Is it worst for the wife to cheat?

Question

If you have a man who does his job as a man, and his wife cheats that almost unforgiveable. If a man cheats, its probably because the wife stops having sex.

Answer 1

You have an interesting world view. You think that if a man cheats it must be because the woman is at fault and if the wife cheats it's because--the woman is at fault.

That is circular logic and is neither true nor valid. Your reasoning is faulty as are your base assumptions. You appear to be looking only to have your idea that women are at fault for everything bad that happens in a relationship validated rather than for actual information, which is the purpose of a question. Something you also do not seem to really understand.

There is no possible answer to your question because there is no scientific way to quantify the sense of betrayal. There are; however, studies that indicate that women feel emotions more strongly then men which would invalidate your misogynistic presumptions.

Answer 2

Not necessarily true about why the man cheats. There are many diff reasons why a man or woman cheats. The question is finding out why the woman is cheating just because the man at home is doing "his job as a man" doesnt mean that he is completely doing his job to keep his wife happy. Same goes for the man the wife could be doing "her job as a woman" to the fullest and still there is other things that she isnt doing. Doesnt necessarily mean that sex is bad or void. Just means there is a problem question is does that person, man or woman, want to address and fix it.

Answer 3

I hope the point you are trying to make is that societies perception of women cheating is far different from that of a man cheating.

If you are, you are correct. Society in general always finds a way to make it the woman's fault. If the man cheats - she wasn't "putting out" and the man gets an understanding pat on the shoulder from the other men.

If the woman cheats, well the world caves in! The man is again saved by society and embraced. The woman is tarnished with a "s l u t" brush and cast out to the world.

So yes. You are correct in your analysis. However, i must point out that i do not agree with cheating in ANY circumstance. Whether the man or the woman cheats i think it is wrong and there is absolutely no justification for cheating.

Answer 4

That's a distorted view of the situation.

Most people cheat (both men and women) because some very basic NEED is not being met by their spouse.

Usually for men - this is sex

Usually for women - this is emotional closeness / intimacy

Funny how the two things are intertwined - yet many couples are so FAR apart on these issues. Trust me - if the woman steps out its not because the man is doing his "job" as the man in the house. He might bring home the check, be a great Dad, and even help out with the chores, but if he's emotionally unattached / unavailible for his wife - she'll stray.

Just like a guy with a wife that's a great mother, has the house looking great, dinner on the table every night, and lets him hang out and watch football with the guys. If she stops putting out, or turns him down too often, he is likely to let his eyes and thoughts wander.......

Its a two way street - so sorry if you got blindsided by a bus - but you must really look at it from both perspectives.

Best of luck to you ....

Answer 5

in case you're able to take the cheating spouse, you're a terrible man or woman. A cheating spouse will continually be a slut and a cheater, yet a "fat spouse" does not could desire to continually be that way. With a splash incentive, they could substitute right into a extra attractive man or woman on the outdoors, like they are on the interior. you have a stunted suggestions in case you think of that finding out on the cheating spouse could be extra powerful than a spouse who's committed and in elementary terms desires somebody's encouragement to cease "sitting around in pajamas eating chips and ice cream around the clock".

Answer 6

actually (according to a counselor i know) its way worse if the wife cheats. when women cheat its because they need to be fulfilled in many different ways (sexually, emotionally, financially) and if she cheats it's because her husband or her boyfriend is not giving her the things that she needs, not just sex. Men don't just cheat because of a lack of sex though. Even though that probably is the biggest reason. But that still doesn't make if forgivable on either side.

Answer 7

Nobody should treat. A husband cheating is unforgivable also. Most women do not stop having sex.

Answer 8

In a way it's worse for the wife to cheat, but I don't think our reasoning is the same. If a wife cheats it usually means her emotional needs are being met elsewhere, it's rarely just about sex. However, a man can cheat just because we're biologically wired to want multiple partners and it can be just about sex. But both are bad.

Answer 9

I think its bad if either man or woman cheat. There is no reason why cheating on your spouse should happen...even if the "needs" are not met. Love is love. You cant say "well if i dont get it at home, i'll get it somewhere else"...thats not love,thats not an excuse. Thats just issues a man or the woman has inside to cheat....way before being married. But hey....I'm no counselor.

Answer 10

You've already made a conclusion again. Haven't you read the many letters from wives saying their husbands won't have sex with them? It goes both ways.

Cheating is never justified. You only hurt your own character and deceive yourself when you cheat. Better to be honest with the spouse, get out, move on and then find someone.