me and my bf have been living together for a year now. and for the first 8 months he didnt have a job. i had to pay the rent, bill,s and buy the food. he would always say "oh IM WAITING FOR THEM to call me" or "ive lloked everywhere". so i had to get him a job with a friend, but the hours were too little and he quit 2 weeks ago. and now he started again with the "im waiting" crap. im getting tired of paying for everything. i hate getting up in the morning to come to work while he is still sleeping. i bust my butt everyday while he's at home on the computer all day. he says he does his part by cleaning the house, and he does clean all the time, but its just me and him in the house, it doesnt get that dirty. but sometimes, i get home and the dishes arent washed. he wont do them for days!!! AND HE COMPLAINTS ABOUT COOKING OF Me. he says i need to do my part at home too. IM GETTING SICK OF IT! ive tried talking to him calmly ,YELLING,IVE TRIED EVERYTHING. what can i do?? please help!!!
2007-10-02 08:55:22 · 35 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you should try talking to him one more time and tell him that if he doesnt get a job (you should give him a time limit)...that you want him to move out and get a roomate who can actually afford to pay their part of the rent and bills.
You shouldnt have to put up with this even if this is your bf...I would be fed up too if i had to get up every morning to bust my *** while he's at home doing hardly anything!!!
Good luck girl!!!
2007-10-02 09:04:37 · answer #1 · answered by *yOur name here* 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like a loser and if you continue to babysit him your life is going to go down the drain as well as your childs. He doesn't seem like the type of person to be in a stable relationship with and you are bringing a child into the picture now you have to worry about the safety of this child as well as its well being and your sanity. You have to make a decision on what is acceptable for you in a relationship and what isn't. This for me wouldn't be at all acceptable. Why is he calling your job anyway does he work or have a life at all outside or yours if not that is defiantly unhealthy! Also Im gonna need you to go somewhere and get an education. I mean how old are you with all these words that aren't in a dictionary. At least learn how to use the spell check on here! Get it together!!!!!!
2016-05-19 16:22:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of this dead end relationship now. He is lazy and isn't going to do crap while you are doing everything for him. You are doing all the work here. Whooptee doo, he cleans every other day, cooks, and does laundry for 2 people. I'm sure you could do that in a few hours. Tell him to get a job, or get out. Plain and simple and stick to it!
2007-10-02 09:03:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him that the relationship is 50/50 not 90/10 yeah you like to come home to a clean house and dinner so tell him thanks but that doesn't make up for his other 40% he needs to get off his but and get a job or he can find someone else to take care of him. Tell him your not his momma and if that's how he wants to be treated he can move back home.
2007-10-02 09:05:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what u see is what u get, he doesn't seem to feel responsible for anything and is quite selfish not to have respect enough for u to at least do the dishes. u need to get rid of this man and find someone who will be a helpmate for u in life, because eventually it will end anyway when u get good and tired of him, and believe me u will. u never quit a job until another one comes along, at least the job was bringing in something. this guy is a parasite and will use u as long as u let him.
2007-10-02 09:14:36 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don;t use sex as a weapon. Time for your BF to learn how to make it on his own. You need to move out of the apartment. Give up the lease at the first opportunity and move in with some girls. Don't marry this fool until he learns how to take care of himself. Otherwise you will be forever cleaning up after him and bringing in the money. And God help you if you have kids.
2007-10-02 09:05:38 · answer #6 · answered by Blade_III 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a bum!!! You need to kick his butt to the curb, or take a few days off and tell him you quit your job and see how he reacts thinking the both of you are off of work. How dare he yell at you for not doing anything around the house, when you are the one working every day supporting his a**! he should be rubbing your feet when you get home from work and have dinner prepared every night!! sounds like he is definetly using you, and you need to set him straight!
2007-10-02 09:02:15 · answer #7 · answered by Dee 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you two are made for each other. While you are taking care of him, then no other woman will have to deal with his lazy butt. Think of what a public service you are doing for the rest of the world by babysitting him and keeping him away from other women. Keep up the good work (for the rest of your life)!
2007-10-02 09:40:53 · answer #8 · answered by RDW928 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well now you know how every guy who is supporting some woman feels!
If you're getting sick of it kick him out, obviously it is less expensive to live by yourself vs. having to support some free loader. The world will still turn believe me!! Kick him out today!! I don't want to hear about, oh i love him, blah blah blah, kick him out.
2007-10-02 09:20:28 · answer #9 · answered by Nick I 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, My dear you should move on if this is gonna be your future ! Living together is only for married people.Move on and find a gentleman who wants to work while you stay home as a homemaker , after you marry !!!
2007-10-02 09:10:12 · answer #10 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋