even though I really wanted to because I was scared. We went through a custody thing for a couple months. I really want to go home, but my husband says he doesn't know if he can "forgive me" because I was unappreciative of him when we were together and that I was cold. He said if I asked right now, he'd want a divorce but that could be different later, and he had to "fall back in love" with me. We've been separated for 3 months, and this past weekend I slept w/ him (after almost no communication for a while), then yesterday, he got mad at me because he received a bill from something a long time ago and told me he'd made so many sacrifices to make me happy and he didn't even want to talk to me! I have worked on a lot of issues, and am in counseling. How do I get a second chance?
2007-11-10 08:57:32 · 7 answers · asked by Morgan G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He has to be willing to work on the marriage with you. If you go back and he is not open to work on the marriage, you are just going to set yourself up for heartache. Communication is the key to any marriage. It takes alot of giving and taking and understanding. You both probably need to go into counseling together to learn how to communicate without letting it get to name calling. He has to be willing to give you the chance. If it is all one-sided, he will be throughing things in your face all the time and you will be walking on egg-shells.
Good luck!
2007-11-10 09:05:36 · answer #1 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll cool off. Keep on with the counseling and if your relationship is meant to be, time will take care of it all. You two will have to make a new start, forgive all that took place in the past and start from today forward.
2007-11-10 17:04:03 · answer #2 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not understand how some one can fall out of love in three months.. he acts like you cheated or something... unappreciative for what.? food .clothing what? sounds more like your parent than husband. i do not think you can please this guy.. seriously. if you go back on your knees that is where you will be the rest of this marriage. he is taking advantage,,, of your apparent low self esteem. talk with your counselor about this.
2007-11-10 17:05:10 · answer #3 · answered by foosieboy1953 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots & lots of oral, throw in a hefty bit of anal and he'll never let ya leave
2007-11-10 17:43:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it some time, its hard to tell someone what to do when u dont know both sides, try and get him to go to councling also good luck
2007-11-10 17:39:52 · answer #5 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him perservere. He will come around. I assure you. If he dont well maybe you are better off
2007-11-10 17:17:11 · answer #6 · answered by janine b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No second chance. You're out!
He's being used and he knows it. He's just trying to even up the score a bit by leaving you dangling.
2007-11-10 17:03:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋