Marriage & Divorce - 2 October 2007

If you have a man who does his job as a man, and his wife cheats that almost unforgiveable. If a man cheats, its probably because the wife stops having sex.

2007-10-02 10:59:11 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

Well, heres the problem , I have a 5 month year old baby a 22 month year old baby and i work a full time job! Im having intamicy problems with my husaband, I just dont have any disire to have sex what so every ! I used to have to have it! Whats wrong!

2007-10-02 10:34:23 · 14 answers · asked by abrit_3 1

2007-10-02 10:33:39 · 30 answers · asked by lotsofluv40 1

2007-10-02 10:29:27 · 14 answers · asked by Ryan D 2

Okay. I've been with my husband since I was 16 years old, (nearly 6 years!). We have two kids together and got married nearly three years ago because I got pregnant. Thing is, he's not turning out to be the father and husband I'd thought he'd be. He refuses to help me with house work and can't even be trusted with my kids. He left my son as an infant in a carseat for 4 hours without changing him or taking him out to comfort him or anything because he wanted to play x-box. I have caught him sleeping while watching the kids, etc. etc. The majority of the time he is inconsiderate and even mean, allthough he has only hit me once....... I don't love him anymore, and want to leave, but I also want to do whats best for my kids. My parents have offered to let me stay there to get back on my feet, and I think I'm going to take them up on it. I don't want to end up miserable for 18 years of my life just to get my kids through highschool! Does anyone have any suggestions for me?

2007-10-02 10:18:34 · 18 answers · asked by dolly 6

My husband and I were separated on the verge of divorce when he was involved with another woman. He asked me to leave because we were destroying the relationship, which I agree but never wanted to leave. Months went by when he finally decided he wanted to stay married and asked me to come back home. I didn't want to leave in the first place so I was happy that he wanted to stay married.

Since being back in the house I've had a difficult time dealing with the facts that SHE was here, living in my home, sleeping in my bed, and was emotionally and sexually involved with my husband. At times I feel foolish for coming back because SHE is still brought up and things are still found (not going into detail here).

So, my question is how do I get past this and trust him again.

2007-10-02 10:17:57 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

well this is the problem. my better have is cheating on me with herself. i give her all of me and i get maybe 45 percent of her. am i wrong for wonting out or wonting to give me to someone else? how do i handle this? i do love her but i cant keep going on like this and i dont see anything happening anytime soon. anybody feel like this if so message me.simply tired!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-10-02 10:16:59 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

My neighbor has kids that are about 8 and 10. I just found out they aren't married. I didn't know and may have referred to her fiance as husband. Is that offensive? How can I know?

2007-10-02 10:01:48 · 23 answers · asked by niffer 3

I AM RECENTLY LIVING WITH MY COMMON LAW WIFE, WICH SHE MENTALLY ABUSES ME AND PHYSICALLY ABUSES ME IM TRYING TO KEEP MY KIDS AND THE HOUSE WE ARE BOTH IN CONTRACT WITH, IF I WOULD TAKE HER TO COURT DO YOU THINK THE JUDGE WILL RULE IN MY FAVOR!!!! OH I FORGOT MY OLDEST KID IS ALWAYS TRYING TO TELL HER TO GET OUT THE HOUSE TO GO TO ANOTHER HOUSE WOULD THAT HELP ME IN COURT IF MY 8 MONTH OLD COULD TALK HE WOULD PROBALY BE SAYING THE SAME PLEASE HELP!!!!

2007-10-02 09:26:37 · 22 answers · asked by riggie 1

are they pretending to be single again or what ?

2007-10-02 09:19:52 · 32 answers · asked by ♥BEX♥ 7

Here's the deal: my wife and I have sex drives that are polar opposite to one another - I'm wanting it all the time and she's never the mood or has some kind of excuse for not wanting to do it. I'm starting to get a little desperate, but want to stay true to our marriage and my vows.

So, would it be right of me to possibly use some roofies or chloroform or something similar, since this is nearing the point of being an emergency? Help!!!

2007-10-02 09:19:46 · 24 answers · asked by Brandon's been a dirty Hore 5

OK. We've been getting into aruguments alot lately. I talk about how work is getting to me and he thinks i'm only drama. From my view i only seem to annoy him, I don't want him to solve my problems, I only want him to listen. Anyway we talk over the phone alot,being that he's a marine station on the other side of the country. So when an ex started sending me emails, just to say hi and wanted to know how things were going with me. I replied but after a week of conversating. I felt really guiltly knowing my husband wanted me not to ever talk with him again. So I stopped and told my husband. He responded with anger and was very hurt....and now wants a divorce. We always got into arguements and i knew we would recover, but this time I think it's over. But i honestly still love him. I tried to talk but nothing i say seems to help. I regret even opening the message. I don't have a clue what to do or say to make him stay. Your opinions please!

2007-10-02 09:09:41 · 18 answers · asked by Marie 1

Hiya one of my friends husbands is cheating on her? I know he is and i know who with. What should i do. They have been married for 3 years and shes wanting to start a family with him.
I dont want to be the one to ruin her happiness by telling her but at the same time i know she should know. How can i set him up so she will find out herself without knowing i knew already. She would hate me forever if she knew that i knew!
He lies so much to her and treats her like rubbish. But she loves him to bits and i know it would break her heart

2007-10-02 09:08:36 · 25 answers · asked by TADA 2

what age is legal to get married? is 14 legal?not that i want to get married but im just curiouse????

2007-10-02 09:06:39 · 15 answers · asked by HAIDAIYYABISBIKARO 1

Sometimes my husband gets upset, and when he does he is like a child having a temper tantrum. He throws things around (ie books off a desk) and kicks things (ie the wall) and slams doors. Today he knocked the bed room door into the closet door and the knob put a big hole in it.

Also, when he is upset he will be very mean to me. Like last night he asked me if I had some change cause he didn't have enough money for the bus... I said yes, but I wasn't sure how much. This morning he asked for the change, and I only had twenty cents but he needed forty. He got really upset and threw books around and broke the door. He got really upset and couldn't handle himself. He yelled at me: "with all the money you spend how come you can't have forty G-d da-n cents around here!" and he was very angry.

I don't appreciate how he makes me feel bad about something as stupid as this. He is home now and is still upset, because the day apparently got worse. Now he is moping in the bedroom.

2007-10-02 09:05:45 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous

According to some states the minimum is $350.00 a month. If this were truely the case how in the hell could anyone afford to raise children?
Ransom makes more sense anyways because usually mom takes the children and legally kidnaps them and then dad is fored to pay thousands of dollars in order to be a visitor in the childs life.
Agree?

2007-10-02 09:01:43 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Does it end quicker if one of the parties has a lot of baggage? For example, ex spouse, kids, child support, etc. What about if the relationship started as as affair? How long before that relationship goes sour?

2007-10-02 08:58:04 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

a feeling of sadness for what started out so right ended so wrong?

2007-10-02 08:57:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

me and my bf have been living together for a year now. and for the first 8 months he didnt have a job. i had to pay the rent, bill,s and buy the food. he would always say "oh IM WAITING FOR THEM to call me" or "ive lloked everywhere". so i had to get him a job with a friend, but the hours were too little and he quit 2 weeks ago. and now he started again with the "im waiting" crap. im getting tired of paying for everything. i hate getting up in the morning to come to work while he is still sleeping. i bust my butt everyday while he's at home on the computer all day. he says he does his part by cleaning the house, and he does clean all the time, but its just me and him in the house, it doesnt get that dirty. but sometimes, i get home and the dishes arent washed. he wont do them for days!!! AND HE COMPLAINTS ABOUT COOKING OF Me. he says i need to do my part at home too. IM GETTING SICK OF IT! ive tried talking to him calmly ,YELLING,IVE TRIED EVERYTHING. what can i do?? please help!!!

2007-10-02 08:55:22 · 35 answers · asked by ? 4

my bf is 47 and i am 31, do you think he is too old for me ?
and also i want to have kids and he wants no more. what do you think ? i love him.

2007-10-02 08:51:34 · 20 answers · asked by rodriguez m 3

I told my ex-fiance he was lucky that Im willing to take half the responsibility for our failed relationship. My father has spent almost $6000 that cannot be gotten back for the wedding that was canceled. Im having the ring sold to cover MAYBE a third of what my family has spent.
My ex thinks legally the ring is his. Is he right? (its still in my possession)

2007-10-02 08:31:50 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married to my wife for 19 years and I love her very much but our sex life is teribale. I have a friend with bennifets but I am not in love with her. should I keep this up or not.

2007-10-02 08:31:15 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband still looks up his old girlfriend on Myspace at least once a month to see what she's up to. I don't think he still likes her, in fact I think he hates her, but why does he still have to do this after 3 1/2 years? Why can't he just forget about her and move on?

2007-10-02 08:27:24 · 19 answers · asked by Ferosia 3

My boyfriend and I have known each other for 8 years, I recently got a divorce last year, he is still going through the legalities of his. As couples, we used to hang out together but our spouses felt our attraction for one another so that caused problems. We started having an affair last year which resulted in both of our divorces. His is MUCH more complicated than mine and taking a lot longer. We both love each other very much and it is much more than a sexual thing. We have the most amazing connection I have ever seen in couples and everyone else thinks so as well. Contrary to what the books and counselors say, can the first relationship after a divorce really last, even when the divorce isn't finalized, or are we doomed for failure? When you have that connection with someone is it still necessary to wait a year after the divorce is finalized?

2007-10-02 08:26:16 · 22 answers · asked by butterflyprincess 1

I don't know what to do about the kids. Right now, my daughter & I are with my parents, and he won't let me take my son. He wants to spit the children up and I feel like right now is when they really need eachother. I have been the primary care provider for 4 years now. I just recently quit my job and I have no car. He was abusive to me in the past but there's no way to prove it now cause I didn't make a report. I cheated on him and that's one of the reasons why we're spitting up. would he be able to use the cheating against me? would I be able to get custody of my children without a job or car? How much wuold a lawyer cost?

2007-10-02 08:22:44 · 12 answers · asked by big wish 1

My husband is constantly making profiles on dating websites as a single man...he says that it is just for fun and it doesnt mean anything but something about it feels wrong. he swears he isn't cheating, and at some level I believe him but then on the other hand I don't... I have been cheated on before by other men and I don't know if I trust my judgement anyumore!!! should I worry, is it normal for men to do this "just for fun" or should I really be worried?

2007-10-02 08:18:09 · 47 answers · asked by chris' girl 2

"I've paid the bills/ Taken care of the kids/ You've been out drinking/ Now we're on the skids." 'Have a nice life without me.' When it is an event worth sharing, it is truly a Hallmark moment.

2007-10-02 08:18:05 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I have been married for a little under 2 years. I'm very frustrated with our sex life and she's aware of it but doesn't do anything to spice it up. We do it about once a week, maybe 2 if I'm lucky. It's the same ol' routine. It gets to a point where it's not as exciting doing it with her as it was. Sex is great in general but I don't feel what I should between us. Also, me making advances doesn't work at all. I go to hug her, kiss her, touch her sexually, and she does nothing about it. I go to kiss her sexually, and that lasts all of 5 seconds. And when we do have sex, the foreplay is almost non-existent. Sex shouldn't be everything in a relationship but it's very frustrating for me being married to her and not being able to do it often. I know it's not going to get better from here on out. Am I to stay with her when I know we'll pretty much have a non-existent sex life? There are other problem areas but a lack of sex or just physical activity seems to be the big one to me

2007-10-02 08:16:12 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous

When I am upset because of something my husband has done, I want to talk about it. Usually he doesn't think he has done anything wrong so he doesn't want to talk about it. This infuriates me. It ruins every day for me and eventually I end up apoligizing so things will be better. What do I do? It doesn' t happen all the time, but when it does, it takes me like a week to recover.

2007-10-02 08:15:20 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

We got married 2 months ago & still haven't consummated the marriage. I have NO desire for him & felt this way before we got married but went thru w/ it because I didn't know what to do. What do I do now?????

2007-10-02 08:07:31 · 29 answers · asked by sgb 1