mine has been going on in various degrees for nearly 20 years; Yes it's possible; but not always easy
2007-10-02 08:28:45
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answer #1
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answered by wizjp 7
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Throw the books out!! It seems as though you feel it is right if he feels the same way don't worry about what others think. When you say wait a year...do you mean get married again?
The reason it is best to wait (to get remarried) is because your relationship is going to go through some major changes. Once your divorces are both final you will both have new living arrangements, new financial decisions, child visitation situations, etc. Your new relationship is not doomed but I wouldn't place additional preasures on it by getting married again , at least not right away.
If you both want to be together.... what's the hurry?
2007-10-02 08:39:54
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answered by mpasnick 4
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You and this man have gotten divorced for each other. It seems a little late now to wonder if your relationship with him should be put on hold. If you are right for each other it will work out. Do you really want to waste the another second of your time wondering if the timing is right. If you are meant for each other than you should be together. After all you are now divorced why wait. What is the worst that could happen, you find out that it is not going to work out. I say find out sooner than later and you might just turn out to be one of the lucky ones and have found your soul mate.
2007-10-02 08:36:31
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answered by Queenie 4
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Waiting a year definitely can't hurt. Your atraction to each other is all well and good....but you should both make sure that you aren't running to each other just to get away from your spouses. I've had "connections" with guys that I thought would be everlasting, but after that newness wore off, I realized they weren't so great. Remember, the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence...only when the grass has been maintained and taken care of. After your divorce, maintain your grass, take care of you and heal from your failed marriage. Seek counseling...you and Mr. Amazing Connection...to make sure ya'll won't be making connections everywhere you go.
2007-10-02 08:35:42
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answered by Kimberly C 3
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The main reason for waiting a year is to make certain that the attraction to each other wasn't just a comparison with two bad marriages. Had you both been happy in the marriages, the connection would never have been made.
you should take it slow although perhaps not a year, and see if the connection remains or it is just the difference between the bad marriages that you both had compared to what you seem to feel now.
2007-10-02 08:34:00
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answered by Al B 7
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Hunny, you need to quit setting yourself up for a fall. You were friends first before the affair and all. It is hard when one of a couple is going though a divorce,(experience) it takes a toll on your feeligns as well as your heart, so until thigns are completed you both need to take time as a couple not talking abotu the divorce or the kids, but abotu you and him, and no your not doomed, I have come to see that if you are friends first and foremost then you can get though anything... Good luck
2007-10-02 08:33:19
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answered by eeyore6838 5
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No it is not doomed for failure. I met my hubby (at work) while I was still married. He's the one that helped me get away from my abusive ex and gave me place to live until I could get on my feet. It moved on from there after I was legally seperated. We have been a couple for 3 years.... No it's 3 1/2 years now and married 2 1/2 of those years and we're still going strong!
2007-10-02 08:42:27
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answered by Spring 5
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I don't think the first relationship after a divorce is doomed to failure. Far from it. I think you now have a better idea of the sort of person you want to be with and are more likely to make a better choice.
I was in the same situation - although my marriage had fizzled out before I met someone else (although I was still living with my husband) and realised they were far more like the sort of person I should be with. I moved out immediately and got divorced.
Best of luck to you.
2007-10-02 08:32:48
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answered by finch 5
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Are you asking if second marriages work? Well in my experience a very definate YES. I am my husbands second wife and whilst we have had ups and downs same as most couples.in fact some blistering rows i'm here to tell you that after 44years together I love him as much as I did maybe even more than when I first fell in love with him. Who says you have to wait a year before you can remarry? After your decree is made absolute you can apply for special marriage licence and be married in days. It's what we did. If you love each other then go for it and good luck to you both.
2007-10-02 08:44:02
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answered by Anonymous
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Only time will tell if you are meant to stay together. It's too bad both of your respective spouses had to be hurt by your affair. I'm sure you have reasons why you chose to have an affair rather than each separating from your spouses before-hand. Did you ever hear the saying, "be careful what you wish for."
2007-10-02 08:31:36
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answered by Nefertiti 5
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Any relationship formed out of an affair will not last. You are doomed for failure. However, I may be wrong. But statistics show that relationships formed out of cheating will not last long. Once the thrills and attraction wears off, so will the relationship.
2007-10-02 08:30:59
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answered by Anonymous
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