My husband is constantly making profiles on dating websites as a single man...he says that it is just for fun and it doesnt mean anything but something about it feels wrong. he swears he isn't cheating, and at some level I believe him but then on the other hand I don't... I have been cheated on before by other men and I don't know if I trust my judgement anyumore!!! should I worry, is it normal for men to do this "just for fun" or should I really be worried?
2007-10-02 08:18:09 · 47 answers · asked by chris' girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is not good. You know it, I know it,& he knows it. Why don't you do it , & see how he likes it? #
2007-10-02 08:24:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I know that you have a lot of answers to this question, however I will give you one more from experience. I was married for 21 years and getting on the Internet for fun and just playing with peoples emotions is wrong, But first and foremost my feelings should have been the most important and I just believed him. ALWAYS TRUST YOUR GUT INSTINCTS. I didn't now I am an almost DIVORCED single mom of Twins starting over in a cruel world of Just for fun emotions with the feeling of can I trust anyone. If you were doing it just for fun WHAT WOULD HIS REACTION BE?
That is what your rightful reaction should be as a wife.
STOP IT NOW if you want to hold on to your marriage.
2007-10-02 15:11:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know a married man that was doing that until one day he got busted by one of his friends seeing his profile. If he is doing that then there is something that he is missing in the current relationship. Sounds like you two need to sit down and have a heart to heart talk and see whats going on. If he is not already cheating he will be.
2007-10-02 08:46:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that's not normal. If he's married he has no business on the sites period. Why is that fun? Do women reply to his profile? I'm sure they do. That's what's fun about it. I wonder how fun he'd think it was if he saw your pic on there listed as single. That's totally disrespectful to you and your marriage. He needs to stop but I still wouldn't trust him. That's ridiculous. He must think you're a fool. Good Luck.
2007-10-02 08:56:26 · answer #4 · answered by cunnitr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he isn't cheating on you yet, but why is he looking?
Posting a profile on a dating web site is akin to going to a bar w/o wedding band and "seeing what happens".
There is also the curiosity factor to find who else you might know is running an ad - but then the two of you should be looking at the ads together. If he is trying to keep a secret from you, then you should be worried.
2007-10-02 08:27:56 · answer #5 · answered by Fester Frump 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Chis honey I would not be worried. I would be FURIOUS! He is degrading and disrespecting you. If he is thinking about other woman it is cheating.
I caught my husband doing that so I created a profile on one of his websites, with a fake pic, and I talked to him for about 3 weeks. I aranged to meet him and took a friends car he did not know well. When he walked up and I was sitting there with all the emails and IM's we had done he went white. I had him dead to rights. I am single now and his new wife can put up with that crap I have more self respect than to be the one.
Good Luck and stop being his puppet.
2007-10-02 08:26:17 · answer #6 · answered by soulmate_n_nc 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
TEST IT!!
When he's not around, set up a profile as some big-chested long-haired blonde or whatever he's into. Find his profile and send him an "e- drink" or whatever they call it now. Send messages, etc. See how far he would go... You could even work the im'ing by going to WiFi at StarBucks while he's at home.
Heck, wouldn't it be a "shame" if all he talks about to other women if how wonderful you are?
2007-10-04 05:08:06 · answer #7 · answered by captn_carrot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL..."for fun" huh? Seems like an awful lot of effort being put forth 'for fun'. In addition.....it shows he's underhanded and a liar. If he's doing this to innocent females and complete strangers just think of how he's lying to you with a straight face. Apparently he's getting away with it too because you're here asking. that only means you won't confront and he knows it.
So don't be stupid. He isn't doing it for 'fun'. there's a method to the madness and you don't figure into his equation.
Can't put it any more bluntly than that. Hey...what's his name there and what sites. Maybe all of us here will go there and post info that he's a lying, cheating bastard. that'll help.
2007-10-02 08:26:48 · answer #8 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he's not cheating or even looking to cheat....but he def likes flirting wit the idea...he is feeding his ego to see if he could really get some new booty if he wanted and what kind of woman would want him. I don' t think u should be ok with it because mental cheating is a small form of cheating, but while all or at least most married couples sometimes stray mentally, none would approve of what your guy is doing. He is taking it a step to far.
2007-10-02 08:24:12 · answer #9 · answered by Espy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Holy crap, I felt like I was reading something I would of wrote a while back. My husband did the same thing and when I confronted him it was always, "just doing it for fun". He finally quit doing it, cause I didn't like it and I told him for fun or not, your just setting yourself up to be tempted. Tell him you don't like it and it bothers you and makes you not know if you should trust him or not. If he really loves you, he will quit. Good luck.
2007-10-02 08:48:46 · answer #10 · answered by Perkymo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like something about it seems wrong then it is. It's something called female intuition. There is no reason a married man or man in a relationship should be on dating sites, especially as a single man. That is sooo wrong. I would freak out on my boyfriend for doing some dumb sh*t like that.
2007-10-02 09:12:16 · answer #11 · answered by California Kush 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋